hi guys,
im anon just because i feel so pathetic rn and need to get this out of my system, so i can get some clarity. basically today was my first outing at university, and i feel so drained. the girls i was with were all so fun and mingling and talking with each other, whereas i was just always quiet and left out. honestly, i leave myself out.
its so silly. it feels like i always want someone to ask me questions and then, i'll respond or like im a little child who needs someone by their side for them to open up. im so ****ing disappointed at myself and angry as to why i do this.
honestly, it always been like that with me. whether that was school or work or literally anywhere, im always the one who never speaks much, and is very quiet. they must be thinking im so child-like, and shy and just not mature, and a bore. growing up i was always the quietest person and the most isolated one. i didnt ever have many friends, not because i didnt want to, but just idk why. for the context, im from an ethnic minority group and was always the only one looking 'different' in the class and that made me feel so estranged, and made me have this concept of me vs them. i now know that its not about how i look or where i come from, because lots of girls from my background are completely fine. i just dont know why i cant do it.
i also am a very boring person, i dont have any exciting interests or obsessions to talk about, like the latest tech or tv show or songs. and i dont know what to talk about. im also older than them all, i know all these things dont matter, but i dont ****ing know how to act like a sociable person.
i dont even know why im writing this here, but has anyone ever felt that way? and are there any tips on how to overcome it?