Love or lust?

What's love or lust got to do with anything you just described?

He's obviously not in love with you after one date nor has he done anything that suggests lust. Just sounds like the guy is interested in a relationship and is asking all the right questions. Are you in love or in lust with him?

One step at a time. Suggest a 2nd date

Yes, he's interested in a relationship. Sounds like he's getting a bit ahead of himself if you hadn't spoken much before that first date. Take your time and go at a pace that suits you.

Ahead of himself means???
He stressed out the break during Christmas three times so I'm assuming he wants us together in a secluded cottage during that time. So if we plan a second date, how to go about it with telling him that I like him or get him to tell me that we can start something ?

Ahead of himself means???

That he's thinking about things in the future when he's just at the early stages in real life.

Just going on a second date is enough to let him know you're interested, but stuff like smiling and complimenting him on his strengths will help him know you like him. You can also just say directly if you like. You both sound a bit new to this so I'd say just relax and enjoy time together.

I think that kind of thing just happens naturally, really. And I don't think at this stage you should be jumping to any conclusions as to how he wants to spend his Christmas break. Just take things at your own pace and see where they go - ideas will be suggested and if you're both up for them, they'll happen. On the other hand, if you're not comfortable with something, say it then and there, but don't start worrying about what could happen at such an early juncture. Things will sort themselves out if you and this guy do find that you want to be together.

You'll only really know if you date him more. Best thing to do is just to ask him what he wants. You need to lay everything out on the table when you're dating. Honesty is key.

But he clearly seems to want something before Christmas???? Hence the cottage idea????

But at this stage you both seem a bit hesitant about anything more than an awkward hug. Why would either of you be thinking about cottages over Christmas at this stage? The next step is surely to get to know each other better. You can do that as fast or as slow as you like, but the more honest and open you are with each other the quicker that will happen.

How to ask?????