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gave him my best but it wasn't enough :(

This guy liked me a lot, and so he popped up to me and we started texting a lot. But I think he's changed his mind because his replies are getting more and more spaced out, he responds once every 6 hours, compared to the 10 mins he'd respond to me in at the start.
I'm sad cause I gave him my all, didn't play hard to get, was genuine and tried my best. I'm sad because I'm sure he doesn't like me like that anymore and I don't know what I did wrong. :frown:
Feel like crying.

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Original post by Anonymous
This guy liked me a lot, and so he popped up to me and we started texting a lot. But I think he's changed his mind because his replies are getting more and more spaced out, he responds once every 6 hours, compared to the 10 mins he'd respond to me in at the start.
I'm sad cause I gave him my all, didn't play hard to get, was genuine and tried my best. I'm sad because I'm sure he doesn't like me like that anymore and I don't know what I did wrong. :frown:
Feel like crying.

This doesn't mean that "it wasn't enough". It means that you two weren't for each other. That doesn't reflect badly on either of you - most of the time, if you pick any two people at random who could conceivably date, they'll be basically incompatible on some level. He probably just didn't properly appreciate what you brought to the table - but there will be people who will.
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Original post by anosmianAcrimony
This doesn't mean that "it wasn't enough". It means that you two weren't for each other. That doesn't reflect badly on either of you - most of the time, if you pick any two people at random who could conceivably date, they'll be basically incompatible on some level. He probably just didn't properly appreciate what you brought to the table - but there will be people who will.

I want to know what I did wrong. Perhaps I was too easy to get. But I'm not going to lie, if leagues existed I'd be out of his league. He's quite short (5'5) and not the most good looking yet I gave him a chance out of all the boys that text me. Perhaps he thought I was too easy to get. I genuinely liked him back for his personality. He won't find anyone better than me.

Thank you for replying.
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Can I get some more replies. I'm feeling really sad about him
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You'll never be enough for the wrong people and always enough for the right ones ( and this includes friendships too). You are unique and special in your own ways, and if things didn't go the way you wished it could've when you stayed true to yourself, then 1. there's nothing more to ask of you and 2. he is not a person to keep in your life if he doesn't know your value/worth <3

Chin up, and feel grateful that you are freed from someone who didn't appreciate you in the ways the people that do love you, appreciate you :smile:
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Original post by BF19
You'll never be enough for the wrong people and always enough for the right ones ( and this includes friendships too). You are unique and special in your own ways, and if things didn't go the way you wished it could've when you stayed true to yourself, then 1. there's nothing more to ask of you and 2. he is not a person to keep in your life if he doesn't know your value/worth <3

Chin up, and feel grateful that you are freed from someone who didn't appreciate you in the ways the people that do love you, appreciate you :smile:

Thank you. Really appreciate it.

He's a nice guy so I can't help but feel like I said something or did something cringey. It's strange because one text message can affect someone's mood for the entire day.
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Original post by Anonymous
I want to know what I did wrong. Perhaps I was too easy to get. But I'm not going to lie, if leagues existed I'd be out of his league. He's quite short (5'5) and not the most good looking yet I gave him a chance out of all the boys that text me. Perhaps he thought I was too easy to get. I genuinely liked him back for his personality. He won't find anyone better than me.

Thank you for replying.

Do you mean that you think you are better looking than him?
Original post by Anonymous
This guy liked me a lot, and so he popped up to me and we started texting a lot. But I think he's changed his mind because his replies are getting more and more spaced out, he responds once every 6 hours, compared to the 10 mins he'd respond to me in at the start.
I'm sad cause I gave him my all, didn't play hard to get, was genuine and tried my best. I'm sad because I'm sure he doesn't like me like that anymore and I don't know what I did wrong. :frown:
Feel like crying.

There could be a lot of reasons. Maybe there's a new game out that he's playing a lot and he can't be texting you constantly. At least he is getting back to you eventually.
i've experienced this kind of but it's not anyone's fault. you clearly aren't meant to be. unless he comes back round soon. you are good but you're not the right one for him.
Original post by Anonymous
I want to know what I did wrong. Perhaps I was too easy to get. But I'm not going to lie, if leagues existed I'd be out of his league. He's quite short (5'5) and not the most good looking yet I gave him a chance out of all the boys that text me. Perhaps he thought I was too easy to get. I genuinely liked him back for his personality. He won't find anyone better than me.

Thank you for replying.

Don't feel sad over some random dude that may well have backed because he thinks he's not good enough. You're literally saying yourself you're better than him.
He's 3 inches shorter than me. It's common knowledge that most 19 year olds will not go for someone that height. I'm being real here. If you don't want to accept the facts then leave. I bet you're at least 30 so you don't know how ****ed up this generation really is, and that I'm, at my young age, am still being a decent person by picking personality over looks.

Original post by Cote1
Do you mean that you think you are better looking than him?

He's cute, but perhaps I'm more attracted to the version of him in my head. I'm not here to judge his looks.

Original post by Trinculo
There could be a lot of reasons. Maybe there's a new game out that he's playing a lot and he can't be texting you constantly. At least he is getting back to you eventually.

Maybe, thanks.

Original post by gracieee16
i've experienced this kind of but it's not anyone's fault. you clearly aren't meant to be. unless he comes back round soon. you are good but you're not the right one for him.

Thank u babe

Original post by *****deadness
Don't feel sad over some random dude that may well have backed because he thinks he's not good enough. You're literally saying yourself you're better than him.

😭Thanks. I was just being real when I said I'm better looking than him.
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Only 6 hours? That's nothing. You do know people have other things to do in their lives than text you every 10 minutes; work, study, family time, socialising...

If you want instant replies, pick up the phone and talk to him. And don't "think" he doesn't like you, discuss it with him; if you want to be in a relationship with anyone communication is key.
Original post by Anonymous
This guy liked me a lot, and so he popped up to me and we started texting a lot. But I think he's changed his mind because his replies are getting more and more spaced out, he responds once every 6 hours, compared to the 10 mins he'd respond to me in at the start.
I'm sad cause I gave him my all, didn't play hard to get, was genuine and tried my best. I'm sad because I'm sure he doesn't like me like that anymore and I don't know what I did wrong. :frown:
Feel like crying.

hey, you know I like to think that it's fate telling you that you're soul mate is still out there and it wasn't him. We may not know each other, but i can tell you're a lovely and caring person to be with. So don't be sad, because you did nothing wrong and you're perfect the way you are, he wasn't just meant to be for you. Happened similarly with my previous gf, right, wrong time and so she left to attend Oxford Uni.

Cheer up, you got your whole life ahead of you, and I find that the best things in life come unexpected. :smile:
(heck, if he wont take you, then i will lol)
Original post by Anonymous
hey, you know I like to think that it's fate telling you that you're soul mate is still out there and it wasn't him. We may not know each other, but i can tell you're a lovely and caring person to be with. So don't be sad, because you did nothing wrong and you're perfect the way you are, he wasn't just meant to be for you. Happened similarly with my previous gf, right, wrong time and so she left to attend Oxford Uni.

Cheer up, you got your whole life ahead of you, and I find that the best things in life come unexpected. :smile:
(heck, if he wont take you, then i will lol)

Aw you're cute, thanks smm💖
Original post by Surnia
Only 6 hours? That's nothing. You do know people have other things to do in their lives than text you every 10 minutes; work, study, family time, socialising...

If you want instant replies, pick up the phone and talk to him. And don't "think" he doesn't like you, discuss it with him; if you want to be in a relationship with anyone communication is key.

That's true, but I saw he was online and ignoring the texts
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Original post by Anonymous
That's true, but I saw he was online and ignoring the texts

And that's fine, because he's allowed to do contact other people; all the 2 of you are doing is messaging, you aren't even dating!

Stop monitoring what he is doing online and how long for; if it was 3 or 4 days without a response that's indicating he's not interested, but not just a few hours. Did your texts even require much of a response?
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I would point out that people have lives and not responding for a couple of hours instead of every minute doesnt really symbolise anything..
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Original post by anosmianAcrimony
This doesn't mean that "it wasn't enough". It means that you two weren't for each other. That doesn't reflect badly on either of you - most of the time, if you pick any two people at random who could conceivably date, they'll be basically incompatible on some level. He probably just didn't properly appreciate what you brought to the table - but there will be people who will.

Why does him replying after a few hours show 'there werent meant to be'.. ?! If thats the bar for a failed relationship then jesus young people have it tough.

As for not appreciating her, where in the OP does it say anything about that? Or anything that could conceivably, at the longest of long shots, be thought of to mean that?
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Original post by Surnia
And that's fine, because he's allowed to do contact other people; all the 2 of you are doing is messaging, you aren't even dating!

Stop monitoring what he is doing online and how long for; if it was 3 or 4 days without a response that's indicating he's not interested, but not just a few hours. Did your texts even require much of a response?

It's now been 17 hours since he last messaged me
Original post by Anonymous
😭Thanks. I was just being real when I said I'm better looking than him.



If you are so far out his league (for every reason, dunno why you’re equating everything to height and looks) then move the f on!! Go speak to other guys, or don’t - spend time in your own company. If you learn to really value and respect yourself first then you won’t even want to put up with this kind of boring “is he gonna text back” nonsense from men.

I do think you need to learn that attractiveness is so much more than physical attributes. I’m not trying to attack you here but his height really has nothing to do with this. It feels like you’re angry at him so trying to drag him in some way - don’t stoop to that level. Just move on, not everyone you speak to is gonna be the one.. if it worked that way none of us would date lolol

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