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How do you deal with the jealousy of your boyfriend following girls whilst away on holiday? It's horrible to see from a distance, and I don't really have a right to tell who he can & can't follow. But it makes me feel like utter crap.

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If you expect the worst then nothing can hurt you. While your boyfriend is away get to know some guys and follow them and then see what he has to say about it. Do whatever you wanna do while he's away you won't always have an opportunity like this
Follow on socials or irl? There's a big difference.
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Original post by hungrysalamander
Follow on socials or irl? There's a big difference.

On socials
Original post by hungrysalamander
Follow on socials or irl? There's a big difference.

This is what I thought when reading the title...
Original post by Anonymous
On socials

So you think that your boyfriend isn't allowed to follow any of his female friends?
Original post by Anonymous
How do you deal with the jealousy of your boyfriend following girls whilst away on holiday? It's horrible to see from a distance, and I don't really have a right to tell who he can & can't follow. But it makes me feel like utter crap.

I need more context. Do you follow guys? If so, there is hypocrisy here and if not, then get rid of your boyfriend. lol.
Original post by Anonymous
How do you deal with the jealousy of your boyfriend following girls whilst away on holiday? It's horrible to see from a distance, and I don't really have a right to tell who he can & can't follow. But it makes me feel like utter crap.

It's hard but maybe he's cheating on you. If it's one girl or a celebrity then that's fine if they have more than 10k followers but.. if they're following tons of people that's bad. I have had that before and my best advice talk to him about it. Ask him are you talking to any other girls. I can understand why it upsets you.
OP are there any other aspects of his life that you are upset that you don't control? Maybe how he dresses, what he eats, what he reads? In a few years time, if you have a life together, would you want to control what time he gets home and who he socialises with?
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Original post by hungrysalamander
So you think that your boyfriend isn't allowed to follow any of his female friends?

No he definitely is, but when it's lots all at once seems a bit suspicious.
Original post by lilypuzzle
I need more context. Do you follow guys? If so, there is hypocrisy here and if not, then get rid of your boyfriend. lol.

I follow the occasional guy every once in a while (if I know them), but no where near as much as the amount of girls he follows.
Original post by Trinculo
OP are there any other aspects of his life that you are upset that you don't control? Maybe how he dresses, what he eats, what he reads? In a few years time, if you have a life together, would you want to control what time he gets home and who he socialises with?

Absolutely not, don't want to control any aspect of his life. But when it's something like this that makes me feel so bad about myself.
Original post by tsparktae
It's hard but maybe he's cheating on you. If it's one girl or a celebrity then that's fine if they have more than 10k followers but.. if they're following tons of people that's bad. I have had that before and my best advice talk to him about it. Ask him are you talking to any other girls. I can understand why it upsets you.

Yeah it's quite a few, the odd boy every now & again, but majority is girls. I've tried to speak to him about it before and he got defensive which says it all really.
Original post by Anonymous
I follow the occasional guy every once in a while (if I know them), but no where near as much as the amount of girls he follows.

Get rid of him.
Original post by lilypuzzle
Get rid of him.

Easier sad than done unfortunately.
Original post by Anonymous
Easier sad than done unfortunately.

What is so good about him? You've complained on here about him which tells me that you're second guessing your relationship.

There are plenty of men out there. Why is this one so important?
Original post by Anonymous
No he definitely is, but when it's lots all at once seems a bit suspicious.

Sounds like your jealousy is the problem.
Can you give us a number for the number of girls he follow? And it's really piss taking seeing people just saying to dump him because of who he chooses to follow. -_- Something that you should talk about if you feel bad about it, not something you should be escalating like this.
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This is y socials destroy ppls lives... the natural human impulses that do not confront each other irl are magnified and amplifed for everyone to see on socials. U know how many thousands of ppl post here on TSR about bfs liking other girls and subscribing to OF etc. It's normal but yet toxic. All dudes do this, there's rlly no magic bullet for this prob. U might try to learn to live better with it maybe u do the same with hot dudes...
Original post by Anonymous
No he definitely is, but when it's lots all at once seems a bit suspicious.


Probably at a social event and everyone added each other. It's pretty meaningless adding people on social media lol. I have hundreds of friends and only talk to 4 of them.

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