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Unrequited crushes

In the vast majority of cases of unrequited crushes where a guy asks a girl out and gets rejected, was the girl never attracted to the guy in the first place?

Reply 1

SagaciousSag

There's a difference between not finding someone physically attractive and not being romantically attracted to them. You're not ugly just because you got rejected.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by SagaciousSag

There's a difference between not finding someone physically attractive and not being romantically attracted to them. You're not ugly just because you got rejected.

What makes a guy romantically unattractive?

Reply 3

SagaciousSag

Original post by Anonymous

What makes a guy romantically unattractive?

Undesirable personality or actions, in some cases. In others, nothing in particular. Just not attracted because you don't know each other or you don't see a person in that way.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by SagaciousSag

Undesirable personality or actions, in some cases. In others, nothing in particular. Just not attracted because you don't know each other or you don't see a person in that way.

What about if the guy is just bad at flirting or being romantic and just acts like a friend?

Reply 5

SagaciousSag

Original post by Anonymous

What about if the guy is just bad at flirting or being romantic and just acts like a friend?

Then you might be seen as just a friend.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by SagaciousSag

Then you might be seen as just a friend.

So what’s the solution to this problem?

Reply 7

SagaciousSag

Original post by Anonymous

So what’s the solution to this problem?

Once you're rejected, that's it. If she shows no interest in pursuing a romantic relationship with you, you're just friends.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by SagaciousSag

Once you're rejected, that's it. If she shows no interest in pursuing a romantic relationship with you, you're just friends.

I mean in general. Not with 1 particular girl. How do you solve the issue of being a bad flirt/romantic and just coming across as a friend.

Reply 9

SagaciousSag

Original post by Anonymous

I mean in general. Not with 1 particular girl. How do you solve the issue of being a bad flirt/romantic and just coming across as a friend.

Just show interest.
https://www.jessicayaffa.org/3-ways-to-express-romantic-interest-without-coming-on-too-strong/
https://dating.lovetoknow.com/Romance_Signs_of_Attraction
https://www.wikihow.com/Show-a-Woman-You%27re-Attracted-to-Her

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Original post by SagaciousSag

I’m not sure it’s as simple as this. I think it’s more an art than a science. If you robotically followed every step in these articles, I don’t think it will get you far. I guess it’s just practice and trial and error.

Reply 11

Surnia

Original post by Anonymous

In the vast majority of cases of unrequited crushes where a guy asks a girl out and gets rejected, was the girl never attracted to the guy in the first place?