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    I am a girl and yes I get on with girls
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    I am a girl and no, I prefer boys or mixed groups
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    I am a boy and yes I get on with boys
    35.47%
    I am a boy and no, I prefer girls or mixed groups
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    (Original post by ArtGoblin)
    I'm making a big deal out of how she brands women (except for her guy girls) as dull.

    I don't care tbh because I can see why women dislike her. This is just going to confirm what she believes about other women, but she seems to have a complex about other women and believes herself to be better than them. It's shame because I used to enjoy her posts and find her interesting but she's become increasingly annoying recently.
    Read: I used to like her when everything she said aligned with my views but now that she's stated something I disagree with, she's become annoying.

    Oh and mostly guys for me - I have awesome female friends too, but not as many. Possibly a result of environment - most of my uni friends did sciences, so more guys, and my work was highly male-dominated.
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    I have more guy friends than girls. Girls tend to be emotional guys tend to never be :hand::yy::smug:

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    Definetely prefer girls.

    I detest and loathe - LADS, men who view women (and/or men if LGBT) as objects and those who take the mick out of more introverted guys.

    That, and one area where I do conform to the LGBT stereotype is that most of my friends are female, not as much as before uni, but definitely a figure around the 60% mark.
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    (Original post by ArtGoblin)
    I actually prefer *****iness to the people who "put it all out there". That can just hurt people's feelings and sometimes it's best to talk about them with someone else and then you feel better towards them once you've let it out. Some things need to be dealt with but *****iness serves an essential function.

    Well that's bizarre. People try actually bother to try and ruin people's lives in real life?

    The housemate thing sounds like typical housemate stuff to me. I lived in an all-male house for my 2nd and 3rd years and we had plenty of that drama. When you live in a small house together stuff is gonna happen.

    I was punched by a girl at school so I don't really approve of hitting other kids because they were being mean to you. It wasn't pleasant having people take her side despite the fact that I'd been hit.
    Really? As a "put it out there" person I much rather deal with other people like me. You know where you stand, there's no fannying about, simple. *****ing is rude and doesn't resolve anything
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    (Original post by ArtGoblin)
    If you don't go out without your partner then you don't have a social life without him. People who can't go anywhere without their partner make terrible friends.
    Why is that?
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    Exactly :lol: I CAN FLY. LOL SAVIN DA WORLD. = every superman movie.

    It appears we have the same taste in fictional men :coma: I'll spoiler these for you


    Top one's from FMA if you need any motivation for watching it

    Well that's ****, I want them to fight
    Yeah, that's pretty much all superman movies in a nutshell I may read some of the graphics, might change my opinion on him a bit xD

    I can't see the pictures :cry2:

    Yeah, same here -_- I was pretty disappointed xD
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    I seriously can't understand why people still think gender has anything to do with personality.

    I'm just so glad that I have the friends I have because I eliminate the ones that cause the drama (leaving for uni was so nice since my friendship group from home was so self-centred and they all loved making their lives seem terrible) and just stick with the nice people - regardless of gender.
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    (Original post by thechemistress)
    Yeah, that's pretty much all superman movies in a nutshell I may read some of the graphics, might change my opinion on him a bit xD

    I can't see the pictures :cry2:

    Yeah, same here -_- I was pretty disappointed xD
    Do it!

    Google Roy Mustang, Hei darker than black and Raye Pember. Yay for sexy cartoon men

    Pussies didn't even fight
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    I'm the exact opposite, 95% of my friends are female. With boys I quickly get impatient because of their short attention span and their juvenile humour (even as 18 year olds...). I also don't like the way most show little to no manners, they seem to not care if they are being hurtful or impolite. Girls on the other hand will even laught at your unfunny jokes or at least listen to the things you have to say, regardless whether they are truely interested or not. And at last, I've very rarely experienced that a guy will voluntarily engange in a deep discussion, especially with their friends around. Actually, that brings me to my main point: almost all guys I know lack the ability to be the nice/mature/fun/funny/intelligent/etc. person they normally could be if it wasn't for their friends. I've never EVER in my life had such problems with girls.

    Dealing with guys is like playing Uno: It's straightforward. You try to trump each other back and forth until someone loses or has to pay and there's nothing you can do about it.

    Dealing with girls is like playing Poker: You never quite know what they're thinking and there is much bluffing going on, but once you get the hang of the game, there's a big pot to win including the respect of the other players.
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    (Original post by bonfire_heart)
    I'm the exact opposite, 95% of my friends are female. With boys I quickly get impatient because of their short attention span and their juvenile humour (even as 18 year olds...). I also don't like the way most show little to no manners, they seem to not care if they are being hurtful or impolite. Girls on the other hand will even laught at your unfunny jokes or at least listen to the things you have to say, regardless whether they are truely interested or not. And at last, I've very rarely experienced that a guy will voluntarily engange in a deep discussion, especially with their friends around. Actually, that brings me to my main point: almost all guys I know lack the ability to be the nice/mature/fun/funny/intelligent/etc. person they normally could be if it wasn't for their friends. I've never EVER in my life had such problems with girls.
    Short attention span and juvenile humour is my jam :awesome: I think this explains why I get on better with guys
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    (Original post by Daniellejo.)
    Well that's just one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read.
    You've obviously had some horrible experience that's left you bitter, but I can assume with plenty of confidence that I've not ruined anyone's life. Nor can I think of many people who's life may have been ruined by a *****y, malevolent, teenage girl (which apparently is pretty much all of them).
    You don't spend much time around girls then do you?

    I went to a girls school and I'd say about 50% of people bullied someone at one point or another. And on top of that about 20% just weren't very nice in general.
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    (Original post by vickidc18)
    Right I've been bullied by girls too a long time ago now at 13-14 I was also attacked, one of my trusted friends actually texted me to meet up there waiting for me was 5 girls and they beat the **** out of me, I never blamed it on the fact that it was girls I blamed it on the fact that some people are just generally ***** and not nice that was a long time ago and I've chalked it down to experience some people in life aren't nice you can't carry on blaming one gender and calling them all *****y and catty, it's your issue get over the past, stand up for yourself and don't take any **** if a girl is a ***** to you that doesn't make half the human population nasty *****es.
    Well, unfortunately girls seem to be brought up on a way that makes them more predisposed to be totally and utterly vindictive. Especially as teenagers. As I said though, quite a few grow out of it. A fair proportion don't appear to though.

    I do stand up for myself, if someone's a bully I male sure everyone knows it. I've learnt to turn their games back in on themselves, but unfortunately its still a very painful process as they inevitably find themselves resorting to public humiliation as they find their power slipping away.
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    (Original post by redferry)
    You don't spend much time around girls then do you?

    I went to a girls school and I'd say about 50% of people bullied someone at one point or another. And on top of that about 20% just weren't very nice in general.
    So you're using your experience to make comments about all teenage girls? Wow. That's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. A more sensible thing to say would be 'all teenage girls in my school in my year are scum of the earth'
    I go to an all-girls' school. I can assure you that NOBODY in my year is bullied. NOBODY. You simply cannot use one expereince to comment on a whole group of people. It's like somebody being punched in the face by a brunette and then saying that 'all brunettes are scum of the earth'. Please grow up.
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    (Original post by bonfire_heart)
    I'm the exact opposite, 95% of my friends are female. With boys I quickly get impatient because of their short attention span and their juvenile humour (even as 18 year olds...). I also don't like the way most show little to no manners, they seem to not care if they are being hurtful or impolite. Girls on the other hand will even laught at your unfunny jokes or at least listen to the things you have to say, regardless whether they are truely interested or not. And at last, I've very rarely experienced that a guy will voluntarily engange in a deep discussion, especially with their friends around. Actually, that brings me to my main point: almost all guys I know lack the ability to be the nice/mature/fun/funny/intelligent/etc. person they normally could be if it wasn't for their friends. I've never EVER in my life had such problems with girls.

    Dealing with guys is like playing Uno: It's straightforward. You try to trump each other back and forth until someone has to pay and there's nothing you can do about it.

    Dealing with girls is like playing Poker: You never quite know what they're thinking and there is much bluffing going on, but once you get the hang of the game, there's a big pot to win including the respect of the other players.
    I've actually found girls in general often have more vapid conversations. I think it's an age things, boys do mature slower, but once you get a but older it's almost like women regress. Its difficult for me in a lot lf groups of women as I don't like talking about makeup, celebrities, clothes etc. Whereas the equivalent group of guys would talk about football and that's something I am interested in.
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    I prefer guys to hang out with.
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    Do it!

    Google Roy Mustang, Hei darker than black and Raye Pember. Yay for sexy cartoon men

    Pussies didn't even fight
    Roy Mustang is bad ass! But Raye Pember had it coming.
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    Movies always show girls with lots of girlfriends, and guys with guy friends, and people always seem to assume you have friends of the same gender. How common is this actually? I've never had female friends, ever. Even as a little girl, I played with boys. My teachers used to remark on it. Even though I now have some female friends, my friendship group is mixed and very male heavy. I've never got on with girls, on the whole they just don't like me. I tend to find girl groups *****y and I can't be arsed with it

    My boyfriend, on the other hand, has loaaaaaaaaads of female friends. I'd say it's about a 50/50 split.

    This got me thinking, is it THAT weird to actually prefer friends of the opposite gender?

    Do you get on with your own gender? Why/why not?
    First of all...

    http://img.pandawhale.com/80575-hot-...unny-87fa.jpeg

    I've waiting a long time for the opportunity to post that.

    I think guys who prefer to be friends with females are the following...
    1. Insecure
    Women usually lie to boost the confidence of their peers.
    2. Anxious
    They are usually afraid of other men.
    3. Looking to have sex with the girls
    even if they have a girlfriend they have these females as stock of back up.

    I used to have lots of female friends because I wanted to get chicks and I found it hard to physically relax around men due to a long history of childhood violence (fun stuff right?).

    anyway I realised I was friends with a lot of guys but I just didn't consider them friends because I didn't trust them and thought they were hangers on to the girls I socialised with. I also got a bit frustrated with the shy guys that were afraid of hanging around with girls so they would run off for nerd talk.

    Anyway as years went by I found girls to be quite a waste of time as friends. They rarely stay in your life and take up your time, energy and sometimes money. They ask you advice on a decisions they should not go forward with but they don't want your advice. Instead they already no that its a bad idea to do what ever it is they asked your advice on and what they want is you, to give them your blessing and quench the obvious doubt thats making them hesitate from their poorly disciplined and indulgent decisions.

    then after come back to you crying about how they did the thing you warned them not to do and now they want to cry on your shoulder and for you to say "there there".

    Example
    Like the the last time (there has been many times) this happened was a girl I new. She got was going to get married to a guy she was already cheating on with two other guys. I said... getting married to him is quite an obviously stupid decision. She got married. She wants to carry on cheating and I tell her that her cheating in the first place was dumb yet alone now. Next I hear she is pregnant and does not know who the father is. All three men abandon her leaving her with her baby. Then she tells me how alone and abandoned she feels and starts trying to come on to me. I won't bore you with my reaction but at this point I had had enough and terminated the friendship.

    There is not one girl I know who has had useful links or contacts that helped me. One girl that said "oh I guy have a word with them for you" or "I know how to do that" or "do you need a hand".

    I may have had the odd girlfriend offer to help out with domestic duties. But not a female friend.

    Most of the men I know have been handy to have about and a laugh to be with. They have also been much more critical than girls.
    Guys enjoy debating and competing. Guys keep you fresh and agile minded by challenging you. Guys more often than not are not afraid of giving you hard truths. Girls usually avoid them. I also prefer how guys are much more responsible and better at working as a team. Girls tend to "stop the fun", struggle to coordinate in teams, expect sympathy and make excuses.

    Now whilst theres girls that are the exception in my life they are fewer than the guys.

    Most guys I know who have loads of female friends have to be friends with multiple individual separate female friends.
    Because the girls so often fall out break down and build up, washing out weaker members each time.
    Guy groups I've noticed are a lot more stable as a grouped unit.

    Guys are also seem to make much better decisions when it comes to confrontation than the girls I've met.

    Don't get me wrong. These "mates" you have will probably all have sex with your girlfriend if they had the chance and that the chances of you finding a genuinely trustworthy guy mate is just as likely/unlikely as you finding a genuinely trustworthy girl mate. but i think a lot of that is just most people in general are sneaky and selfish when it comes down to it.
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    I think I get on with both quite equally.
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    (Original post by redferry)
    Well, unfortunately girls seem to be brought up on a way that makes them more predisposed to be totally and utterly vindictive. Especially as teenagers. As I said though, quite a few grow out of it. A fair proportion don't appear to though.

    I do stand up for myself, if someone's a bully I male sure everyone knows it. I've learnt to turn their games back in on themselves, but unfortunately its still a very painful process as they inevitably find themselves resorting to public humiliation as they find their power slipping away.

    I'm not sure how old you are, I'm in my early twenties now and everyone has started to mature, most girls in their twenties can't be bothered with *****ing and being nasty. I do think it's your problem though if you think half of the population are nasty... you're missing out on some really great friendships I've been best friends with 1 girl for almost 6 years, she's like my sister I can talk to her about anything and we have never fallen out I can imagine us in a old peoples home together in many years time.
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    (Original post by thechemistress)
    So you're using your experience to make comments about all teenage girls? Wow. That's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. A more sensible thing to say would be 'all teenage girls in my school in my year are scum of the earth'
    I go to an all-girls' school. I can assure you that NOBODY in my year is bullied. NOBODY. You simply cannot use one expereince to comment on a whole group of people. It's like somebody being punched in the face by a brunette and then saying that 'all brunettes are scum of the earth'. Please grow up.
    Well I've met plenty of others since, mostly knobbers.

    Well great for you, you must all have a,loveley time skipping along holding hands and singing. Private school by any chance?



    Yep 22 years of systematic lifetime bullying that follows a clear pattern is the same as a one off incident.
    Nope.
 
 
 
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