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Hi! I am 18 (female) and as you can probs tell I am still a virgin. I am currently in a bit of a situtionship with a guy and we have been talking abt taking things further. But I am kinda worried I will regret it because (1) we aren't in a relationship and (2) he doesn't know what he wants from this. I have I asked if he wanted the relationship to be purely sex but he said he doesn't know. I wanted to get some advice abt losing it and regret people have had or things I should avoid. I am not so much worried abt how it will feel the first time but the person I loose it to because it is a big deal for me. I am not sure if I should even make it even this big of a deal and I worry I might be over thinking everything.
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Hello! I don’t think you’re overthinking at all.. I think this comes down to what sex means to you vs what sex means to him. There’s no right or wrong way to feel about sex as long as you’re safe, respect yourself and are happy to have or to not have it! I would say if this person is not clear on what they expect/ want from this relationship then it might be a sign for you to be even more clear about what you want. Losing your virginity doesn’t have to be a massive deal.. but if you have any doubts about how you may feel after, how comfortable you would be with this person and if you would enjoy it then it might be a good opportunity to think considerably about how you feel about sex/ sexual partners. You have mentioned it is a big deal for you - I was exactly the same and waited until I was 23 which in this day and age is a bit odd haha.. but I have zero regrets waiting and am thankful I did but it aligned with my values about sex. Sorry such a rant I’ve went on!! Basically - there’s no right or wrong way, resort yourself and understand your own values/ideas about sex before jumping in with both feet! Best of luck to you xx
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Hello! I don’t think you’re overthinking at all.. I think this comes down to what sex means to you vs what sex means to him. There’s no right or wrong way to feel about sex as long as you’re safe, respect yourself and are happy to have or to not have it! I would say if this person is not clear on what they expect/ want from this relationship then it might be a sign for you to be even more clear about what you want. Losing your virginity doesn’t have to be a massive deal.. but if you have any doubts about how you may feel after, how comfortable you would be with this person and if you would enjoy it then it might be a good opportunity to think considerably about how you feel about sex/ sexual partners. You have mentioned it is a big deal for you - I was exactly the same and waited until I was 23 which in this day and age is a bit odd haha.. but I have zero regrets waiting and am thankful I did but it aligned with my values about sex. Sorry such a rant I’ve went on!! Basically - there’s no right or wrong way, resort yourself and understand your own values/ideas about sex before jumping in with both feet! Best of luck to you xx
Hello! I don’t think you’re overthinking at all.. I think this comes down to what sex means to you vs what sex means to him. There’s no right or wrong way to feel about sex as long as you’re safe, respect yourself and are happy to have or to not have it! I would say if this person is not clear on what they expect/ want from this relationship then it might be a sign for you to be even more clear about what you want. Losing your virginity doesn’t have to be a massive deal.. but if you have any doubts about how you may feel after, how comfortable you would be with this person and if you would enjoy it then it might be a good opportunity to think considerably about how you feel about sex/ sexual partners. You have mentioned it is a big deal for you - I was exactly the same and waited until I was 23 which in this day and age is a bit odd haha.. but I have zero regrets waiting and am thankful I did but it aligned with my values about sex. Sorry such a rant I’ve went on!! Basically - there’s no right or wrong way, resort yourself and understand your own values/ideas about sex before jumping in with both feet! Best of luck to you xx
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You will know when the time is right - the fact OP is asking suggests not. Take your time and don't rush.
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can I ask, when you lost it did you feel like nervous when you were loosing it. I feel like if I lost it to this person in the moment I would still be like is this the right decision? Was it a hard decision to make to loose when the time came or was it quite comfortable to come to that conclusion ?
can I ask, when you lost it did you feel like nervous when you were loosing it. I feel like if I lost it to this person in the moment I would still be like is this the right decision? Was it a hard decision to make to loose when the time came or was it quite comfortable to come to that conclusion ?
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You will know when the time is right - the fact OP is asking suggests not. Take your time and don't rush.
You will know when the time is right - the fact OP is asking suggests not. Take your time and don't rush.
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