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    (Original post by Midnightmemories)
    Good that you're hanging in there :hugs:

    I try not to be cryptic, it's just a habit I suppose I have because I'm aware that some people that know me irl know I use TSR and they could figure out who I am if I state the obvious on this thread. :dunno: I have been working on this recently, I just really struggle being open with people. And the entire NHS thing, I've tried before but it didn't go well.(she like side stepped the entire thing lol) I'm going to try again when I come back from holiday I think. :hide:

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    Thanks for your support last night guys, I was just feeling very low and I didn't know where to turn too.
    You're cryptic even in PMs though (understandable to be somewhat cryptic on here). I understand why but it renders me unable to help.

    Sadly with the NHS, one has to try and try again until you get somewhere, or involve advocacy services. Not saying that's easy though :nah:

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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
    You're cryptic even in PMs though (understandable to be somewhat cryptic on here). I understand why but it renders me unable to help.

    Sadly with the NHS, one has to try and try again until you get somewhere, or involve advocacy services. Not saying that's easy though :nah:

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    I really do try, ill try harder to be more open, promise. Sometimes i think I've said about something in here (like explained myself) but i haven't and its just like... whoops. no wonder people have no clue what to say :giggle:

    NHS is useless, i know this from physical health stuff (year and a half to get a diagnosis about my wrist problems, it's all to do with the flexor tendons apparently.. ) However I'm going to try harder. I'm not a kid anymore, part of me is attempting to wait until October so i don't have to deal with the awkward in between age stuff again. However, and I'm going to make this promise on here. Where everyone can see it. I'm going to seek help by the end of this year. I deserve this for myself. I need to treat myself better.
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Damn I'm sorry to hear that!

    I hope things will change! It would be nice to be happy again!
    I have been going for walks tbh. Not found much enjoyment or satisfaction tbh.
    Indulge in what?
    You will be happy again, trust me you will!

    Indulge in whatever takes you interest, be selfish.

    I like sport, when I am going through something I will buy new sport gear. I like acting so I will go to the theater etc

    Think of things you like and indulge my friend
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    (Original post by Midnightmemories)
    I really do try, ill try harder to be more open, promise. Sometimes i think I've said about something in here (like explained myself) but i haven't and its just like... whoops. no wonder people have no clue what to say :giggle:

    NHS is useless, i know this from physical health stuff (year and a half to get a diagnosis about my wrist problems, it's all to do with the flexor tendons apparently.. ) However I'm going to try harder. I'm not a kid anymore, part of me is attempting to wait until October so i don't have to deal with the awkward in between age stuff again. However, and I'm going to make this promise on here. Where everyone can see it. I'm going to seek help by the end of this year. I deserve this for myself. I need to treat myself better.
    That's the spirit. Do avoid awkward between stuff but once your bday comes round, seek help :yep:

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    Doing uni reassessments over summer is definitely the worst. Can't concentrate for **** but powering through. If I do well in this piece it could tip my overall classification for second year from a 2:2 to a 2:1. :eek:

    Still annoyed with everything that happened with IAPT but i'll get over it.

    I've been advised to apply for DSA for depression but I don't know if I should. My laptop works fine etc. and I doubt I'd use a dictaphone. What support have you got from them?
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    (Original post by Anon #2)
    Doing uni reassessments over summer is definitely the worst. Can't concentrate for **** but powering through. If I do well in this piece it could tip my overall classification for second year from a 2:2 to a 2:1. :eek:

    Still annoyed with everything that happened with IAPT but i'll get over it.

    I've been advised to apply for DSA for depression but I don't know if I should. My laptop works fine etc. and I doubt I'd use a dictaphone. What support have you got from them?
    The best support for me was not the equipment, but my mentor and the note taker. I spend most of last year and will spend most of my final year on placement, however, the mentor was still a great help. I would definitely apply.
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    (Original post by Anon #2)
    Doing uni reassessments over summer is definitely the worst. Can't concentrate for **** but powering through. If I do well in this piece it could tip my overall classification for second year from a 2:2 to a 2:1. :eek:

    Still annoyed with everything that happened with IAPT but i'll get over it.

    I've been advised to apply for DSA for depression but I don't know if I should. My laptop works fine etc. and I doubt I'd use a dictaphone. What support have you got from them?
    You can get things like extra time, a smaller room and rest breaks in exams.
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    (Original post by bullettheory)
    The best support for me was not the equipment, but my mentor and the note taker. I spend most of last year and will spend most of my final year on placement, however, the mentor was still a great help. I would definitely apply.
    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    You can get things like extra time, a smaller room and rest breaks in exams.
    Ahh right - thanks
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    (Original post by Ezme39)
    I wasn't trying to make it sound simple, and I'm sorry if that's how it came across.
    I meant that you need space to sort your own self out before you can be a shoulder to her, because neither of you sound like you are in a good place right now. And it is really hard to do, because you would naturally be used to being there for each other.
    I had the same problem with my ex, because I was his only friend (literally), and he had been my only support through an eating disorder. It seems counter-intuitive to back off during such a difficult time... but, from what you've said, she needs to find other forms of support too, and a bit of space might encourage her to do that.
    I may be completely wrong, but in my own case, I regretted not taking that step back, and it took me much longer to get my head straight afterwards.
    If she's going to university, that's a great opportunity to make other friends for additional support. A lot of unis have great counselling services too
    Some people find that, gradually, they start enjoying the hobbies for longer- maybe that will be the case for you Or just anything that can distract you for any time at all. If you can just 'get by' at the moment, it will (believe me!) start to get easier. Do you have people that you're close to, to share any of your feelings with?
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    The reasons why it is hard for me is because all the advice people would objectively give for this kind of thing, I already have tried, or rather I already have. I have close friends, I have quite a few friends as well as a close circle whom I talk to on a daily basis. My family are somewhat supportive although I don't really talk to them about these sorts of things. Hobbies, I have quite a few, I go on walks/runs, I do work, I play games with my friends, I skype friends, I also tutor quite a bit, I swim somewhat regularly (every couple of weeks).

    It's not a case of letting her go, it's a case of how do I deal with the intensity of my feelings. She has all the help she needs and all the support she needs, she has told her parents about her troubles, she has been seeing a therapist and has plans to continue therapy at university with the relevant support teams. She also has quite a few friends so these things are not the problem. Hobbies, friends, people to talk to, we both have these.

    My plans aren't to cut her out of my life, they really aren't. That would **** her and I up way too much in the long term given what we have done and the friendship we had and still have. We respect each other and have decided to keep close friends. I have asked her if, in the future, she would consider testing the waters again when we have less of a long distance relationship, i.e when we're at the same university and she has said she'd sleep on the idea.

    I was asking for advice on how to stop myself from SH because that is what is screwing my over right now.

    Sorry if this sounds cold, I don't really know another way how to write these things down other than just saying it how it is, thanks anyway.
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    I'm writing this in spoiler just to be sure.

    I am relapsing in my ED and I have lost all motivation to fight the thoughts - I finally have something that I am good at again, when I haven't eaten I feel so calm and so in control.


    Other than that, I am still feeling like s***. Still working on schoolwork and I am so scared about next year. I am still unsure whether or not I will tell my tutor about my social anxiety and panic attack stuff as there is a mandatory Lexio Brevis at the beginning of the schoolyear and I feel like I am going to have a massive panic attack as going back to school is stressful as is and because e.g. making exams in a room full of people who are making so much sound keeps triggering panic attacks (overstimulation I assume). On the other hand, I don't want them to know or come across as though I'm just a whiney little girl. Same goes for my depression and fear of failure as I can't concentrate at all and even forming sentences doesn't always work and I have been so scared that handing in an empty sheet feels safer than trying to answer questions, but I feel like I should just stop being so damn dramatising and whiney.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    Sorry if this sounds cold, I don't really know another way how to write these things down other than just saying it how it is, thanks anyway.
    Not at all. My reasoning was just that they are not independent of each other
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    Well my OCD has decided to make tonight a misery.
    My pillow is all wet from crying
    I can't take this much more!
    Argh!!!
    The sad thing is, this won't go away until the morning :cry2:
    Not looking forward to the next how ever many hours!
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    (Original post by WolfGangPro)
    You will be happy again, trust me you will!

    Indulge in whatever takes you interest, be selfish.

    I like sport, when I am going through something I will buy new sport gear. I like acting so I will go to the theater etc

    Think of things you like and indulge my friend
    I sure hope so! I'm not at the moment though.

    Cars! Many cars! Food but I'm on a diet, and video games.
    I'll buy a new game me thinks tomorrow! And then play it for ages!!

    Ah right I see! Well that's all good! Tbh I like driving but I don't think that's the wisest thing to do when my conditions act up tbh.

    I shall try to! Thankyou
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Well my OCD has decided to make tonight a misery.
    My pillow is all wet from crying
    I can't take this much more!
    Argh!!!
    The sad thing is, this won't go away until the morning :cry2:
    Not looking forward to the next how ever many hours!
    Anything which can make it marginally less awful? We're all here for you!
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    (Original post by Ezme39)
    Anything which can make it marginally less awful? We're all here for you!
    Umm well not sure tbh.
    Sleep maybe if I can get some. Hugs but there's no one here to hug me (I mean real hugs).
    Thankyou!
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    The holidays are major bumming me out. The first few weeks were okay but when I got to like the 5th week it's just all downhill. I can't do anything cause everything seems uninteresting or so much effort, I haven't got a job so I feel pretty worthless and atm I'm just staying at home all day doing **** all.

    I've met up with my mate cause my boredom got sm but I dont wanna ask him again cause i'll be bugging him so im just gonna be sat here bored out of my mind.
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    god how i wish i had never said yes to taking olanzapine . new meds are doing their job at least but i know i still have a long way to go. uni accepted my extenuating circumstances and allowed me to return in 2017 which is some good news at least. maybe planning a holiday with friends for end of august but not sure if i'm really ready for it, might do me some good though. need to work on getting in shape as well.
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    It's sure as hell exhausting trying to pretend your ok when you are struggling Even more frustrating when you know why you feel rubbish and can't do anything about it.*

    *Hugs* for everyone who needs them*
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    (Original post by Inexorably)
    The holidays are major bumming me out. The first few weeks were okay but when I got to like the 5th week it's just all downhill. I can't do anything cause everything seems uninteresting or so much effort, I haven't got a job so I feel pretty worthless and atm I'm just staying at home all day doing **** all.

    I've met up with my mate cause my boredom got sm but I dont wanna ask him again cause i'll be bugging him so im just gonna be sat here bored out of my mind.
    Set a daily routine. Wake up at a set time and go to bed at a set time.

    In the day you can do things for free like go to a library and pick out some books, read the daily papers - discover new things. Most libraries have free music/DVDs to rent too - browse, choose things you don't usually go for. Have a set lunch hour. Walk in a park, take some photos, share them with strangers on instagram and find people who have similar interest.

    Set a cleaning rota for yourself - keep yourself and your surroundings clean and tidy. Start cooking meals from scratch - have fun with it and experiment.

    Keep busy, have a routine and be productive.

    Believe me it can work wonders.

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