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Older and sexually inexperienced

What could go wrong?

I'm in my early 30s and sexually experienced. I'm seeing a guy who is also sexually experienced. I think I might want to take things to the next level, but worried about what could go wrong. Also worried that he might be gay hence the lack of sexual experience, which would be a bigger disappointment should we try to take things to the next level.

I'm worried I could cause myself shame if I open myself up.

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Umm wtf, is the question
It didn’t make any sense
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Original post by Ax Sleepy
Umm wtf, is the question
It didn’t make any sense

How does one deal with inexperience.
So you're both experienced.
You're dating.
You think he's gay? Why is he dating you then?
Why do you sound inexperienced? Ngl there must be a typo in the OP
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Original post by Ax Sleepy
Umm wtf, is the question
It didn’t make any sense

****ed my brain
Original post by Anonymous
What could go wrong?

I'm in my early 30s and sexually experienced. I'm seeing a guy who is also sexually experienced. I think I might want to take things to the next level, but worried about what could go wrong. Also worried that he might be gay hence the lack of sexual experience, which would be a bigger disappointment should we try to take things to the next level.

I'm worried I could cause myself shame if I open myself up.

you said that he's experienced but then you said that he lacks experience? why do you think he's gay?
Original post by summerbirdreads
****ed my brain

Prolly has more experience ****ing ur brain than actually ****ing a Hooman 😁
Original post by Anonymous
How does one deal with inexperience.


By gaining experience, of course.

If they guys is dating you, why do you think he is gay?!
Original post by Ax Sleepy
Prolly has more experience ****ing ur brain than actually ****ing a Hooman 😁

I'm dead.. :rofl:
Original post by summerbirdreads
I'm dead.. :rofl:

:biggrin:
Hru
Original post by KA_P
So you're both experienced.
You're dating.
You think he's gay? Why is he dating you then?
Why do you sound inexperienced? Ngl there must be a typo in the OP

You are right. It was a typo! I meant he is inexperienced.

I've never slept with anyone. Only done kissing.

I wonder if he's gay because he's never had a girlfriend.
Original post by black tea
By gaining experience, of course.

If they guys is dating you, why do you think he is gay?!

Because he's never had a girlfriend
Original post by Anonymous
You are right. It was a typo! I meant he is inexperienced.

I've never slept with anyone. Only done kissing.

I wonder if he's gay because he's never had a girlfriend.

He is inexperienced
However you’ve never slept with anyone ? 🤨 doesn’t that also make u inexperienced?

Has he had a boyfriend
Original post by Anonymous
Because he's never had a girlfriend

But you are female (I'm assuming) and he is dating you? Why would he date a female if he is gay? And if you've never had a boyfriend, does that make you gay?
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Original post by Anonymous
You are right. It was a typo! I meant he is inexperienced.

I've never slept with anyone. Only done kissing.

I wonder if he's gay because he's never had a girlfriend.


Could you edit the OP?
Are you both inexperienced?
Just bc someone hasn't had a girlfriend does not mean they are gay. Don't label someone without knowing the facts.
Are you in a relationship?
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Original post by KA_P
Could you edit the OP?
Are you both inexperienced?
Just bc someone hasn't had a girlfriend does not mean they are gay. Don't label someone without knowing the facts.
Are you in a relationship?

No it's not possible to edit the OP. I'll update it in the next post though.

Yes both inexperienced.

We have just been on a few dates that's all.
Original post by Anonymous
No it's not possible to edit the OP. I'll update it in the next post though.

Yes both inexperienced.

We have just been on a few dates that's all.

Communication is key in a relationship. Better to talk to him.
Gonna guess a typo and you mean you’re both inexperienced

Just run with it, you’ll both be on the same page and not know what you’re doing so enjoy it. Communication is key

Why you worried he’s gay? If he’s with you, I’m sure it’s not the case. But if stil not sure, then talk to him and explain how you feel, thoughts, concerns

You’ll be more ashamed if you don’t say something now, and let’s things go on and he turns out to be gay or if there’s something else gojng on rather than just being open and honest.

If you can’t trust him enough to be open and honest about this, then probs not the right guy
Original post by Anonymous
What could go wrong?

I'm in my early 30s and sexually experienced. I'm seeing a guy who is also sexually experienced. I think I might want to take things to the next level, but worried about what could go wrong. Also worried that he might be gay hence the lack of sexual experience, which would be a bigger disappointment should we try to take things to the next level.

I'm worried I could cause myself shame if I open myself up.



Don’t think too hard about it. Listen to your body and natural instincts.


Spoiler

If you think he’s gay because he’s never had sex with a woman, by your own logic, wouldn’t that make you a lesbian?

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