please can I get advice. I have no friends or no one I can turn to for help. and I'm embarrassed to tell people anything about how I feel.
my bf disrespected me with another girl.(no physical sex that I know of but I wouldn't be surprised, a girl that liked him he took her out for her birthday spent money on her did stuff and he barely knows her, she sent him multiple green lights I didn't like it or appreciate it and he should of put her in his place as a man In a committed relationship but he didn't we had many convos about it and he would reassure me but then he did this. I snooped around and found it out then broke up with him the day it happened and cut contact , blocked him off everywhere and did the no contact rule so I can get over him. he called me on private number I didn't answer a week after then a month goes by and he calls multiple times.
I then answer we speak, he obviously apologises ,regrets everything. I say we are never getting back and we speak for hours. he's been calling me none stop for 2 weeks I pick up sometimes however I cannot be in a relationship with a man that hurt me. anyways a week ago he told me to unblock him at least I said ill think about it. we spoke yesterday for 6 hours, he said he was suffering with guilt of what he did etc and if I can unblock him. he said cheeky that he would get me a gift if I did ( he knows I love gifts) I laughed and said what gift but then I said no anyways he spoke more and I unblocked him and he sent me £500 to my account to buy myself something. ( I think its all the guilt )
anyways , its made me get a headache that unblocked him and now he has access to me and can send me messages.
he said multiple times he don't want bad blood with me because everything we been through, he doesn't want me to hate him ( because I said I do), he wants me to forgive him. he said to allow him to prove himself so I can forgive him for what he did. he wants to make it up to me , I said straight away there's no point in that because I will never get back In a relationship with him. he said if we don't get into a relationship he's fine with that ( but I don't think he is) he said he's not letting me go I didn't say anything.
DID I MAKE A CIVIL DECISION BY UNBLOCKING HIM? (BTW I do think the 30 day no contact helped me a lot because I feel stronger and like I'm getting over him ) however now he's unblocking and calling and messaging me and has access to me will this interfere in my healing process. I did tell him I don't want his phonecalls to be a frequent thing!
I want him to still feel guilty for what he did but did unblocking him make him happy and not feel guilty anymore?
I'm stressed out because now I unblocked him he's going to try everyday to get me back , I don't want to get back with him because he hurt me. as much as I love him I can't put myself in this position again with another man. I've done it in the past with other men.