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Bro chill it's a harmless question no need to be rude
On which site or app? :confused:
In which continent or country?
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Original post by londonmyst
On which site or app? :confused:
In which continent or country?

Uk
are you anon 1?
Original post by hungrysalamander
@concernedLMAO are you anon 1?


I was thinking the same but then they didn’t write “discuss” as their first post 😭
Original post by Anonymous
Uk

It depends on the app, website and often local uk region.

When looking for hookups and casual dating on tinder, probably the girls.
Within the unification church or their affiliated businesses & other groups, the east asian guys.
For serious daters and those seeking marriage introductions to those of very similar backgrounds via experienced specialist agencies, the south asian guys.
For conservative religious individuals exclusively seeking to date likeminded coreligionists, a variety of small specialist religion focused chat & dating websites.
Original post by teebslmao
I was thinking the same but then they didn’t write “discuss” as their first post 😭

If not writing “discuss” is an adequate camouflage, maybe I might need to learn some things from cLMAO.
Statistically South Asian men date outside of their race more than their female counterpart. Black women and East Asian men date out less than their counterpart.
Their is not going to be enough white guys to go around for everyone.
Original post by Anonymous
Statistically South Asian men date outside of their race more than their female counterpart. Black women and East Asian men date out less than their counterpart.


In dating, it tends to be a lot more common that the guy is darker than the girl. I.e black guy and white girl or asian guy and white girl is probably more common than white guy black girl or white guy asian girl.
This happens on love island - every year the darker women say how they struggle and don't feel as admired as the white girls, some of the darker lads said they same but it's never as severe as what the black women face. Often the white girls seem way more willing to hook up with the not-white lads than the white guys going for darker girls.
Like if a black woman and white man walk hand in hand down the street it will probably get more looks than vice versa.
I'm an Indian girl I feel like I'm getting tired of meeting white guys on OKCupid, all they want is sex and that's it. They hardly ever want to date me or get to know me.
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Original post by stickylikehoney
In dating, it tends to be a lot more common that the guy is darker than the girl. I.e black guy and white girl or asian guy and white girl is probably more common than white guy black girl or white guy asian girl.
This happens on love island - every year the darker women say how they struggle and don't feel as admired as the white girls, some of the darker lads said they same but it's never as severe as what the black women face. Often the white girls seem way more willing to hook up with the not-white lads than the white guys going for darker girls.
Like if a black woman and white men walk hand in hand down the street it will probably get more looks than vice versa.

Are you seriously basing your view on this off of Love Island?
Original post by coco:)
Are you seriously basing your view on this off of Love Island?

Not just love island, but living in the world...
Original post by stickylikehoney
In dating, it tends to be a lot more common that the guy is darker than the girl. I.e black guy and white girl or asian guy and white girl is probably more common than white guy black girl or white guy asian girl.
This happens on love island - every year the darker women say how they struggle and don't feel as admired as the white girls, some of the darker lads said they same but it's never as severe as what the black women face. Often the white girls seem way more willing to hook up with the not-white lads than the white guys going for darker girls.
Like if a black woman and white man walk hand in hand down the street it will probably get more looks than vice versa.
I'm an Indian girl I feel like I'm getting tired of meeting white guys on OKCupid, all they want is sex and that's it. They hardly ever want to date me or get to know me.

It seems like white guys are actually open to dating non-white women for short term flings however their end game is going to be a pretty blond or brunette. White guys want white women but will otherwise in the short term take anyone that shows interest.
Original post by Anonymous
It seems like white guys are actually open to dating non-white women for short term flings however their end game is going to be a pretty blond or brunette. White guys want white women but will otherwise in the short term take anyone that shows interest.


Obviously, there are white men with black and asian women and these couples do exist and work totally fine, but tbh if you think about how many of these couples there are on a grand scale it isn't that actually that many. Of course it works totally fine. When I was 19 this white guy was desperate to be my boyfriend and literally followed me around and was absolutely heartbroken when I told him no. But that's only one case. I've also recently gone dating and had some interest from white men which seemed sweet and genuine. But.. I've also had white men send me racist messages online and felt like they just wanted a brown girl as a shag buddy and nothing more.

Also I remembered something that happened ages ago - I'm 31. When I was 18 this white guy (let's pretend his name is John although it is not) from my sixth form told me he liked me after he got smashed on a night out and the next day he said his friend fraped him. (He tried to ask me to prom a few weeks before and there were rumours going around that he told a few of his best mates he liked me.) I don't think his friend fraped him.

He was friends with a few of the laddy guys but he was more of the geekier one if you know what I mean.
Then I remember on Facebook him and his laddy friends were posting on a thread on Facebook. Let's pretend my name is Nicki (it's not) - and one of his friends put jokingly "I love Nicki" cos there had been rumours he had liked me. And then the guy John replied "LOL as if." my surname is an ethnic Indian surname with 10 letters and he made fun of my surname on the thread and posted something like "cos that's such a nice surname LOL"

When boys are friends often there's lots of pressure to be cool around each other. When you're a teenage white lad it isn't necessarily trendy to have a girlfriend with super dark skin and hair and a long ethnic name is it?

Often as well in relationships cos men are often more dominant and stronger its more often the guy who is cheating or playing games or being mean to the girl. This might be why it might be harder for darker girls than guy. As dating is usually harder for woman than men!
What sort of stupid question is this?
Original post by Anonymous
Statistically South Asian men date outside of their race more than their female counterpart. Black women and East Asian men date out less than their counterpart.

LOL that is not true. Statistically in the UK, kids who are born to an Asian parent and a white parent usually has an Asian mother and a white father. I've also seen many brown women date white men but not the other way around because white women mainly like black men.
Girls have it easier than guys on the dating market, whichever way you look at it. Whether that's on dating apps or IRL. Attractive girls in their 20's do not struggle to get lots of matches. What they struggle with more is getting matches with the most attractive guys that they want. Most men on the other hand will get very few or no matches at all on something like Tinder, and men are overwhelmingly the ones who have to initiate a conversation, move things forward, get ignored etc etc. The struggles are different for both genders so what you should be doing instead is comparing black girls with east/south Asian girls or black men with east/south Asian men.
Original post by asif007
Girls have it easier than guys on the dating market, whichever way you look at it. Whether that's on dating apps or IRL. Attractive girls in their 20's do not struggle to get lots of matches. What they struggle with more is getting matches with the most attractive guys that they want. Most men on the other hand will get very few or no matches at all on something like Tinder, and men are overwhelmingly the ones who have to initiate a conversation, move things forward, get ignored etc etc. The struggles are different for both genders so what you should be doing instead is comparing black girls with east/south Asian girls or black men with east/south Asian men.

PRSOM.
It is quite difficult to compare people of different races and genders in regards to dating.
In ranking:

1. East Asian Men
2. South Asian Men
3. Black Women

Because: Colourism.

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