Running away from parents

I am sorry to hear you are facing these kinds of issues at your age.

Please contact domestic abuse charities, speak to your GP they have online forms now and they will call you back but if it's urgent I suggest contacting them, contact the council they are the best people regarding housing etc especially because of your age, there will be asylum seekers or immigration charities too search them and put your area to find them..

Put yourself first then your siblings. If you make a concern known then your siblings will be looked into by social services . You need to take this step for their bright future as they are going to through key education stages like GCSE and Alevels to shape their future..

Being very frank and honest you can't do this on your own without support from charities, local authority or the police. I agree you need to find a job but remember your 18 and do you have any work experience?

What about speaking with the private company you are doing A levels with?

You need to somehow make contact with them. There is confidentiality too so speak to them about that such as email, telephone some (numbers are free). How about going to the library to send the emails or calls??? Library may help you too.

Rent is hard and you don't want to end up in financial difficulty.

I haven't actually decided where to sit my A Levels yet as several factors come into play (such as cost and location), although I have a couple of places in mind. I don't think it would be a private company, most likely an ordinary sixth-form college, possibly my original centre.

Being very frank and honest you can't do this on your own without support from charities, local authority or the police. I agree you need to find a job but remember your 18 and do you have any work experience?

What about speaking with the private company you are doing A levels with?

You need to somehow make contact with them. There is confidentiality too so speak to them about that such as email, telephone some (numbers are free). How about going to the library to send the emails or calls??? Library may help you too.

Rent is hard and you don't want to end up in financial difficulty.

Hello everyone,

I am an eighteen-year-old school leaver. I would rather not go into gritty details, but I have been a victim of severe physical, verbal and psychological abuse since childhood. The sustained abusive control engineered by my NParents led me to develop severe MDD and GAD. I don't actually recall the last time I had a regular day; it was so long ago. NMother and NFather's incessant gaslighting and tyranny has pushed me to the brink. I'm not even allowed to see a psychologist, and the little medication I've been prescribed has been a write-off, to say the least.

My sole concern is abandoning my younger siblings (15M and 12F) to this hellish environment. Traumatic bonds which have long faded in my case (or possibly never truly existed) are still in full force for them. It is at once incredibly difficult and disappointingly simple to understand. (When I was GCBrother's age, I was somewhat depressed, but didn't particularly see anything wrong either.) There's nothing I can do for them right now though.

Returning to the point at hand: I shall have to scrub this place from my mind before it scrubs me off the face of the earth. This is likely to consist of getting a job, saving up funds, securing accomodation and packing my dearest effects incrementally, so as not to arouse suspicion. To my knowledge, a lease on an apartment requires 12/13 weeks worth of rent (tenancy deposit, plus two months' rent in advance). However, I have heard that a poor credit score can lead to as much as six months' rent being demanded in advance. I don't even have a personal credit card, although I have a U19 account superintended by my parents.

That aside, the set of bills and utilities includes Council Tax (~£70 pm), water and gas (~£50 pm), broadband (~£30 pm), as well as the electric bill (which I would prefer to be included in the rent). I'd also budget ~£300 pm for groceries, although that's likely an overestimate. Throwing in other fixed costs would likely add ~£35 pm. I presume I'd need around £100 to boot (for household essentials), although I haven't yet confirmed this. On the whole, that's an outlay of just under £600 pm minus rent (at least initially).

I had planned to amass some savings for at most a couple of months, and then leave. However, it has quickly become obvious that this isn't an option. All I need is a little studio flat, preferably with a separate living room, in Zones 1-3, near the centre of London and well away from my parents (I live in Essex), which would also theoretically facilitate finding a decent job. I surmise that this would cost £600-£700 pcm. I very much doubt that I would be able to flatshare.

All of this is complicated by my being an immigrant, having moved here 11 odd years ago. Throughout this time, my parents have controlled all of my personal documents and they almost never discuss immigration, so I have had to deduce these things on my own. I figured, and I may well be wrong, that I'd need my passport & visa, NINo and biometric residence permit (BRP), since I ostensibly have limited leave to remain. I don't have the BRP at present (still looking), but I've managed to secure all of the others. Unfortunately, my passport and visa expired years ago ("cancelled without prejudice") ... so I would appear to be stateless. I don't have an inkling of whether I would be eligible for any welfare benefits (according to the web, you need at least ILR, but I did some digging and saw my parents applied for child benefits and CT reduction/housing benefits, so there may be exceptions).

I've also taken a year out to sit three A Levels privately next summer; all of this essentially condemned my CAGs, which I never wanted in the first instance. I'm not certain how this would factor into things, if at all. Could anyone help, please? I attempted to contact Citizens Advice but their chat appears to be broken.

If you do opt to go mainstream college then they do have a duty to inform the govt you are attending as they get paid for each student who attends. So I suggest you speak to the teachers there too about this whole issue.

What about Home Office wouldn't they be the best to advise you???

All I need is a little studio flat, preferably with a separate living room, in Zones 1-3, near the centre of London and well away from my parents (I live in Essex), which would also theoretically facilitate finding a decent job. I surmise that this would cost £600-£700 pcm. I very much doubt that I would be able to flatshare.

My only advice would be to adjust your expectations and consider moving somewhere affordable (i.e. not London, or certainly not zones 1-3) and to reconsider your views on flat sharing. As an 18-year-old with no qualifications, you will not be able to find a job that pays well enough for you to be able to afford to live on your own in the centre of London. Move up north, share with people for a while so you can save up some money and when you are in a better financial position, then consider moving where you want to live.

Good luck.