Is dating much harder for average guys compared to average women?

If you spent 2-3 days listening to the divorcing heterosexual couples I see at work and watching their body language, you'd soon start pondering:

1) whether those divorcing women actually could have attracted a richer guy willing to marry them or if they were just incredibly lucky to find one idiot with more cash/real estate/other inherited assets than brains,
and
2) reassessing whether every girl you've ever dated or hooked up with secretly held a similar entitled attitude but took the trouble to flawlessly disguise it during the relationship.

That investigator clearly did his PhD in Statistics, a true role model to us all

As any dictator should Seriously though your comments are always gold :P


You can also go on YouTube and find videos of ducks playing the drums that have millions of views: YouTube viewer statistics are no basis for a sound argument. Just because I watch a video of some random Peking playing the drums for a few minutes, that doesn't mean I want to slam my **** into some labyrinthine duck ***** now does it?

Anyway, personally I think if you rely on the paradigm of the colosseum of a bunch of guys fighting over a girl, i.e. through dating apps/pubs/bars, then you're obviously going to find a bias favouring the girls. As the best dictator on TSR said, it's a who's-who of thirsty young men fencing each-other with their erections, hoping that one of them will come out on top to claim their prize. If you don't rely on the meat-flute colosseum, and instead look to the case of friends hooking friends up with each-other, workplace hook-ups, that kind of thing, you'll find a different story. Edit: I have the phrase. LAD CULTURE!

This "bias," imo, likely doesn't apply to men who don't associate themselves with the phrase "be on point with game." My own anecdotal evidence to that is that my ex and my current partner were both introduced to me by friends, and clearly this must mean that the bias is favourable to men not women, as I have had two, and they have both only had one! All men must be equal after all, right?

You can also go on YouTube and find videos of ducks playing the drums that have millions of views: YouTube viewer statistics are no basis for a sound argument. Just because I watch a video of some random Peking playing the drums for a few minutes, that doesn't mean I want to slam my **** into some labyrinthine duck ***** now does it?

Anyway, personally I think if you rely on the paradigm of the colosseum of a bunch of guys fighting over a girl, i.e. through dating apps/pubs/bars, then you're obviously going to find a bias favouring the girls. As the best dictator on TSR said, it's a who's-who of thirsty young men fencing each-other with their erections, hoping that one of them will come out on top to claim their prize. If you don't rely on the meat-flute colosseum, and instead look to the case of friends hooking friends up with each-other, workplace hook-ups, that kind of thing, you'll find a different story. Edit: I have the phrase. LAD CULTURE!

This "bias," imo, likely doesn't apply to men who don't associate themselves with the phrase "be on point with game." My own anecdotal evidence to that is that my ex and my current partner were both introduced to me by friends, and clearly this must mean that the bias is favourable to men not women, as I have had two, and they have both only had one! All men must be equal after all, right?

It is nothing to do with trophies or winning or whatever. The fact is that plenty of men don’t even get a first date despite asking a broad range of women out.

You ever heard of Hypergamy?
Majority of women will exercise that, its literally BUILT in their DNA to find the best they can lock down.
Its not about disguising to finally be with some celebrity. It just sort of happens...

Women think emotionally first instead of logic, the opposite tends to be true for guys.
Guys will think ''Oh 10 years we were together, all the time/money/energy put into her why would she leave me?''
Meanwhile on her side, she decided she had her fun and the course has run dry and wants to move on to a newer guy, despite not giving 2 Fs about how long and commited her previous guy was towards her...

Hell theres countless examples of women cheating on their husbands with some guy that is high in social status (Money/connections etc , etc) that is hypergamy strictly at play, not saying all women do that, but a lot will if given the chance.

Just take Drake for example and the 8 year relationship he destroyed because some dudes wife was hypergamous and fcked the rapper when given the chance > That hypergamy, she didn't plan that out, it was spontaneous, in her DNA...

Also explains why marriage and birth rates is an all time low in the West, men are waking up to this BS everyday, espicially with feminism playing a HUGE role in all this, sexual exploration means women are more promoscious then ever before. They can exercise not commiting to guys and leaving their partners whenever the hint of the relationship being difficult, Poof gone, because they can....

No one is saying they are trophies but there are plenty of men who get nothing but rejections despite asking a large number of women. That’s not comparable to the average woman who will get a date if they ask the same number of men.

I think people (particularly men in my experience) have a different view of what asking is. For example, if a random guys comes up to me and then very quickly asks me out then I’ll say no because that’s very quick, a bit off putting and I have no idea who this person is. That is what most men do when they ask me out.

People are more likely to get relationships if they put work into getting to know a women because they like her instead of asking a bunch of women out.

Yes, I've heard of hypergamy.

I am one of the heterosexual females with a very long list of dating dealbreakers, high rejection rate and habit of walking out on bf's whenever I realise that I've been dating a sexually incompatible male or am in a relationship with guy incompatible with my other dealbreakers/ambitions/lifestyle preferences.
Nothing to do with feminism, I am not a feminist and avoid dating guys that are.
Plenty to do with compatibility and personal ambitions.

C. Modern day dating stats PROVE that men have it harder, the sexlessness rate for guys has tripled to almost 30% (No sex past year) compared to women, and most is not by choice either...

Also explains why marriage and birth rates is an all time low in the West, men are waking up to this BS everyday, espicially with feminism playing a HUGE role in all this, sexual exploration means women are more promoscious then ever before. They can exercise not commiting to guys and leaving their partners whenever the hint of the relationship being difficult, Poof gone, because they can....

Plenty of men (including myself and many of my friends) try this and then get told they just want to be friends. This isn’t just once or a few times, it happens over and over over years.

So 70% of men are getting laid? It is really that hard to be in the 70%?



Women are more promiscuous than ever and some men still can't find someone to sleep with or date? Come on. This summer has been an absolute wild one for single people once covid restrictions were lifted.


By your own statistics, the majority of men are having sex. The bar is very low. This issue is not society, women, feminism or whatever other external factor men who struggle with women want to blame. The minority of men who struggle need to stop making excuses for themselves (not least because such self-pity is a really unattractive trait) and take responsibility for their situation.

Put yourself in the 70%.

Plenty of men (including myself and many of my friends) try this and then get told they just want to be friends. This isn’t just once or a few times, it happens over and over over years.

Yes. That’s probably because the women aren’t interested. I don’t have many dealbreakers but the ones I have are pretty major as they relate to the lifestyle I want in the future. I know that if people aren’t on board with that then that’s going to create problems years down the line. I have lots of friends both men and women and I haven’t ever wanted to date any of them.

If there’s nothing there then there’s nothing to be done about it.

I think what bothers me personally is that people put such a weight on relationships. It might be because I’m a really career driven person but my attitude is (and this is similar to a lot of people studying on the course with me) if it happens it happens but I have other higher priorities and I don’t need a relationship.

So if I find someone I like I’ll go for it. If not I really don’t care so will reject most people

So 70% of men are getting laid? It is really that hard to be in the 70%?



Women are more promiscuous than ever and some men still can't find someone to sleep with or date? Come on. This summer has been an absolute wild one for single people once covid restrictions were lifted.


By your own statistics, the majority of men are having sex. The bar is very low. This issue is not society, women, feminism or whatever other external factor men who struggle with women want to blame. The minority of men who struggle need to stop making excuses for themselves (not least because such self-pity is a really unattractive trait) and take responsibility for their situation.

Put yourself in the 70%.

Well then that’s fine. It’s everyone’s personal choice what they want or don’t want.

But if many women are like you, then that’s probably why many men struggle so much. Generally men are happier in relationships. Women are happier alone.

Seems like you have flipped the statisctics completely and have no idea what your talking about.

80% of women are geting laid with 20% of the top men, meaning only the higher top guys are getting most of the action.
So instead of 70% its 20% darling... yeah talk about having your **** together more then ever as a dude...

This issue is not society, women, feminism
Actually... it is, its been proven when society becomes advanced the population decreases, women no longer need to find a partner to survive since society has reached a point where everyone is realistcally self-sufficient. Look Japan, Look at Western Europe...

Heres a graph of a well known study.

https://features.inside.com/content/images/2021/03/young-men.png

Thats having no sex in a year, sure 70% of men are getting laid compared to 82% of women still, but im willing to bet my top dollar not as much/often as women. The Tinder/ Instagram experiments show that to..
One guy managing to get laid once a year, compared to a women that does it multiple times a month with different guys shows the 80/20 %... (Top guys bagging majority of women)

I think people (particularly men in my experience) have a different view of what asking is. For example, if a random guys comes up to me and then very quickly asks me out then I’ll say no because that’s very quick, a bit off putting and I have no idea who this person is. That is what most men do when they ask me out.

People are more likely to get relationships if they put work into getting to know a women because they like her instead of asking a bunch of women out.

It is nothing to do with trophies or winning or whatever. The fact is that plenty of men don’t even get a first date despite asking a broad range of women out.