(maybe a little long as it's just a rant honestly. also, when i say "they" or "my parents" i'm mostly just referring to my dad)
I am a 17 year old girl doing my a-levels and sometimes I feel like my parents are too involved in my life.
Honestly that probably sounds normal, I'm not yet an adult and I still live with them but in some instances I feel like they cross boundaries they really shouldn't. They can take academics very seriously, mostly because we're a first generation family. In year 10, for example, I had gotten a grade 5 in my english assessment. I can obviously understand why they'd be upset since I'd never gotten below a 7. They decided the best plan of action was to remove me from anything I enjoyed. Meaning I wasn't allowed out the house to visit friends and go out or use my phone/tv or even read a fictional book. The toll it took on my mental health was probably awful, but I didn't even think about my psychological well-being at all. This lasted from December 2018 to June 2019. I spent (was forced to spend ) all that time doing only english papers, reading textbooks and watching youtube videos on the computer in the main living room so I could be seen. When I was finally let loose, it was bitter-sweet, because the freedom I received was nulled again when I had to prepare for year 11 and all my gcse subjects that had been "forgotten". I pulled through though, and got mostly 8s and 9s in the mock that determined teacher-assessed grades in the 2020 lockdown. The lockdown that occurred in january 2021 was awful. The same story started up again, but this time I couldn't go to school to speak to my friends, who I weren't close with anyway since I'd moved to a new college. It felt like a cage, to be fair, with just books and questions and online lessons but nothing else whatsoever. And yet during all this time, my parents didn't hold back any snide remarks, saying I "wasn't doing any work at all" and that I "would fail if I kept going at this rate"and so on and so forth. I was set free again in the 6 week holiday, and obviously i tried to find time to do anything but work. I did have to, however, since i planned to sit the ucat (which went moderately ok) but because my parents didn't pay much attention to it, they blamed the "moderately ok" score on me and my incapability to study for anything. That I don't care "at all" apparently and that my heart might as well be as good as dead. All of this, and I can still get into a med school if i get the grades. For the three days until school started I felt like absolute sh*t of course, having to just listen to what they have to say.
Now that's just the education side of things.
I turned 17 a little over a month ago and I decided I wanted to be treated like one. I asked to study for my driving license and they denied. I asked to be able to actually USE the bank card that belongs to ME and they said no. I asked for a side-job to pay for my own things instead of asking them for everything when they would deny me anyway and that angered them the most. I'm not allowed to move out unless the university I get into is too far from home. I feel like I have no control over myself at all.
tbh i don't really no how to end this, i just wanted someone to hear my situtation and tell me maybe i'm not a little loopy.