(Original post by Stray_talk)
If you don't mind me saying it al sounds quite complex and messy - are you really sure you want that?
Situation is quite messy, yes. We're going for a clean break until the end of the summer, although with the caveat of no relationships with anyone else. We can both see each other being together in the long-term (married and with children no less), but not in the short term, and I'd agree with that.
We've had some problems and they're contextual and time-healing problems (she's cheated on me, I've not been the best of boyfriends). With contextual I mean the flat we both live in is rubbish, it's too small and we get on each other's toes, and she doesn't get enough emotional and physical space. I know
it's the flat because prior to moving in together we were absolutely fine and dandy, like made for each other. We're just one of those couples that has problems living together, and I understand why "proper" couples consider it a big step moving in together as opposed to thinking very lightly about it. Nothing like learning from mistakes.
Next year she's going to Berlin and I'm going to hopefully be doing a PGCE in England, which is perfect. First time any couple has actually wanted an LDR!
Basically, I need to sort myself out over the summer. Her big problem with me is that I spend too much time on my bum playing games. This has been a problem for me for ages, I just use my computer whenever I'm bored or want to do anything. I know that there's more to life than that so I'm going to use this time apart to figure out how to break this rut. Rather than just moping around feeling miserable I'm going to, as Andy Dufresne famously said in the Shawshank Redemption
, "get busy living" and not get busy dying. I'll undoubtably be sad at some points, in which case please refer me to this post.