How do I get over this girl?

It wasn't a fantasy. We were friends. We did everything together. Why don't you understand this? Some people on this thread really have no idea.



We were friends. I didn't make this up.

Someone just commented in this thread to me that you were never in a relationship with this girl, and what you had was barely a friendship. Sounds like you have created a fantasy of a reality that never really was.

He did create a fantasy, they were never friends. She liked the attention he gave her, but then he'd get really clingy and act very possessive, and she'd freak out and tell him she didn't want to see him anymore. Then she'd miss the attention and talk to him again. Repeat the cycle a good twenty times and you've got an idea of what was going on.

Bear in mind that when she stopped talking to him, he got his parents to phone her (he's in his twenties!!!) and text her several times to try to convince her to change her mind; he rang and texted her family members to tell them to talk to her about him; he went round to her house to try to see her. She threatened to call the police on him at one point because she was so scared of his obsessive behaviour.

P.S. She's had a boyfriend this whole time, who she intends to marry. But OP has been making obsessive threads about her for two years, despite the fact that she said she'd never be with him.

Do you have a fedora? Pop that on and you'll be fine xx

Do you want to be friends with her again?

Yes.

There is your problem right there. You don't want to move on. Nobody can help you if you, deep down, do not want to be helped. You have to be an adult.

I'm not ready yet. I can't believe this is happening. I'm struggling. It will take time to sink in.

I'm not ready yet. I can't believe this is happening. I'm struggling. It will take time to sink in.

Also, once I said to her I don't want to be her friend anymore and I blocked her myself. She tried to call me multiple times, sending me dozens of texts and said if you don't unblock me and talk to me, that she will come to my house and wait outside until I open the door!!
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What is your plan of action? What coping mechanism do you adopt.

What did you think was going to happen? It has been a downward spiral ever since you first posted.

Ready yet for what? To lose the friendship? It doesn't sound like you're ever going to be ready to lose the friendship because to you it isn't just a friendship. You need to firstly realise that you will NEVER DATE THIS GIRL. It will never happen. Ever. Not today, not next week and not in ten ****ing years. The most it can ever be, and even that's a stretch at this point, is a purely platonic friendship, but given your behaviour even that is off the cards now.

There is literally no wiggle room for you here, you cannot win her over, you simply must move on.

I am struggling a lot with moving on from the end of my friendship with the girl.

I haven't done any uni work in 5 days, I am feeling extremely depressed and tearful. I have got chest pain, I am crying, I have no energy, no motivation, I can't even concentrate.

I am worried about this, I just have 2 months of uni left and I don't want to throw away all my hard work.

She has totally blocked me from everywhere and said I will never talk to you again.

I am extremely down and visibly shaken by all of this.

I emailed my university counselling dept and they said it took take 2-3 weeks to get an appointment due to how busy the service has been during this calendar year.

I honestly don't have time to mourn over this now, I have too much work to do. But I can't do it, I am struggling to concentrate.

There were things I needed her help on too and now I can't.

This is the worst I have ever felt in my life.

I really wish this didn't happen. Maybe I could have done things differently, maybe I should have not been so clingy and jealous and upset etc. This friendship ended in a bad way and I will always regret this.

I honestly don't know what to do.

Yes. I already know I could never be with her. She was my friend. I didn't want it to end this way is such a bad way. I will always regret this.

I'm struggling to move on.

She loves the attention. If you ignore her she'll want you more anyway, that's how these attention seeking girls work. Why settle for a parrot that will say whatever you want when you can win the approval of someone who doesn't like you? I must be really good if he gives it to me. It's an approval thing, if you give her approval she'll think there's something wrong with you.



If you would like evidence to backup what I just said, she can't stand being ignored because she thrives off attention. It's not about you, it's always about her.