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Muslim TSR users, should I marry this man? Arranged Marriage Watch

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    (Original post by AmazingArry)
    Great so you've resorted to trying to insult people.... congratulations you have failed. Marriage has nothing to with religion. Yes for someone who is religious it can have an influence on who that said person marries but thats about it. Its about the character that the potential partner has, and whether they make you happy. Love isnt a job interview and yes she should marry someone she loves. But only she will know if she's in love with someone, not a molvi who will tell her to do what her parents say and tell her to get married to a complete stranger so she doesnt commit zinna.
    Shes marrying him based off him being successful and her wanting to be a housewife... Marriage has lots to do with religion when shes a muslim... Highlighting why youre so ignorant. Theres a difference between arranged and forced... Are you really that much of a moron who doesnt understand the difference, who said arrange marriage means you get marriage to a stranger, all it is your parents recommending people to you or a marriage bureau no one will force her at gun point to marry a stranger. Clearly you havent studied much.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    how is it wasting tax payers money? if you are suggesting that then isnt everyone is was taking a loan? im planning on paying it back obvs. im working full time as well as studying full time so al have payed my first year off before the end of the academic year. the next gtwo years of my degree i will not be taking a loan.
    I swear OU degrees last 4 years minimum. Theres noway you have time to work full time and study full time without having a nervous breakdown or self inflicting insomnia.
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    I think you're too young. You're only 18, you have a lot to learn about life.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    im 18, going on 19 and its at a point where i dont mind getting married if the right person comes along. My dad is my only guardian who acts as a wali, my dad family are hindu and my mums side of the family are useless. Hes found someone for me but hasnt approached him yet. the guy is 25/26, he is Somalian (im south asain) he has a PhD and is a hafith of the Quran. he is well established too. i pray five times a day and wear the hijab and abaya although i still talk/flirt with guys so maybe its best if i get married as my spouse will fulfil my desires.

    Generally when it comes to looking for a spouse i look for 1.Islam and 2.being educated so he ticks all the boxes.

    the thing is i dont know if im honestly ready for marriage, i think i may be as i want to be a mother as soon as i can and i am ready to be a housewife (im fully trained too lol) another thing is that i dont know if i am ready for sex its so daunting and i dont think i could lose my virginity on my wedding night.

    what makes a person ready for marriage?

    can anyone give me any advice as to weather i should marry this guy? my dad woul never make me marry someone i dont want to

    feel free to ask any relevant questions
    I'm muslim and what I will say is that just because someone is your idea of Islamic, doesn't mean they'll be like this when you're alone together (as in treat you how you want to be treated). There is many people who are good in religion. But I'm only saying this because I read an article a couple of weeks back about a woman in your situation who married someone who she thought was very religious, only to receive years of abuse (not that this man is anything like your potential spouse). Just ensure you're marrying for the right reasons. Don't marry just because you want to fill your desires, instead wait for God to bring someone into your life. But whatever decision you make, good luck with it all
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    love marriages arnt Islamic
    ................................ ................................ ................................ ...........................uh... .....................Islam wth brah
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    (Original post by CAPTAINSHAZAM)
    Shes marrying him based off him being successful and her wanting to be a housewife... Marriage has lots to do with religion when shes a muslim... Highlighting why youre so ignorant. Theres a difference between arranged and forced... Are you really that much of a moron who doesnt understand the difference, who said arrange marriage means you get marriage to a stranger, all it is your parents recommending people to you or a marriage bureau no one will force her at gun point to marry a stranger. Clearly you havent studied much.
    The point is successs isnt a judge of character.... yeah so he's got a phd... does that mean he's a kind person... no. I never said forced did I, but she is concidering marrying a total stranger. She's said so herself, she hasnt even met him but she probably has to make a decision after one meeting with him before even trying to get to know him better.

    Religion only comes into marriage because of protocol. Thats it. Yes the man she marries will have to be muslim and it will have to be ordained by an islamic offical and her kids will have to be brought up muslim but thats literally it. Being a good person may be the secular version of being a good muslim or a good christian. How religious a person is has nothing to do with how good their intentions are.
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    (Original post by CAPTAINSHAZAM)
    Shes marrying him based off him being successful and her wanting to be a housewife... Marriage has lots to do with religion when shes a muslim... Highlighting why youre so ignorant. Theres a difference between arranged and forced... Are you really that much of a moron who doesnt understand the difference, who said arrange marriage means you get marriage to a stranger, all it is your parents recommending people to you or a marriage bureau no one will force her at gun point to marry a stranger. Clearly you havent studied much.
    I'm not ignorant, I know whats there and what isn't and I still make my own mind about things and don't let other people force me to think their way. Why do a lot of myslims choose to use the word ignorant as if we're back in pre islamic arabia and we're murdering people left, right and center and that it requires christ's 2nd comming.... Ffs no dude, thats the wrong word to use.
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    Soz that was an accidental anon... ubove post was me
 
 
 
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