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I dropped out,
Resat some alevels, got a really good set of results (results I would have never dreamed off before i dropped out of uni)
Now im studying a great degree at a 1000000x better university.

Best decision I made.
Hey! This is an old thread and post but just in case you were still around...
I've recently dropped out/in the process of dropping out of uni the start of second year. I've applied to go to college because I dropped out for health reasons and thought full time work would be too much for me and also I need to focus my mind on something and am wanting to complete my a level in politics so i can do this at uni. How did returning to a levels after being at uni for a year go for you?
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Hi, I am in a right mess. I am in my second year at Uni. I changed my course 3 weeks in last year because I knew it wasn't right. I changed from journalism to Philosophy. At first I was sure I'd made the right decision, and I had because Journalism made me feel awful. However, as the year went on I couldn't help but question why I was actually doing it. I don't particularly enjoy it. Nor am I very good at it. This past year has really dented my confidence and I can't remember the last time I felt content with things. I feel so miserable all the time. The only time I'm happy is when I visit home or I'm out with friends. I've skipped everything this week because I just couldn't face it. The more we do the more I want to get out.
I've tried to do the work but I just have no motivation. I just keep thinking about how much I don't want to do it.
I really want to drop out but I have no plan B. My life literally has no direction. My parents will support me whatever but I'm afraid of what everyone else will say. I don't want to be the disappointment. I keep thinking that I will never be able to get a job because my CV will say University drop out. I keep thinking that I'll be 20 this year and I should be finishing uni next year so whats the point. I can't start again because then I'll be 23 when I finish and that's even worse.
Also, despite hating my course and missing home a lot, I really like it here. I have a great group of friends. Them plus the freedom of living the uni life is the only thing keeping me here.
Is that ridiculous? Would it be a mistake to drop out?
p/s sorry for the length of my ramblings
Mate that sounds bad! I don't know what you should do but if i hate uni classes that much that I started missing them i would drop out. Sounds like you're making yourself depressed. How do I know? I started missing a lot of lectures and sleeping a lot or trying to sleep a lot when i couldn't stand uni. I was miserable and a nervous wreck.

You have a few options:

Change back to journalism for the year and do the final year and leave, stick out philosophy for another 3 years, or drop out and think about what you really want to do woth life and work till you figure it out.

Feel free to pm me you or anyone else reading this. I dropped out of uni 4 times and went to 5 different unis and have been on 6 different courses!

Trust me when I say long term mental health issues are not worth it. I developed long term MH issues because i wasnt strong enough to drop out. Eventually i was asked to leave and then i kept dropping out of subsequent uni's due to low confidence
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I also dropped out my first time around. I was hit very heavily with anxiety and depression when I was 18/19, and I couldn't focus on school and ultimately had no idea what I was doing there. I wasn't interested in my subject, I was terrified of making friends, I thought everyone hated me, etc.

I moved downtown Toronto and worked for a few years, just serving jobs, nothing serious. I'll spare you the gory details but I learned a hell of a lot and I believe that period was when I did most of my growing up. Heartbreak, drug use, independence, friendships, responsibility... I experienced all these things and I wouldn't be who I am had I not done it.

I tried uni again three years later but still wasn't ready. My grades suffered because I couldn't be bothered. I finished the year but it was a sad detriment to my academic ability.

Now, two years later, I'm studying Law in the UK. There is nothing wrong with dropping out and finding your footing. I've matured so much with everything I learned living on my own and this time around I know exactly what I am doing here and therefore am thriving. I've never been happier in my life. I'm 23 and I've dropped out twice, yet here I am.

You will figure things out. Sometimes it just takes time. Let it.
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(Original post by rock_climber86)
Follow your gut instinct best advice anyone has given me and that will ever be given by anyone!
Thanks! 😊
Luckily my mum and dad has said now not to wait till Christmas and to just do what I want and that they will support me no matter what which I'm thankful for. I'm going to make a desicion soon but it looks like I'll end up dropping out. I've realised I'm not really that passionate or invested with my course which is probably the main thing I should be considering. I'm not even loving the area or uni life as I said before, so really I feel like there is no benefit in me staying. I suppose time will tell.
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Thanks! 😊
Luckily my mum and dad has said now not to wait till Christmas and to just do what I want and that they will support me no matter what which I'm thankful for. I'm going to make a desicion soon but it looks like I'll end up dropping out. I've realised I'm not really that passionate or invested with my course which is probably the main thing I should be considering. I'm not even loving the area or uni life as I said before, so really I feel like there is no benefit in me staying. I suppose time will tell.
I'm happy for you and glad your parents have come around and are supportive. :hugs:
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I am about to peruse my degree in University this January session, but however I would like to know why you have dropped out of uni?
I am an Indian we work after a certain time of University study. thats why i dropped from university.
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I'm happy for you and glad your parents have come around and are supportive. :hugs:
i dont know ur age. but as a university student u must pursue ur study as a part time scholar. All the best.
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i dont know ur age. but as a university student u must pursue ur study as a part time scholar. All the best.
Huh? not really sure why you quoted me with this message? Did you quote the wrong person?
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I also dropped out my first time around. I was hit very heavily with anxiety and depression when I was 18/19, and I couldn't focus on school and ultimately had no idea what I was doing there. I wasn't interested in my subject, I was terrified of making friends, I thought everyone hated me, etc.

I moved downtown Toronto and worked for a few years, just serving jobs, nothing serious. I'll spare you the gory details but I learned a hell of a lot and I believe that period was when I did most of my growing up. Heartbreak, drug use, independence, friendships, responsibility... I experienced all these things and I wouldn't be who I am had I not done it.

I tried uni again three years later but still wasn't ready. My grades suffered because I couldn't be bothered. I finished the year but it was a sad detriment to my academic ability.

Now, two years later, I'm studying Law in the UK. There is nothing wrong with dropping out and finding your footing. I've matured so much with everything I learned living on my own and this time around I know exactly what I am doing here and therefore am thriving. I've never been happier in my life. I'm 23 and I've dropped out twice, yet here I am.

You will figure things out. Sometimes it just takes time. Let it.
all the best
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Huh? not really sure why you quoted me with this message? Did you quote the wrong person?
may be sry
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Mate that sounds bad! I don't know what you should do but if i hate uni classes that much that I started missing them i would drop out. Sounds like you're making yourself depressed. How do I know? I started missing a lot of lectures and sleeping a lot or trying to sleep a lot when i couldn't stand uni. I was miserable and a nervous wreck.

You have a few options:

Change back to journalism for the year and do the final year and leave, stick out philosophy for another 3 years, or drop out and think about what you really want to do woth life and work till you figure it out.

Feel free to pm me you or anyone else reading this. I dropped out of uni 4 times and went to 5 different unis and have been on 6 different courses!

Trust me when I say long term mental health issues are not worth it. I developed long term MH issues because i wasnt strong enough to drop out. Eventually i was asked to leave and then i kept dropping out of subsequent uni's due to low confidence
Do what u love
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Do what u love
Please stop quoting me. I graduated from university 5 years ago. I'm just supporting students who went through what I went through all those years ago. Thanks.
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I started a Criminology degree a month ago, completely changed course/Uni through adjustment at the last the minute when I did better than expected.
I immediately hated university life, I have terrible problems socialising and there was so much emphasis put on that. The whole student lifestyle (drinking, clubbing, etc) just wasn't for me either.
I was fine with that, I was hoping to be able to fill my time with things I enjoyed and the work for my course. Unfortunately, I soon realised my course is just so dull and boring, with an extreme workload. There is so much reading required, and so much essay-writing that I just can't handle it very well.

I don't particularly know what to do-
I could attempt to drop out- but I'm not sure if I could handle the embarrassment, so many people have expectations of me, and it would be terrible to let them down.
But similarly, I'm just constantly miserable, and I've been rather ill over the past week, which could have been at least partially due to the stress.
Even if I did drop out, what of the money from SFE, the loans/grants...
It is all a rather confusing mess.
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Even if I did drop out, what of the money from SFE, the loans/grants...
It is all a rather confusing mess.
Hello,

The best source of information about this is SFE themselves. Call them and ask them what would happen to the tuition fees and loans and grants you have. They'll be able to tell you and send you paperwork out. I'm pretty confident you won't have to pay tuition fees for the whole year. You may have to pay the rent on your flat if you living out privately.

The no 1 most important thing is your health. You don't get a 2nd chance with health so take care of that above all else. If that means dropping out to preserve it, then so be it. University and a piece of paper that is a degree is not worth being miserable for, regardless of what people tell you.
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Hey guys, Im in the same boat. I left school in 2014 after 6th year, applied for game design at uni and graphic design at college but ultimately rejected both and took a gap year. That was a terrible idea because I basically lost all my confidence, had terrible anxiety and depression and applied for French and History at uni. Now that I am actually studying it I hate it. The workload is taking over my life and making me ill because I cant sleep or focus at all. I have only been here a month and I feel like such a loser for wasting a year of my life. My parents are annoyed that I wasted it too and I feel like I still have no clue what to do with myself. All my friends are in 2nd year already and I feel lke all I do is make mistakes. Not sure whether to try and suck it up and finish my deadlines instead of feeling sorry for myself but at the same time I have been absolutely horrible to my parents for being depressed and stressed. I was smart in school but after I left everything has just went downhill I wish I did graphic design because I would be in 2nd year of my HND by now
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Thank you! I left Manchester. Dunno where I'd reapply, somewhere closer to home that accepts AAA
Hi, I'm currently studying at the university of Manchester (first year) and seriously considering dropping out and reapplying to a uni in London next year. Feeling incredibly lonely, have no idea what I'm doing and feel so far away from friends and family back home. What were your reasons for leaving and what course where you studying, if you don't mind me asking?
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Hi, I'm currently studying at the university of Manchester (first year) and seriously considering dropping out and reapplying to a uni in London next year. Feeling incredibly lonely, have no idea what I'm doing and feel so far away from friends and family back home. What were your reasons for leaving and what course where you studying, if you don't mind me asking?
Are you a londoner? If so I totally empathise! I was at a uni outside london first time and it was crap. Felt like living in a village place with a lot of douchebags! When I moved back to london and commuted from home daily, it was awesome because I was in familiar surroundings, which helped a lot!
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This is exactly me at the moment, im dropping out this week and my mum and dad said do something that makes you happy, i would like to hear from you now and see what path you went from afterwards!
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I seriously don't know what to do.I thought it would get easier but every day waking up in halls is just depressing and I feel so homesick still. Stuff is going on with my family at home and I hate being far away from them, and I hate not having people who love and know me well around me to support me. I am going home this weekend and I'll speak to my parents, but I think they'll tell me to wait until christmas which I'll hopefully be able to do, but I don't know what to do if I leave. I would ideally want to transfer to a london uni and commute but everyone will already have their friends etc and I don't know if that would make it worse I am so confused and lonely. I don't feel ready for full time employment which is obviously the other option because I have no idea what I want to do, and I DO wanna get a degree, but I just don't feel strong enough to be at uni, which may sound a bit pathetic but I have always had issues with mental health etc and I feel that if something major or even minor ever happened I wouldn't be able to cope without being around my family
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So what makes you happy! Like if you like doing gym or anything, get a part time job in a leisure centre been a lifeguard , do a part Time for time been. Untill you find out what you want to do, there is also RAF! You can be PTI , or photographor, engineer ! Anything you want, get to travel world , make new friends, don't get it stuck in your head that uni is the only way forward cause even tho uni tell you that you will get a job, the real stat is its onl 3/10 that will get a job after uni and what make you special from over 20,000 other students that want the same job as you in England in your degree? It's risky to wait and waste 3 years! Think about it
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