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i am talking from a religious point of view not a social or what society sees as the norm
Fair enough. I just can't believe people believe in all that stuff so much. But oh well.
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lol, If people are looking for muslims who have never even dated to marry, such muslims are very rare, especialy with our generation.
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tht is not my viewpoint mate...tht is a from a religious viewpoint..RELIGIOUS being the keyword!!! im sure u understand
Call yourself Ridhwaan, you have a beautiful name...........which i share :p:

Surah Hujuraat
11. O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former; nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former, nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it, to insult one's brother after having Faith [i.e. to call your Muslim brother (a faithful believer) as: "O sinner", or "O wicked", etc.]. And whosoever does not repent, then such are indeed Zâlimûn (wrong-doers, etc.)
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Ys, but only because I WANT to marry a Muslim man, so I wanted to find out whether there are Muslim guys out there who won't be affected by my previous relationship, I mean yeah, if he was unaccepting of it I wouldn't wanna date him, I wouldn't wanna compromise my views, it's just that I regret what I did for sure and kind of want to know that it won't affect my chances of meeting and marrying a Muslim guy like other girls.
I know this was a few pages back but I just wanted to respond to it. All I'm going to say is what's in the past is in the past. You regret what you've done, clearly.

"And whoever does evil, or wrongs his own soul, but afterwards seeks Allah's forgiveness, will find Allah is Forgiving, Compassionate." - Quran 4:110

If God can forgive you, who is anyone else to judge you?

Second, if anyone ever tries to throw the past in your face, tell them either the above^ or the story of Jesus [pbuh] and the adulteress. True, it's a Biblical account, but it may still hold some of the things Jesus [pbuh] really did.

In short, as Snookercraze said, relax

And to anyone who's saying the OP isn't a Muslim anymore - be careful, Prophet Muhammad [pbuh] warned that takfir against another Muslim could render yourself an unbeliever. You wouldn't want to lose your faith over an outburst would you?

And lay off a little. It's natural to have temptations and doubts. She came here for advice and opinions. Not a yelling at.
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You should wait, it's definitely against Islam and it will cause problems for yourself and family, if you want to marry a Muslim man, no matter what they say, they wouldn't marry a women who's lost her virginity before marriage.
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Hey

your thread compelled me to make my own account so i could reply.
i only happend upon it by chance.

I just turned 17 this weekend, I love my family and i do not plan on ever disrespecting them. but as far as my own life goes, well it must be lived by my rules. my mum was failed by the arranged-marriage rules and she always promised to give us liberation. But now that im getting older i can see the impending plans. My mum now buys us heavy traditional gold and often talks of marriage. i know this has little to do with your problem but you must remember that there is no way to escape your culture, your prediciment has little to do with islam and more to do with the culture you were born in.

im still a virgin, but i have sinned. ive not regretted it, i pray namaz, not for forgivness but for my mother. i flirt with boys, because they flirt with me and i enjoy sharpening my tongue on them. i love male company as it is every bit as good as female only better as theres no *****iness and more banter.

ive drank alcohol, only to experiment, to experiment, to live and not frigidly exist.
well i think you can do whatever you want so long as you dont harm anyone including your self

everyone is free and equal to do as they wish

i believe god exists but i do not believe in religeon
islam is a mans religeon
its been abused
we dont get to see it in its true and beautiful form. we recieve the mutated and evolved relegeon seeped in culture and oppression


i do sincerely hope that one day i can return to my old naive self and have faith

today however this is what i see and what i believe.

xxxxx

ps watch porn, and pleasure urself its a sin, but ur 'sinning' anyway so why not?

:P
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(Original post by shinystar)
You should wait, it's definitely against Islam and it will cause problems for yourself and family, if you want to marry a Muslim man, no matter what they say, they wouldn't marry a women who's lost her virginity before marriage.


thats because they are idiots


In the eyes of Islam marriage is sacred and therefor should take place between twopeople in love, thus it is not for the man to censor what she has done before.

im sure muslim men wouldnt even notiice, they would probably be to comsumed in their own pleasure, if i ever lose mine before marriage i just plan on balling my eyes out and pretending like it hurts


but then again i choose not to get married to someone who i woiuld feel the need to hide this from.
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(Original post by adamstaple)
Why are people so against marrying other religions in Islam?

It's perfectly acceptable, in Islam, to marry 'People of the Book', no? That includes Christians + Jews?

So why would she be ostracised? :confused:
A Muslim man can marry a Christain/Jewish lady, a Muslim woman can only marry a Muslim man.
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(Original post by ipulledhermione)
thats because they are idiots


In the eyes of Islam marriage is sacred and therefor should take place between twopeople in love, thus it is not for the man to censor what she has done before.

im sure muslim men wouldnt even notiice, they would probably be to comsumed in their own pleasure, if i ever lose mine before marriage i just plan on balling my eyes out and pretending like it hurts


but then again i choose not to get married to someone who i woiuld feel the need to hide this from.
Biggest generalisation/stupidness about ever Muslim men ever?:facepalm:

Especially for your 2nd post on TSR.
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I come from a muslim family, so sex before marriage is a huge no go area. However, I've always felt that if I was in a commited relationship with a guy I personally feel like I don't see the harm in having sex with him. I'm currently 16 and am planning on holding on to my virginity for atleast a while yet, but for me, waiting until after marriage is a bit much. I guess I don't know why I just posted this, to rant I guess.
*Please quote when you reply as I'll notice the post more easily
I know that there will be alot of people giving you advise but i feel that as a fellow muslim i need to share my knowledgewith you. what you then choose to do with it is upto you, it is said that Allah only puts love into a marriage when the nikah (wedding vows) have been read, so anything you feel before this is just lust or desire that is their from the devil and is a test from God to see what path you take, But its your path no-one elses and the ultimate decision is yours!!

Inshallah you will follow the correct path
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(Original post by humz2)
Biggest generalisation/stupidness about ever Muslim men ever?:facepalm:

Especially for your 2nd post on TSR.

well im a muslim girl having never met a muslim boy who has either not propositioned me for quick sex, or been a hypocrite.


ofcourse i assumed it as a given taht muslim men like men everywhere and humans cannot be generalised or blanket termed, that was simply my opinion or atleast what i convince myself to believe in order to protect myself form feeling the need for such a relationship.


you can and will judge me



but thats really only upto Allah
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Muslim girls, the final frontier. These are the voyages of the sex ship Enterherprise. It's continuing mission(ary postion): to discreetly go where no cousin has gone before....

Seriously, these threads get loads of attention: muslim girl + sex = big thread.
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(Original post by Dirac Delta Function)
LOLZ!! or stay sunni and fornicate, have a beer then go to the mosque on friday and talk about how other sects are deviants.
LOLLOLOL. HAhaha.. man this gave me a million flashbacks of the hypocrites at my mosque..
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Your religion doesn't forbid you from having sex. Seriously, if you are so committed then why not just marry him and you can do what you like?
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I know this was a few pages back but I just wanted to respond to it. All I'm going to say is what's in the past is in the past. You regret what you've done, clearly.

"And whoever does evil, or wrongs his own soul, but afterwards seeks Allah's forgiveness, will find Allah is Forgiving, Compassionate." - Quran 4:110

If God can forgive you, who is anyone else to judge you?

Second, if anyone ever tries to throw the past in your face, tell them either the above^ or the story of Jesus [pbuh] and the adulteress. True, it's a Biblical account, but it may still hold some of the things Jesus [pbuh] really did.

In short, as Snookercraze said, relax

And to anyone who's saying the OP isn't a Muslim anymore - be careful, Prophet Muhammad [pbuh] warned that takfir against another Muslim could render yourself an unbeliever. You wouldn't want to lose your faith over an outburst would you?

And lay off a little. It's natural to have temptations and doubts. She came here for advice and opinions. Not a yelling at.
That is so sweet and nice of you, thank you:o:
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That is so sweet and nice of you, thank you:o:
No problem
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are you on drugs or alchohol?I am a muslim boy in Lebanon,and like you i would completely love to have sex before marriage but i researched and i found out a lot.It is banned for a reason.Everything in Islam is baned for a reason. There are many reasons to the banning of premarried sex:
1-You are not matured enough
2-what would you do if you get a baby?(condoms are not good for your health)
3-What would you do if you break up with him?
4-Dont you think he will tell another person about it and when you break up wont he wanna **** you too?
5-what if he has aids?
and much more.do you think you are the only person who wants to have a penis in her vagina or put his pennis in anothers vagina?but its not good(and if you dont change your mind contact me i think we can settle on a place lol just kiddin)
and anyway sorry for the bad language....:redface:
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Sorry to ask a bit offtopic question but i just want to know..

If a muslim boy and a girl do have sex before marriage, And then later regret it alot and want to change and want to ask for forgiveness.. Can their sins be erased in islam?

Im asking because.. That boy is me.. I havent had sex but i've definitely gone close and had alot of touching and kissing and things like that.. it was a couple of times and i regret it every single day of my life.. i want to ask for forgiveness for myself and for her as well because it was all my fault.. I really feel depressed and im horrified to know what will be the punishment for those who have committed these sins.. Im just trying to change and trying to pray as much as i can with hope that god will forgive me..

Getting back to the topic, Girl If you are even REMOTELY a muslim, Even if you dont pray or pratice islam but you still believe in the religion, DONT have sex or anything even close to it. You will regret it for the rest of your life (if you do turn out to practice islam later). Im telling you this by experience. Its not worth it, You will regret having Couple of minutes of pleasure for the rest of your life if you stay a muslim that is.
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Don't see it as a 'possession', thats religious propaganda designed to keep you repressed. In reality, nothing changes when you 'lose it' and its not a big deal at all....just do it, you may get run over by a bus tomorrow, and as you're lying on your death bed, the life fading away, you will think, "if only...", not, "wow, I can take my virginity with me!!"

Yea so basically, just do it when you find some appropriate.
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(Original post by Local_United_Fan)
Don't see it as a 'possession', thats religious propaganda designed to keep you repressed. In reality, nothing changes when you 'lose it' and its not a big deal at all....just do it, you may get run over by a bus tomorrow, and as you're lying on your death bed, the life fading away, you will think, "if only...", not, "wow, I can take my virginity with me!!"

Yea so basically, just do it when you find some appropriate.

Unless she's planning on changing her religion, I wouldnt advise her to do it.

If she stays a muslim, If she believes in the religion, Then she will regret it horribly later. I have heard there are very horrific punishment for these sort of sins.. Im terrified to even find them out since im one of the sinners myself.. Im just praying and hoping that god will forgive my sins.. What else can i do..
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