I've been dating this girl for a year and a half now and through her parents have I found out that she lied to me about her body count. We both graduated from Uni last year (both aged 21) and when we did she had a party at her house inviting loads of her friends. This was where this was first brought up, as when friends of hers and mine that aren't waiting for marriage mentioned sex and would talk about how I'm waiting, one of her friends would say that she (my girlfriend) hasn't waited even though my girlfriend goes and says that she's waiting. Fastforward a couple months (today), I went to meet her parents for the first time. I stayed and ate dinner there and I was being questioned heavily by her father. I could tell that he was a protective dad that wanted the best guy for his daughter through our conversation. He was asking me many questions, e.g. my degree, job, grade, etc. Then he goes and asks me about my bodycount, which I believe he did due to wanting a good fit for his daughter idk and he did mention that he doesn't want her with an f boy. So then I go tell him that I've never had sex and I'm waiting for marriage. He then goes and asks me if I want a partner that's doing the same and I replied saying yes, as I want someone with the same values as me etc and my beliefs (Christianity). Then he goes and tells me that then his daughter wouldn't be suitable because she's had sex before. And that's what's kind of annoyed me. She said to me for ages that she's never had sex either when she first brought it up before we started dating even (we were friends first and we would speak about everything pretty much) so to find out that she's lied to me for years is quite disappointing. Kind of feel like she's wasted my time too.
When her dad went and said that, her face went pink and then she tried saying that this was before she went out with me. And that's the most confusing part. Because when I found out that she lied the first time, I realised that hey, if she can lie once about her past to me, she definitely can/has again. So she couldve even have had sex with another person whilst being with me. Idk for sure. Point is though, I just feel like she's wasted my time. Don't get me wrong, I have sexual urges at times but I know it's against my religion to pursue them which is why I'm trying to follow what is said in the Bible and so for her to do it and lie about it stinks. That's why I posted this here as I believe I should end this relationship with her as there's no point being with someone that doesn't follow the sane morals I follow & already lied about something big for a long long but I need clarity on how I can meet a girl in the future that actually hasn't had sex. Would you guys believe I just gotta hope I meet a girl I like at church? Or is there any other ways in the future that I can meet a girl that's actually waiting for marriage that actually is and isn't lying about it. Because if church is my only way, maybe I'll need to move to a bigger church where I can meet more people as the one I'm currently at doesn't have people around my age really. Mainly just a few kids & then everyone else like middle aged other than a few elderly people. I come here too because it's the closest one to where I live.