attracting unambitious guys

Maybe you aren’t as attractive as you think.

It could be that you are spending too much time around the wrong type of guys that don't share your ambitions and lifestyle preferences.
Or you have been unlucky enough to attract the attention of a few lazy or spoilt guys with little incentive and half of their likeminded mates have decided to try their luck with you.

Where are you meeting all these guys?
How much time do you spend around ambitious, educated guys who live alone or in a houseshare with other professionals?
What type of hobbies and dealbreakers do you have?

You tend to attract what/who you are

Your spelling and grammar do not convince me that you have two degrees.
Unambitious men are betas though. Find one that wishes to rid the world of Western Imperialism instead

Your spelling and grammar do not convince me that you have two degrees.
Unambitious men are betas though. Find one that wishes to rid the world of Western Imperialism instead

Go to places where you'll find young professionals, not shop assistants who live with their parents.

Go to places where you'll find young professionals, not shop assistants who live with their parents.

You say that you're active, ambitious, and that you have two degrees - but are you well-rounded? Being interesting, considerate, and the ability to entertain and carry a conversation will often take you further in relationships than someone who is only book smart.

Mostly online tbh. I'm pretty isolated so don't spend time around many people but my family are mostly unemployed and have a limited lifestyle, i've tried to not end up the same but maybe people just view me as that way too. i have mostly lived alone when not with family but should probably be around more of these people you're right. Bet if i had an active social life with likeminded people others would consider me more like that ?

Like this user says? I get a lot of imposter syndrome too, people say they're impressed with the stuff i've done but i feel like i'll never succeed and the people around me are always like my family background which i'm trying to get away from and it's not easy to be acceptted somewhere else

I don't believe ambitious people spend most of their time online, first of all. Unless it's their job for whatever reason.

I also think your mind is defaulting to what it finds 'comfortable'. You probably find it comfortable to be with unambitious guys and people, because you were raised among people like that. People often seek to (subconsciously) recreate the kinds of relationships they had early in life, in their adulthood. Because it is familiar, and therefore 'comfortable'. Even if in some instances those relationships are very toxic. I'm not saying the "toxic" aspect is the case for you, just that was feels 'comfortable' and what is good/healthy are not the same.

There's a more sinister theory, that you might feel more 'comfortable' around such types, because it makes you feel like you are better than they are, and so helps you cover up your insecurities in respect of your impostor syndrome. Be your own judge if this is the case or not.

I don't believe ambitious people spend most of their time online, first of all. Unless it's their job for whatever reason.

I also think your mind is defaulting to what it finds 'comfortable'. You probably find it comfortable to be with unambitious guys and people, because you were raised among people like that. People often seek to (subconsciously) recreate the kinds of relationships they had early in life, in their adulthood. Because it is familiar, and therefore 'comfortable'. Even if in some instances those relationships are very toxic. I'm not saying the "toxic" aspect is the case for you, just that was feels 'comfortable' and what is good/healthy are not the same.

There's a more sinister theory, that you might feel more 'comfortable' around such types, because it makes you feel like you are better than they are, and so helps you cover up your insecurities in respect of your impostor syndrome. Be your own judge if this is the case or not.