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    2 down, 2 to go!
    Managed my last two exams with no major freak outs and I think they went okay. The first one I timed well and didn't run out of things to say. The second one I finished an hour early (1 and a half hour exam) but then I went back and added more examples and detail etc so I think I made up for it.
    I'm in quarentine tomorow with one other person which is going to be awkward but I think i'll be able to manage.
    I feel less anxious than I was a couple of days ago and some of the side effects seem to be reduced. I am still getting strange dreams a lot and it's taking me like 3 hours to get to sleep most nights but I think that will improve once my exams are finished.
    Cos i'm so stressy at the moment a few of my OCDs are getting worse and i'm in a really odd and crazy mood but my friends seem to be able to deal with it so it's all good. I'm being a bit more open about it with a few friends aswel which makes it easier.

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    I survived! I no longer look like a child with a dodgy haircut it's always so awkward though when they try to talk and I'm stuttering over my words.

    Accidentally spoilt myself today and spent a fortune on clothes, make up and toiletries. Think I needed a treat.

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    Going out tonight. Just to a close friend's flat, but there will be Other People There. This is kind not meant to be a big deal. Shouldn't feel this anxious about what is actually a really casual social gathering... but social anxiety kicking in. Plus PTSD anxiety because I know there will be alcohol which is fine unless it's not. And apparently playing Twister and that's scary because I normally run away when Twister is involved because I think it always ends up with physical contact? And I only touch safe people ever really and these people mostly aren't safe. But like, I don't really know how to deal with that in a socially acceptable way (i.e. not "I don't do physical contact so no Twister for me"). I could just angle to be the person spinning the spinny thing but not sure what I'll say if people are like "nawhhh have a go!" bleh it's such a ridiculous thing to be anxious about.
    I tink trying to be the spinny person is a very good plan. You said it was a 'close friend' - do they know about your problem? If so then they might stick up for you if people try get you to join in?
    Not in a telling them way but if they say "come have a go" and you say no then your friend can try to detract attention or something? Hope it's okay!

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    Had the exam I have been panicking about LOADS today. I think it was.. okay. Won't have done brilliantly but I never was going to. Hopefully done well enough to get into uni. One more exam left and then I am free.
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    I tink trying to be the spinny person is a very good plan. You said it was a 'close friend' - do they know about your problem? If so then they might stick up for you if people try get you to join in?
    Not in a telling them way but if they say "come have a go" and you say no then your friend can try to detract attention or something? Hope it's okay!

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    Had the exam I have been panicking about LOADS today. I think it was.. okay. Won't have done brilliantly but I never was going to. Hopefully done well enough to get into uni. One more exam left and then I am free.
    Yeah she knows about the PTSD and depression so shouldn't find it too odd if I sit in a corner trying not to join in. I think one of the others who is coming is under the impression that I have OCD (I have cleanliness-related compulsions, which are actually caused by the PTSD, and she picked up on them, but I didn't want to disclose PTSD to her because that means disclosing trauma and I'm not okay with that) and all the stuff about not touching people is maybe understandable with that knowledge. Maybe I just need to get drunk enough that weird behaviour is attributable to alcohol.

    Well done for doing the exam! I hope you do get into uni. Good luck with the final one! Make sure you look after yourself, maybe treat yourself to something nice tonight as a reward for getting through it? :hugs:
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    I really wouldn't say it's weird myself tbh so don't let them get to you is my advice that's okay, I mean you need a dry towel for a shower imo so ironed one is just taking that a step further is all! not idiotic to forget things either :nah: we all do it all the time, it's so easy to do! (I forget my hearing aid all the time for instance!) hope you found some socks to wear and stuff! :hugs:
    They've learnt to deal with it now ... exactly! I just don't know how to describe it, but I feel really weird if the towel hasn't been ironed beforehand. Something happened when I was wee, and since then I've just gotten into the habit of ironing everything, and if I don't then I just won't wear it at all. I'm always forgetting things this last week :facepalm: I ended up sleeping at my desk with my pillow and duvet, god it was hell! Woke up and I ran to iron my PJ's so now, they are ironed and I can sleep in my bed! :hugs:

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    Are you getting any help with OCD? I know how exhausting it can get when it's bad. Is there anything that triggered it do you think? Hope you manage to get a decent nights sleep tonight x


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    I don't have OCD .. well I don't think I have ... meh it's just something I always need to do. If I don't then it just makes me soo anxious and angry like last night. Nothing felt right last night all cause I hadn't ironed my PJ's :facepalm: As soon as I woke up ran and ironed them ... I hope I do to!
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    They've learnt to deal with it now ... exactly! I just don't know how to describe it, but I feel really weird if the towel hasn't been ironed beforehand. Something happened when I was wee, and since then I've just gotten into the habit of ironing everything, and if I don't then I just won't wear it at all. I'm always forgetting things this last week :facepalm: I ended up sleeping at my desk with my pillow and duvet, god it was hell! Woke up and I ran to iron my PJ's so now, they are ironed and I can sleep in my bed! :hugs:
    that's good then fair enough, the main thing is you are able to do it and it makes you feel okay when you have really we all have bad weeks so don't worry! memories tend to come and go sometimes! that's good, hopefully now you have stuff ironed you can get a good nights sleep tonight and stuff :hugs:

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    read/posted, people can be pretty ignorant of MH issues sadly, a lot of people think people do things for attention but they really don't, I tried to explain in my post there but basically I think anyone who feels able to open up about something like that is brave, there's so much stigma about it and it's so hard to be able to talk about, heck even to think about it, yet alone open up about it in the public domain like that. I like Stephen Fry as well, great comedian/character so I hope he recovers from things and feels better!
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    that's good then fair enough, the main thing is you are able to do it and it makes you feel okay when you have really we all have bad weeks so don't worry! memories tend to come and go sometimes! that's good, hopefully now you have stuff ironed you can get a good nights sleep tonight and stuff :hugs:



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    read/posted, people can be pretty ignorant of MH issues sadly, a lot of people think people do things for attention but they really don't, I tried to explain in my post there but basically I think anyone who feels able to open up about something like that is brave, there's so much stigma about it and it's so hard to be able to talk about, heck even to think about it, yet alone open up about it in the public domain like that. I like Stephen Fry as well, great comedian/character so I hope he recovers from things and feels better!
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    It always annoys me when people make comments like that, it just makes people suffering feel like ****. I agree, I think he's a very brave individual for this. I'm a Stephen Fry fan and hope he feels better soon and hope his discussion helps others struggling with horrible depression and related stuff
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    Thanks for your advice. I'm wary of seeing a GP if it doesn't help. Are there any guides online that actually help? I watched a few videos on it and whilst I knew and recognised what they were going through, the videos didn't really offer advice on how to fix it (many said you can't?) :s
    Hi,

    Although the GP is not fully qualified to diagnose/help you they are the gateway to help. By referring you onwards you can then access other therapies. The type of symptoms you may be experiencing if you think that you may have avoidant PD are treatable. CBT can help, phobia programmes and behavioural therapy. If the symptoms are actually a side effect of another disorder such as clinical depression or anxiety disorders (masking them in effect) then treatment with medication can be undertaken.

    Unfortunately you usually have to go through the GP first to get access to the other parts of the service. I can understand that this may be very intimidating when you are avoidant by nature. If you have any friend or relative that you trust then perhaps they may come along with you, even if it is just to the waiting room if you don't want them in the consultation. Try writing down what you want to express to the GP and take this note with you. If the worse comes to the worse you can always hand it over. Be clear that you want a referral to be assessed by the local mental health team.

    Most of all remember that the GP is there to serve you. He is a resource for you to use. If you don't like the GP you see or you feel they didn't listen or understand then you are perfectly within your rights to go and see another one.

    It always helps to gain insight into the types of problems you are experiencing: reading around the subject etc. Trying to deal with all the problems totally on your own without any support at all though is rather like trying to pick yourself by your own bootlaces. The real difficulty with avoidant disorders is that there is a tendency to be avoidant and not enter treatment and try to go it alone!!! It is a bit Catch twenty two.

    If you can find a way to get support it may make a real difference. You are entitled to such support and absolutely deserve it.


    Good luck,

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    Definitely shouldn't have read that. People's ignorance sometimes astounds me.
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    It always annoys me when people make comments like that, it just makes people suffering feel like ****. I agree, I think he's a very brave individual for this. I'm a Stephen Fry fan and hope he feels better soon and hope his discussion helps others struggling with horrible depression and related stuff
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    I think it comes from people who haven't had any real experience of MH issues by and large, I don't think someone who has experienced feeling that low would call someone else going through it an attention seeker, at least I think they would have to be very hypocritical if they did. I guess that brings me on to the other point that you made yourself, raising awareness of MH issues is key and it's important that people feel able to talk about them and also help to get rid of the stigma around them, people like Stephen Fry speaking out definitely helps that as it shows people even someone with the success and stuff he's had can still struggle so much with MH stuff, which I think a lot of people won't have realised and it also helps people realise just how difficult and commonplace it can be.
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    (Original post by SciFiRory)
    that's good then fair enough, the main thing is you are able to do it and it makes you feel okay when you have really we all have bad weeks so don't worry! memories tend to come and go sometimes! that's good, hopefully now you have stuff ironed you can get a good nights sleep tonight and stuff :hugs:
    Yeah, they've learnt to deal with it .. At first my mum used to say - what the hell are you doing?! or you weirdo etc etc. Yeah I mean if I don't do it then well you know what happens like last night :rolleyes:.. my memory is just totally shot .. yup planning on going to bed early, my back and neck are just aching :/
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    Definitely shouldn't have read that. People's ignorance sometimes astounds me.
    Me too :jumphug: It pisses me off a lot
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    I think it comes from people who haven't had any real experience of MH issues by and large, I don't think someone who has experienced feeling that low would call someone else going through it an attention seeker, at least I think they would have to be very hypocritical if they did. I guess that brings me on to the other point that you made yourself, raising awareness of MH issues is key and it's important that people feel able to talk about them and also help to get rid of the stigma around them, people like Stephen Fry speaking out definitely helps that as it shows people even someone with the success and stuff he's had can still struggle so much with MH stuff, which I think a lot of people won't have realised and it also helps people realise just how difficult and commonplace it can be.
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    I agree, I don't see many people with mental illness talking this way. I think it helps, it shows people that someone who is admired and successful has a mental illness, and that they have a role model. It does the same as making sure black people have black role models. It shows someone that even though they're different to the majority, it's okay and you can still be what you want.
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    Bloody hell there's some ignorant opinions in that thread.

    If I'm completely honest, I believe the only way you'll ever completely understand depression/bipolar disorder/anxiety/BPD/any other mental health problem is if you actually experience it yourself so I'm not completely surprised there are ignorant opinions being posted.
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    Just scanned through that thread, can't even begin to form a reply for it. I got out of bed and am going to do nothing dor the rest of the day because I can't think of anything to do on my own round here. Dont think I realised how isolated I am at home when I decided to take a break from uni. I don't have the energy to look for a part time job and so don't have the money to do anything. My friends are at uni still so it's not like I can hang out somewhere and get drunk.

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    Yeah, they've learnt to deal with it .. At first my mum used to say - what the hell are you doing?! or you weirdo etc etc. Yeah I mean if I don't do it then well you know what happens like last night :rolleyes:.. my memory is just totally shot .. yup planning on going to bed early, my back and neck are just aching :/
    fair enough haha maybe make a list of stuff that needs ironing each day? might help you remember! cool, hopefully some sleep helps your back and neck a bit! :hugs:

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    yeah, definitely, people tend to be much more understanding if they've experienced something themselves! agreed, it's good to give people someone to look up to and know that they go through the same thing and stuff
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    (Original post by djpailo)
    Thanks for your advice. I'm wary of seeing a GP if it doesn't help. Are there any guides online that actually help? I watched a few videos on it and whilst I knew and recognised what they were going through, the videos didn't really offer advice on how to fix it (many said you can't?) :s
    You can fix it in almost all cases. It can take a long time sometimes and sometimes it will involve things like meds too but it CAN be fixed or at least managed. Online there is some good advice, not all of it will be helpful but at least some of it will be so give it a go. Sites like Mind and Sane were probably the most useful to me along with other people's past experiences. All I did was google things like "how to beat depression" and it came up with loads of lists and articles. I've also recently found a book called "depressive illness: curse of the strong". I haven't read much of it but what I have read has really helped with my understanding of how depression works. It may help you to look into how your issues could be caused too.

    I would suggest seeing your GP about it. It may start off seeming like its not helping because the process takes a while but it's best to do it early and prevent things getting any worse. They may offer you meds (you won't have to take them though) and various forms of therapy to help you cope. They suggested I looked at a thing called "moodgym" (a form of CBT) while I waited for my referral. You have nothing to loose by seeing your GP (other than a bit of time) so I would urge you to try it.


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    Bloody sick of my step dad already trying to kick me out already and were not even back home till saturday :cry2: :sad:

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    :console: oh no, what happened? :lovehug:
    Just telling me to get a job or im homeless. I dont think he realises how few jobs there are

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