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    (Original post by fat_hobbit)
    lol

    how old are you? you write like a teenager

    You know right there is a huge difference between being a douchebag and being assertive? (the latter is attractive)
    There are about 5 broad major categories men can be in:

    - Douchebag
    - Bad boy (normally extremely self-confident and cocky)
    - Indifferent (i.e. averagely assertive)
    - Nice guy
    - Wimp (very nice guy)

    The bad boys are likely to pull the most women and most likely the ones sleeping with your girl behind your back. The girls open up for them easily and even chase them because they are a challenge and make the girls feel they are the special ones and if she does not come for it, other girls will snap him up.

    If you like, continue being a nice guy, you will continue whining about girls while they could not care less. You will get a girl, no doubt, but I cannot guarantee you who has been, and will be in her, behind your back while you are spending all your money to show her your love and buy an engagement ring.

    You will learn one day.
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    (Original post by LutherVan)
    There are about 5 broad major categories men can be in:

    - Douchebag
    - Bad boy (normally extremely self-confident and cocky)
    - Indifferent (i.e. averagely assertive)
    - Nice guy
    - Wimp (very nice guy)

    The bad boys are likely to pull the most women and most likely the ones sleeping with your girl behind your back. The girls open up for them easily and even chase them because they are a challenge and make the girls feel they are the special ones and if she does not come for it, other girls will snap him up.

    If you like, continue being a nice guy, you will continue whining about girls while they could not care less. You will get a girl, no doubt, but I cannot guarantee you who has been, and will be in her, behind your back while you are spending all your money to show her your love and buy an engagement ring.

    You will learn one day.
    It is about congruency, take Bill Gates. If he acted like a bad boy it would look stupid.

    He looks like a whimp, and women will not take the guy seriously.

    Whereas if you look like Vin Diesel and you act like a bad boy, it looks congruent. Women will be attracted. The guy looks tough and masculine.

    That's why your logic won't work. Every guy is different.

    Either way, it's about getting a balancing act between NOT being a push over and assertive.

    The problem a lot of nice guys have is that they generally put women on a pedestal and act like white knights, which is not an attractive trait. You can be nice but assertive when needed. That is masculine.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have very high standards... USUALLY.
    I talk to quite a few boys but most of them aren't people i'd consider a relationship with due to their attitudes. I still enjoy talking to them and flirt etc. I've been called high maintenance quite a few times, i'm inclined not to meet up for dates and sporadically reply. I stop talking to people who i feel have insulted me. ***** is one word that really instigates this. Howeveeer, i met this guy after he stopped me on the street, he wasn't really nice and i had to work to keep the convo going. I'm quite young so most people my age don't have much experience however he's 6 years older and seemed to have more. Long story short we met up first time i refused to have sex with him and it ended in a blow job. Second time we had sex. Now he won't answer my calls/texts and hasn't spoken to me for like a day? I didn't actually want a relationship, he's too old. I just kinda wanted to have sex with him but now that i have i feel really really used and cheap and easy? What should i do because i really don't feel like constantly ringing him but i want to at least talk it over so i don't feel so easy...
    I'm sexually inexperienced he's the second person i've ever slept with so please don't call me slut/hoe/****
    Why would he just cut me off like that, i would have assumed he'd at least want to have regular sex, he called me a couple hours after we had sex quite a few times and we talked for a bit, i said i'd call him back because i had to go and do something but when i did he didn't pick up...
    To be fair it's only been a day but yeah....
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    Guessing when your drunk its open legs 24/7
    I wasn't drunk, I don't drink, let the thread die now plz
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    (Original post by Yakob)
    Guessing when your drunk its open legs 24/7
    hahahahahah wish i cud rep
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    (Original post by fat_hobbit)
    It is about congruency, take Bill Gates. If he acted like a bad boy it would look stupid.

    He looks like a whimp, and women will not take the guy seriously.

    Whereas if you look like Vin Diesel and you act like a bad boy, it looks congruent. Women will be attracted. The guy looks tough and masculine.

    That's why your logic won't work. Every guy is different.

    Either way, it's about getting a balancing act between NOT being a push over and assertive.

    The ******* a lot of nice guys have is that they generally put women on a pedestal and act like white knights, which is not an attractive trait. You can be nice but assertive when needed. That is masculine.
    Which of "my" logic?

    My argument finally clicked in your head and in your embarrassment at not getting it earlier, you decided to ascribe a logic I never asserted to me?

    Did I say every male can be a Vin Diesel?

    How did you arrive at "That's why your logic won't work"?
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    (Original post by LutherVan)
    Which of "my" logic?

    My argument finally clicked in your head and in your embarrassment at not getting it earlier, you decided to ascribe a logic I never asserted to me?

    Did I say every male can be a Vin Diesel?

    How did you arrive at "That's why your logic won't work"?
    Bad boys look tough.

    It is about congruency.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have very high standards... USUALLY.
    I talk to quite a few boys but most of them aren't people i'd consider a relationship with due to their attitudes. I still enjoy talking to them and flirt etc. I've been called high maintenance quite a few times, i'm inclined not to meet up for dates and sporadically reply. I stop talking to people who i feel have insulted me. ***** is one word that really instigates this. Howeveeer, i met this guy after he stopped me on the street, he wasn't really nice and i had to work to keep the convo going. I'm quite young so most people my age don't have much experience however he's 6 years older and seemed to have more. Long story short we met up first time i refused to have sex with him and it ended in a blow job. Second time we had sex. Now he won't answer my calls/texts and hasn't spoken to me for like a day? I didn't actually want a relationship, he's too old. I just kinda wanted to have sex with him but now that i have i feel really really used and cheap and easy? What should i do because i really don't feel like constantly ringing him but i want to at least talk it over so i don't feel so easy...
    I'm sexually inexperienced he's the second person i've ever slept with so please don't call me slut/hoe/****
    Why would he just cut me off like that, i would have assumed he'd at least want to have regular sex, he called me a couple hours after we had sex quite a few times and we talked for a bit, i said i'd call him back because i had to go and do something but when i did he didn't pick up...
    To be fair it's only been a day but yeah....

    you remind me of a girl i chirpsed on the street. met up with her and got a blowjob.

    like i think putting my **** in your mouth. is more of a big deal than you're vagina. so i've already got the better of the two options. so i'd probably only have sex just to kinda... plant the flag of vagina conquest.

    but yea. you were easy, he did use you and it wasn't costly.

    see. all the guys you've thought you were so much nicer than. they get older. so this guy you sucked off was you're age once. and he remembers girls like you. so right now he's probably laughing at how easy you were. all it took was to be a lil older and have some experience.


    so young guys looking at this thread. remember girls like this who you've tried to date and how bad their decisions are when it comes to men. you will get your day to be in the mans shoes. and you will laugh at how women don't start to grow up until they lose their sex appeal.
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    (Original post by Mick.w)
    you remind me of a girl i chirpsed on the street. met up with her and got a blowjob.

    like i think putting my **** in your mouth. is more of a big deal than you're vagina. so i've already got the better of the two options. so i'd probably only have sex just to kinda... plant the flag of vagina conquest..
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