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    Lol I hid my in my underwear draw, family never found it. Or if they did they never said anything. I can imagine they would be uncomfortable if they did, but that's what you get for snooping through my things
    LOL so many girls hide their sex toys in their underwear drawer
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    (Original post by emobambam)
    LOL so many girls hide their sex toys in their underwear drawer
    it's also where we hide the weed
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    (Original post by Serine Soul)
    Among her clothes? Under a bed? Back of a wardrobe?

    Her family have no reason to be rummaging through her room and so should not find it.
    I live away from home during term time but when I do go home my mum doesn't know the meaning of the word privacy (she says she's just 'tidying' my room - which is really just an excuse to go through my stuff).

    To be fair, I don't think it would do a better job than my fingers tbh,
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    (Original post by yasminkattan)
    Salam.

    "Relieving yourself" is haram. Whenever you feel the need to do this, occupy yourself with something else (voluntary prayers, studying for exams, surround yourself with friends and family), and it's also recommended to fast as it lowers your sex drive:

    “O young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, and whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for that will be a shield for him.” [Al-Bukhaari, 4778; Muslim, 1400] ...Also applies to women.

    I've never heard of iron tablets increasing someone's sex drive, but if you think this is the cause then stop taking them. Simple.

    If all else fails, find yourself a husband. That is, if you're serious about keeping your chastity and avoiding what is haram.



    (And please don't follow the advice of non-Muslims as they will obviously recommend what is forbidden in our religion).
    I realise 'relieving myself' is not exactly halal, but I physically can't concentrate when trying to revise otherwise. If I didn't allow myself this then I most likely would have sinned worse by now. I envy people with low sex drives.

    I've been taking the tablets for 2 months and am due to stop taking them soon. Doubt they have increased my sex drive as it's only shot up in the past 2 weeks.

    Finding a marriage partner is v. hard when you don't live in a muslim area and at uni with only younger people. I've never gotten any attention from muslim guys for this reason (although I'm not ugly, I do get attention from attractive non-muslim guys). But I am staying away from dating right now.

    Thanks for the reply
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I realise 'relieving myself' is not exactly halal, but I physically can't concentrate when trying to revise otherwise. If I didn't allow myself this then I most likely would have sinned worse by now. I envy people with low sex drives.

    I've been taking the tablets for 2 months and am due to stop taking them soon. Doubt they have increased my sex drive as it's only shot up in the past 2 weeks.

    Finding a marriage partner is v. hard when you don't live in a muslim area and at uni with only younger people. I've never gotten any attention from muslim guys for this reason (although I'm not ugly, I do get attention from attractive non-muslim guys). But I am staying away from dating right now.

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    Sis there are other ways of dealing with this, such as exercising, fasting or praying. You need to distract yourself and stop making excuses. The "urge" you get is only temporary. The method you're using right now has most probably become an addiction and it has consequences, both religious and mental/physical once you're married and are able to have sex. Not being able to concentrate when you revise is not an excuse, as I'm sure this isn't at all true. You are able to control it.

    You don't have to live in a Muslim area to look for a husband. You could go to any mosque and ask for help there. You will find a way if this is really what you want, and this is the only real solution to staying away from these haram activities, especially in your case as you find it harder to control your desires.

    Hope all goes well for you inshaAllah
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    Masturbate or premarital companionship, is perhaps your only avenue for the release of sexual frustration. (Do so safely)

    I personally conform to the view, 'You've to got to test it out, before you get engaged'. I don't think early or arranged marriage is a good thing, as others have advocated- primarily stating so due to the rulings of a 7th century religion. You need to look for compatibility, you need relationship experience, you need to test the relationship, see if it stands firm under pressure and trials, and if the person still remains faithful, intimate and loving. Then conclude whether the relationship is worthy of being upgraded to something as serious as "marriage".

    Marriage is not to be taken lightly, just to be misused for primarily the release of sexual frustration. In such a desperate state for sex, contemplating marriage seems like a very ridiculous and rushed decision, that will one likely regret post sexual activity.

    Sexual desire is natural and masturbation and premarital safe sex harms no one and is quite enjoyable.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I live away from home during term time but when I do go home my mum doesn't know the meaning of the word privacy (she says she's just 'tidying' my room - which is really just an excuse to go through my stuff). ,
    At 23? :eek4:
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    that's why self control is so important in Islam,
    and that's what Ramadan teaches you but since you've never fasted for such reasons your self discipline might have room for improvements,
    so... how about you try fasting with the right intentions this year and see how it goes?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's really twice a day, not all day. But you're right though, maybe going for a run will help.
    You just need a release. You're a young healthy woman at the end of the day and it is completely normal religious or non religious it doesn't matter. Many women can relate. So yeah find your thing if that is some sort of physical sport or running etc.
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    (Original post by Ishea16)
    that's why self control is so important in Islam,
    and that's what Ramadan teaches you but since you've never fasted for such reasons your self discipline might have room for improvements,
    so... how about you try fasting with the right intentions this year and see how it goes?
    I've fasted every year since I was 12 - except for last year (but that was really for medical reasons). I'm feeling better now so if my blood test results come back ok insha'allah I will fast this year. My GP is muslim so I will ask her about it when I go for my check-up.
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    (Original post by Josb)
    At 23? :eek4:
    mother's never stop.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    it's also where we hide the weed
    you sound like a fun girl, are you Muslim?
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    (Original post by GUMI)
    Welcome to every guys' life
    But I'm not a Muslim, nor am I female.
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    (Original post by GUMI)
    Welcome to every guys' life
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    (Original post by Perfection Ace)
    Revise whilst fasting - Ramadan is soon and this will definitely solve this problem. Nevertheless, I will be sure to make Dua for you!
    Good luck revising on a caloric deficit.

    #nocarbsafter6pm :rofl:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Sexual desire is natural and masturbation and premarital safe sex harms no one and is quite enjoyable.
    I think that this is the bottom line

    religions which uselessly torture people for years on end with forced chastity are a relic of times when no effective birth control system existed, when women had zero possibility of developing independent careers and financial autonomy, and were bought and sold like cattle

    luckily, as far as economically and socially developed countries are concerned, this torture is largely over, and pre-marital sex is the rule rather than the exception

    for most everyone, except for those poor Muslims (mostly females) who want to "take their religion seriously" and/or avoid to "bring shame" on their families
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    (Original post by yasminkattan)
    please don't follow the advice of non-Muslims
    well, this is really offensive and a heinous discrimination

    OP should simply follow the advice that makes more sense for her : regardless of whether it comes from Muslims, Scientologists, Pastafarians or Jedi Knights

    how did it happen that you developed this form of blatant kuffarophobia ?
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    (Original post by emobambam)
    you sound like a fun girl, are you Muslim?
    lol yes
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    I realise 'relieving myself' is not exactly halal, but I physically can't concentrate when trying to revise otherwise. If I didn't allow myself this then I most likely would have sinned worse by now. I envy people with low sex drives.

    I've been taking the tablets for 2 months and am due to stop taking them soon. Doubt they have increased my sex drive as it's only shot up in the past 2 weeks.

    Finding a marriage partner is v. hard when you don't live in a muslim area and at uni with only younger people. I've never gotten any attention from muslim guys for this reason (although I'm not ugly, I do get attention from attractive non-muslim guys). But I am staying away from dating right now.

    Thanks for the reply
    yeah i totally get why its hard to find muslim boys yourself in this situation- talk to older boys at uni if your year group are younger?
    and tell you're parents that you're ready for marriage- they can help u find a muslim boy - arranged marriage aint so bad ya know
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    (Original post by MevMev)
    arranged marriage aint so bad ya know
    You've had one?
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    lol yes
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