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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    Are you a homosexual?

    Nice picture .
    What sort of question is that???
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    (Original post by ServantOfMorgoth)
    What sort of question is that???
    A close ended question.
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    A close ended question.
    Right.

    How about invasive?
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    (Original post by ServantOfMorgoth)
    Right.

    How about invasive?
    Perhaps. But he didn't have to reply. I'm just some stranger on the internet.

    Personally, I find my sexuality (or lack of) a lot less of a deal than sharing my picture on here.
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    (Original post by Cremated_Spatula)
    You look quite a lot like Heath Ledger in your pics :sexface:

    So cute
    Wait, what? I look like Heath Ledger? :lol:

    Oh haha, just saw your edit. I was a bit like wtf...

    Thanks
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    (Original post by fire_and_ice)
    Wait, what? I look like Heath Ledger? :lol:

    Thanks
    Rofl, no sorry, the quote didn't work.

    That was to Rob
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    I thought I sensed that .

    I identify as straight but I like guys only and the D.
    How are you straight if you're a male, like guys and the D? :confused:
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    (Original post by fire_and_ice)
    How are you straight if you're a male, like guys and the D? :confused:
    I'm not though I am slightly mocking people who self-identify as wacky sexualities despite clearly being something else and wanting to be special.

    I myself used to say I was bisexual and homoflexible. I also used to think I was asexual .
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    Perhaps. But he didn't have to reply. I'm just some stranger on the internet.

    Personally, I find my sexuality (or lack of) a lot less of a deal than sharing my picture on here.

    That may be so, but it's not YOUR sexuality in question here. You'd think that gay people would have respect for those types of questions but no, not you, you just HAVE to know because the question tickles your fancy, right?
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    (Original post by ServantOfMorgoth)
    That may be so, but it's not YOUR sexuality in question here. You'd think that gay people would have respect for those types of questions but no, not you, you just HAVE to know because the question tickles your fancy, right?
    Hey, I just asked a question.

    I am an orphan and it hurts my feelings a little when people ask if I'm spending time with parents for christmas but it doesn't mean I get offended over it. An inquiry is not homophobia.
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    Hey, I just asked a question.

    I am an orphan and it hurts my feelings a little when people ask if I'm spending time with parents for christmas but it doesn't mean I get offended over it. An inquiry is not homophobia.

    It's none of your business, that's the point.
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    (Original post by ServantOfMorgoth)
    It's none of your business, that's the point.
    But nothing is my business really. I ask someone "how are you" and they could say I'm not entitled to know how they're feeling.

    My question wasn't inherently offensive imo (few things are) and the person to whom the question was directed didn't indicate they minded. I see no harm done.
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    But nothing is my business really. I ask someone "how are you" and they could say I'm not entitled to know how they're feeling.

    My question wasn't inherently offensive imo (few things are) and the person to whom the question was directed didn't indicate they minded. I see no harm done.

    So take it as future refrence then, don't go around asking people that, like it is as common and meaningless as the old "how are you" question.
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    You're disrespectful as ****.
    Chill your turbo thrusters, captain.

    The angst in this thread is already near the maximum threshold.
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    (Original post by ServantOfMorgoth)
    So take it as future refrence then, don't go around asking people that, like it is as common and meaningless as the old "how are you" question.
    I don't think you understand what I'm saying.

    I'm saying that there are few questions which are inherently offensive as offence tends to be taken and not given.
    You can't be offended in his behalf and it is up to him to decide whether whether my question was inappropriate or not. But no, it's not a question I generally ask although I wouldn't mind being asked myself. It depends on the context. I would feel nervous if asked accusingly by a big guy in a testosterone fuelled environment.

    You need only look at this list to see that there's some disparity between what some people consider to be harassing speech or behaviour compared to others.
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    I don't think you understand what I'm saying.

    I'm saying that there are few questions which are inherently offensive as offence tends to be taken and not given.
    You can't be offended in his behalf and it is up to him to decide whether whether my question was inappropriate or not. But no, it's not a question I generally ask although I wouldn't mind being asked myself. It depends on the context. I would feel nervous if asked accusingly by a big guy in a testosterone fuelled environment.

    You need only look at this list to see that there's some disparity between what some people consider to be harassing speech or behaviour compared to others.
    I'm not "offended on his behalf", I'm pointing out indecent behaviour, that's all. What if he had been "in the closet" and felt outed by your very PUBLIC question? (I know he wasn't but as I said, this is for future reference)
    I cannot see how you don't think it's not a problem to ask.
    That list is about women and is hardly exhaustive.
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    (Original post by ServantOfMorgoth)
    I'm not "offended on his behalf", I'm pointing out indecent behaviour, that's all. What if he had been "in the closet" and felt outed by your very PUBLIC question? (I know he wasn't but as I said, this is for future reference)
    I cannot see how you don't think it's not a problem to ask.
    That list is about women and is hardly exhaustive.
    Then he would simply deny it. Someone always might be "something". Perhaps you're sensitive to my particular question for various reasons...but as you don't know what feelings people may have, you can't second guess yourself. Again, I bring up people and their questions which assume I've parents despite their lack of them. Just as I am not offended as I know they couldn't possibly know then how am I to know he's closeted?

    I appreciate your perspective which is why I don't go around asking invasive questions irl (I have asperger's so I have had some accidents in past years) but I don't feel similarly about semi-anonymous online accounts.

    I quoted the list because I disagree that at least some of the things are harassment. Like being offended when ignored, for example.
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    Then he would simply deny it. Someone always might be "something". Perhaps you're sensitive to my particular question for various reasons...but as you don't know what feelings people may have, you can't second guess yourself. Again, I bring up people and their questions which assume I've parents despite their lack of them. Just as I am not offended as I know they couldn't possibly know then how am I to know he's closeted?

    I appreciate your perspective which is why I don't go around asking invasive questions irl (I have asperger's so I have had some accidents in past years) but I don't feel similarly about semi-anonymous online accounts.

    I quoted the list because I disagree that at least some of the things are harassment. Like being offended when ignored, for example.

    No wonder I feel like I'm going in circles with you, you're an aspie, take it from someone who is not, don't ask people that question unless you know that. You do realise you're really asking "who do you have sex with, males or females or both?" Your no parents comparison cannot be compared to the level of invasion this question brings.
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    (Original post by ServantOfMorgoth)
    No wonder I feel like I'm going in circles with you, you're an aspie, take it from someone who is not, don't ask people that question unless you know that. You do realise you're really asking "who do you have sex with, males or females or both?" Your no parents comparison cannot be compared to the level of invasion this question brings.
    I'm not asking that, no, because you don't necessarily have sex with those you're attracted to. I understand what you're saying. I just disagree. My having aspergers does not make me thick. I could feel offended by your implication :rolleyes:. But I am less sensitive than most for other reasons.

    When someone asks "do you have a girlfriend?", they aren't asking "is there a woman you're having sex with". When they ask "do you think you'll have kids?", they aren't asking "do you and your girlfriend have sex without a comdom".

    My question was what it was - a simple inquiry - and not a euphemism for anything more invasive.

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