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    (Original post by acupofgreentea)
    Never having been in a serious relationship =/= virgin.
    Can you not read?

    He specifically said 'meaningless relationships'.

    Besides, we're on TSR so I just assume the person I'm talking to is a virgin, anyway.
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    I really want a relationship, I truely do.

    However, because I had and still to some extent have social anxiety and bipolar throughout most of my teens, I found it uneasy to make new friends, and especially, talk to girls. With time, I gained experience and confidence, went to university, had some interest from females at halls, gained the job I like and have a stable financial situation, but I still feel a total failure for a 20 year old, who hasn't had any sort of a relationship.

    But once I see someone as obnoxious and ignorant as OP, I realize that this is not all my fault. Yes, tell me to be an alpha male because that's what every girl loves - a man that is able to pose as a potential husband, who can give maximum security. It's true, but why the need for arrogance? What a pathetic narrow perspective...

    In my past but recent experience, on 8 out of 10 occassions (no matter whether this is online, text or in person), the girl was turned off by a simple matter like using the word "Listen" to begin a text in which I proceed to ask the girl directly whether she wants to hang out here at this time (how can you judge my entire personality based on a single word in a 7 day conversation that was flowing well. I'm convinced there was no other reason as I was direct in stating my intentions) and freezes all contact; like she knows every single detail about me. I don't even get a reply saying where I have gone wrong, which would be common courtesy to do that. Even if it's a simple "I'm busy"... I'd get the hint, I'm intelligent. I followed it up a week later, and still heard nothing, so deleted her number.

    In another example, the girl wrote me off because I told her straight up not to disrespect me. In yet another example, the criteria of me not having a house made me a write off. I apologize, I forgot we all earn 250k/yr and can afford a house; just adds to the stress and wakes up the low points in my bipolarity - what do you know about it anyway.

    I digress but the matter is simple. I will make the effort if a woman has manners, which I feel not many women under the age of 25 have taken out of their household. Even the bang average girls seem to be rude, and obnoxious, thinking they're a 10 and can get any man they want. Wrong. One of them I saw on YouTube, sitting in a dirty room, ranting about how misogynistic males are, adding how she hasn't been in a relationship for 2 years, and she'd be okay with all the hate she'd get in the comments, while at the same time doing a massive list on how you'd get swiped left on Tinder if you had a girl on the profile picture or wrote a stupid quote because it says nothing about you. I quickly came to the conclusion she needs sectioning, like most women who pick by such criteria.

    I find that this 'lack of manners' thing is only the case within the United Kingdom and with younger women, mostly under 25, as I got a lot of better results when I went to Netherlands, France or spoke online with women who I later became friends in US. However, most of them just remain friends as it is through my hobby, which is music, and they're almost always over 25 and outside of my interest range. I met a girl who was 21 at one of these events, but she was in a relationship; yet we still somehow talk until today like we're in one.

    There are of course normal women who have manners, but I'm still yet to find one. I came close yesterday, as it seemed to be going fine. We met on Tinder, I found her Facebook three days later, and on the fifth day, I get back that she's busy with dissertation when I ask her whether she's around in X at this time. But at least I got the "I'm busy". Not the response I wanted, but I'm mature enough to understand that she is either genuinely busy, or not interested. So I keep looking!

    For the above reasons I prefer to focus on education, career and self-improvement, but I keep looking for someone who has manners, and someone who isn't so far up their backside, that they decide to make such a topic.

    The OP also implies that as a man, the social etiquette states that I should not go onto a forum, and state my opinion, but it boils my blood when I see posts like these.

    How's your Fiat 500 the parents bought you for your GCSE results?
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    because Relationships waste so much time especially at a young age and just cause People to get upset (not always)
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    (Original post by AngryRedhead)
    I apologise in advance if this comes across as rude or insensitive but, barring cases where you went to a single gender secondary school, how does someone get to, like, 18 or 19 and not manage to get a boyfriend or girlfriend? I was a total dork in high school but even I managed to get a boyfriend at 15.

    The amount of butthurt on this forum is too damn high :toofunny:

    Btw: I'm not talking about all those people who didn't want a relationship; but all those whiners on anon who whinge about not being able to get someone at 18-20
    A combination of nerves, uglyness, and arrogance is what stymied my engagement with the female gender in school. Then when I moved to Scotland at 17 I felt more confident and exercised (never got particularly muscular) so the opportunity arose sometimes - and I did a lot of stuff but never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend. and never went the full sha-bang
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    I think often people are shy/not forward enough or dont know the correct way to be forward so are unsuccessful. Many girls who i knew fancied guys but they left it at that... they made no move. Many guys probably do this too. Then when you realise you arnt getting the attention as hoped you tell yourself that you arnt looking and focus on different things.
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    You mention same sex schools making someone exempt, yet by that same logic surely the only way in which NO ONE manages to get to 18 with no girlfriend/boyfriend is if there are an exact number of male and females in every school? (Or the exact number which allows for gays, but you get the drift)

    The truth is, 'numbers of males and females' are only one contributing factor among infinite others that affect whether someone has a relationship by a certain age. Obviously the vast majority of them are individual based, whether it be through choice of whether or when they decide they want a partner, or if it involves personality traits/appearance factors that they do not have 100% control of. Or if they just haven't met the person that's right for them, other commitments... There are far too many to count, and to say that it can't be simplified by the fact they go to a single/mixed sex school would be the understatement of the century.
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    (Original post by indigofox)
    I think often people are shy/not forward enough or dont know the correct way to be forward so are unsuccessful. Many girls who i knew fancied guys but they left it at that... they made no move. Many guys probably do this too. Then when you realise you arnt getting the attention as hoped you tell yourself that you arnt looking and focus on different things.
    I tkinda agree with that. But I also think that most pople don't act on things because they just want a relationship. Not the person they wish to seek a relationship with.

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    (Original post by AngryRedhead)
    I'm sorry you had a bad time
    That's alright, I left school like 5 years ago, I haven't looked back
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    (Original post by AngryRedhead)
    I apologise in advance if this comes across as rude or insensitive but, barring cases where you went to a single gender secondary school, how does someone get to, like, 18 or 19 and not manage to get a boyfriend or girlfriend? I was a total dork in high school but even I managed to get a boyfriend at 15.

    The amount of butthurt on this forum is too damn high :toofunny:

    Btw: I'm not talking about all those people who didn't want a relationship; but all those whiners on anon who whinge about not being able to get someone at 18-20
    i didn't have anything proper but i have never complained i would have liked it but it never happened it just focused me on my work more which is a good thing
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    I guess deep down I don't want to get hurt or used . I think that's why I haven't been in a relationship. Also I went to Church schools and at sixth form there were only a small number of boys.
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    social anxiety, maybe experiencing depression, low self esteem, low confidence, maybe not actively looking for one...
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    I usually focus more on hanging out with my friends and school. Plus 90% of the boys at my school that I have talked to who are into girls are all fu*k boys so I'll pass.
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    No one ever gave me the chance back when I was younger. Hell, still don't. For some of us the opportunities just never arise.

    Other reasons include wanting to be single, focusing on studies/work, wanting to play the field etc etc. Nothing wrong with being single at those ages either, though for many people finding a relationship around that time is ideal.
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    21 years, and never even kissed a girl. Because im a worthless person.

    Let me show my negative points:

    - Extremely short (156cm)
    - Overweight
    - Dumb as a brick
    - Poor
    - Hate going to parties
    - Have no talents or skills
    - Failed at everything i've ever tried

    Now my qualities:
    - none

    No sane girl in the world would like this. Not all people deserve to find love and happiness, some dont even deserve to be alive
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    (Original post by AngryRedhead)
    I still had income coming in and my GCSE grades were in the top 5 of our year in secondary school. I even picked up two awards
    Really? Your GCSEs are pretty bad.
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    (Original post by anonwinner)
    Really? Your GCSEs are pretty bad.
    Jeez no need for the call out😅
    Tbf I thought her GCSEs were pretty decent. And in her defence, she did say she went to a bad school so I relate completely
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    (Original post by revolver777)
    You mention same sex schools making someone exempt, yet by that same logic surely the only way in which NO ONE manages to get to 18 with no girlfriend/boyfriend is if there are an exact number of male and females in every school? (Or the exact number which allows for gays, but you get the drift)

    The truth is, 'numbers of males and females' are only one contributing factor among infinite others that affect whether someone has a relationship by a certain age. Obviously the vast majority of them are individual based, whether it be through choice of whether or when they decide they want a partner, or if it involves personality traits/appearance factors that they do not have 100% control of. Or if they just haven't met the person that's right for them, other commitments... There are far too many to count, and to say that it can't be simplified by the fact they go to a single/mixed sex school would be the understatement of the century.
    I agree, in my secondary school it was 69% boys and 31% girls. There are also a lot more girls than boys at my sixth form...
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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    Becoming a tsr mod isn't an accomplishment for you? Or resonating well with the sadistic lot wrt football? Me, I just waited for my chance in life and that is why I haven't posted a lot on tsr recently. Just a thought.
    Maybe I should use that as a pick up line?

    To be honest if something was going to happen for me it would have by now. There's a better chance of Lionel Messi signing for Aston Villa this summer than me ever getting to even kiss a girl, never mind anything further.
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    Low self esteem is a ***** when it comes to finding a relationship (and trust me I've tried)
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    (Original post by nbdy)
    21 years, and never even kissed a girl. Because im a worthless person.

    Let me show my negative points:

    - Extremely short (156cm)
    - Overweight
    - Dumb as a brick
    - Poor
    - Hate going to parties
    - Have no talents or skills
    - Failed at everything i've ever tried

    Now my qualities:
    - none

    No sane girl in the world would like this. Not all people deserve to find love and happiness, some dont even deserve to be alive
    At least you could have a 10/10 face?
 
 
 
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