Guys

What should I do?

Stop being shy or the hot girl's friend and tell them you're not their sister.

All the guys I know see me as a little sister. I’ve always been the nice one of my friends and the one everyone goes to for advice but no guys treat me like I’m a girl just like ‘one of the guys’ or the hot girls friend. I’m shy and don’t really put myself out there. What should I do?

We’ve kinda stopped talking as much but i’m not gonna stop talking to her because a boy and being shy is part of my personality being confrontational makes me anxious
Thnx for the advice but I don’t see that happening or working any time soon

I feel like this post requires more context. Especially the part in bold as it could suggest that they’re using you to get worthwhile advice.

Sorry I should’ve made it more clear it’s both girls and guys who ask me for advice and not just about relationships but about things in general

All the guys I know see me as a little sister. I’ve always been the nice one of my friends and the one everyone goes to for advice but no guys treat me like I’m a girl just like ‘one of the guys’ or the hot girls friend. I’m shy and don’t really put myself out there. What should I do?

That’s not what I meant when I said that context was required. I meant that do they only approach you for advice? Do they communicate with you on a regular basis or not?

Either way, the general point is that you shouldn’t have to change yourself for others. If you feel like your friends don’t appreciate you being you, I guess it’s time to look elsewhere…

Thing is, most groups form a natural dynamic. If you look at most groups of people, you'll probably find that they've all got very different personality types... but they all bring something valuable and unique to the group.

For example, I'm not sure if you've ever seen the 1990's sitcom F.R.I.E.N.D.S, but the 6 characters (3 guys and 3 girls) all have completely different personalities and characters... yet, they still had a very strong unbreakable bond, and I don't think they would survive without any of them. You had the geeky one (Ross); the good looking but "simple" ones (Joey & Rachel); the quirky / flaky one (Phoebe) ; the organised one (Monica) and the career one (Chandler) . This dynamic was also emphasised a bit more recently in the teen drama Skins in the 2000'-2010's.

Based on the above, chances are that's your role in your group... and TBH, it's a pretty good place to be IMHO (it's better than being "the fall guy", who everybody laughs at and takes the p*** out of) . However, if you really want to try and change your persona, you can try dressing up or acting in a different way (I don't want to give specific suggestions), and chances are at least one of them will pick up on it... (and you never know where that may lead )

TY that’s great advice but I don’t really want to change my persons for a guy I want someone who likes me for me

In that case, you need to work on your shyness and self confidence, and be a bit more vocal in your group.

Try making your presence and opinions known in more general discussions, speak up a bit more and don't be afraid of being wrong / silly from time to time. Could even try instigating a few things / events? It's Christmas time now, so there's opportunities to think of something now. I'm not taking about changing who you are, just projecting yourself a bit more.,, think of it like a marketing / advertising exercise.

"Be yourself... and assert yourself"

Thnx I’ll try I just don’t seem very good at it unless I’m comfortable