hooked up with a really sweet guy last night, hated every second

Was it big

your boyfriend pays for a roof over your head and a mattress so you don't sleep on a park bench is that correct?

pretty average :/



i told i need a break from our relationship like two days ago so

Two days ago and you've already slept with someone else?

i was bored

Your poor boyfriend. Don't string him along, he deserves better sorry.

he can sleep with other people too, idc

Sounds like you shouldn't be in a relationship. Or be in an open relationship?

it's almost as i subconsciously like it when men treat me badly. why am i like this? why can't i ever like people that treat me 'right'?

Your poor boyfriend. Don't string him along, he deserves better sorry.

it's almost as i subconsciously like it when men treat me badly. why am i like this? why can't i ever like people that treat me 'right'?

I've come across a few woman like this, some people refer to them as "damaged goods" or "toxic individuals".

I'll be honest, I don't think this is something you can change. People can't change deep rooted feelings/attitudes that have been ingrained into them through past experiences/relationships (think, observing family relationships that were similar, mom/dad toxic relationship ect). It's almost like how narcissists can't be cured of their narcissism, only treated. (although we all have narcissistic traits to some degree).

My advice - just be upfront with your future partners. Tell them this is how you are, so that when they engage in an argument with you, they know not to become invested into the heat of the moment as that is something you thrive in inadvertently.

And regarding this dude, do the right thing. If he's a nice guy, as you say, but you don't see him as a potential long term partner, tell him and let him move on.

He’s been cheating on his boyfriend for years, he’s not going to stop.

Because you don't like yourself.

i do actually. im pretty vain, a lot of people think i'm narcissistic bc of that

I'm not talking about external appearances, but how you feel about yourself deep down inside. I've read a lot of your threads, not just this one, and came to that conclusion a while ago.

did you let him nut inside you a lot of women prefer men like that maybe it is to do with testosterone or evolution or something

I think if he was a real nice guy type, you were probably just being normal tbh. I have learned the hard way that being the nice guy isn't what most girls want, they usually prefer someone more confident and masculine than all sweet and nice.