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    (Original post by Noodlzzz)
    Hope it goes well SS :hugs:

    When is it for?*
    Thanks :hugs:

    It's on 7th October, so not too far away. They've also gave me numbers for my local CMHT and social workers as well which they haven't done before. Hoping this is finally a step in the right direction regarding my treatment

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    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    Thanks :hugs:

    It's on 7th October, so not too far away. They've also gave me numbers for my local CMHT and social workers as well which they haven't done before. Hoping this is finally a step in the right direction regarding my treatment

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    That's really great news!

    The good thing about a CMHT is that they are holistic. They will look at meds as well as psych approaches and also social ones such as benefits, housing, relationships etc. They are also good as they can see you quite frequently if needed, which sounds like it would be helpful for you atm.*
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    Oh my word. So I was prescribed ritalin over a year ago for ADHD and it was really helpful for concentration when working, but I wasn't studying at the time. I have now spend the last 2 days studying and the difference compared to not being on meds! I'm not normally a med person as some as some of you may have gathered from my posts in the last few months but I really feel I can actually concentrate now in my masters degree and with mental health support actually do well this year!
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    (Original post by Andy98)
    As a nerd I almost feel bad for the internet existing, because it causes this sort of pain to people; it's ridiculous that something invented for the ease of scientific communication is now mainly used for porn and insults. My policy is just to treat people how they treat you, regardless of who they are. I just don't see why people enjoy posting the sort of **** that starts all of this. I mean I'll make jokes but if someone tells me I'm going too far I'll bring it in, cause in a world where half the countries are war torn; we don't need the other half ****ing each other over.

    I'm sorry, it's just internet trolls piss me off

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    Yeah, I know what you mean. It's such an incredible tool with so many amazing uses and way too many people use it just to hurl insults and cause trouble. Totally agree.
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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
    Oh gosh, that must be incredibly difficult if the host is unaware like that :eek: My host tends to be aware but sometimes it can take hours/days to realise I've switched

    Sounds like you've been through a lot in life :jumphug: Having a quieter head is def good. And never apologise for posting in here, or posting long replies :hugs:
    It will sound contradictory which makes me wonder if I even have a "host". To keep myself safe I built an observer/analyser part and when they are in control, I'm aware of more parts and the parts talk to her rather than switch to be heard. But sometimes it takes me a while to know I've changed too.

    I guess that's because for the most part my cognition isn't affected too badly with older teen sort of age. It's more like realising after the fact that I've been emotionally responding very differently. But it's not always that clear either.

    I used to be really bad for contradicting myself. And both points would feel true. It's been much easier to be honest about thoughts and feelings now I can say, this part thinks this and this part thinks this.

    Do you find you contradict yourself much?
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    (Original post by ~Tara~)
    It will sound contradictory which makes me wonder if I even have a "host". To keep myself safe I built an observer/analyser part and when they are in control, I'm aware of more parts and the parts talk to her rather than switch to be heard. But sometimes it takes me a while to know I've changed too.

    I guess that's because for the most part my cognition isn't affected too badly with older teen sort of age. It's more like realising after the fact that I've been emotionally responding very differently. But it's not always that clear either.

    I used to be really bad for contradicting myself. And both points would feel true. It's been much easier to be honest about thoughts and feelings now I can say, this part thinks this and this part thinks this.

    Do you find you contradict yourself much?
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    I contradict myself all the time, especially with regards to how I view my abuser. I understand that it's natural for abused people to have mixed emotions/reactions towards their abuser, but sometimes mine feel quite extreme: one minute, I'll be completely defending her, and the next minute I'm swearing about/cursing her like there's no tomorrow It can be quite confusing for those who don't know me/the situation well, or those who are not clinicians and thus are ill-equipped to deal with my conflicting accounts of what happened. It's not that I lie - I genuinely experienced both sides of the story I tell.

    Similar to you, it's so much clearer and easier not only for myself, but for others too, for me to say "this TLG felt/feels/experienced/experiences A, whereas this other TLG felt/feels/experienced/experiences that". Even if I don't get a diagnosis of DID, I think I will continue to identify as five different TLGs to both myself and others. It just makes a lot more sense to explain it that way and it helps me to feel like I've got a better grasp of what is currently going on with me :yes:
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    (Original post by ~Tara~)
    That sounds like a really horrible cough 🙁 You're not pathetic, it's okay to feel overwhelmed.

    Hugs if okay
    Yeah, it is pretty bad. I think a different medical condition I have is causing it, just one problem after another. :sigh:

    I think it's not ok to feel overwhelmed. It's not as if other people at this university don't have the same or even more work than me to do and they manage. I'm scraping Ds and it seems that all the people around me have high Bs or even As. How do they manage to fit everything in - I mean, I don't even have friends so socializing doesn't exactly take much out of my week. But I feel completely unable to cope. People around me are coping, I am not and I do not know how to turn things around.


    I read your posts to TLG, I hope you don't mind me asking, do you have a formal diagnosis? You may have mentioned it before (sorry, terrible memory).
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    i'm being admitted to hospital and i'm just so ****ing terrified
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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
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    I contradict myself all the time, especially with regards to how I view my abuser. I understand that it's natural for abused people to have mixed emotions/reactions towards their abuser, but sometimes mine feel quite extreme: one minute, I'll be completely defending her, and the next minute I'm swearing about/cursing her like there's no tomorrow It can be quite confusing for those who don't know me/the situation well, or those who are not clinicians and thus are ill-equipped to deal with my conflicting accounts of what happened. It's not that I lie - I genuinely experienced both sides of the story I tell.

    Similar to you, it's so much clearer and easier not only for myself, but for others too, for me to say "this TLG felt/feels/experienced/experiences A, whereas this other TLG felt/feels/experienced/experiences that". Even if I don't get a diagnosis of DID, I think I will continue to identify as five different TLGs to both myself and others. It just makes a lot more sense to explain it that way and it helps me to feel like I've got a better grasp of what is currently going on with me :yes:
    If it works, I say keep it

    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Yeah, it is pretty bad. I think a different medical condition I have is causing it, just one problem after another. :sigh:

    I think it's not ok to feel overwhelmed. It's not as if other people at this university don't have the same or even more work than me to do and they manage. I'm scraping Ds and it seems that all the people around me have high Bs or even As. How do they manage to fit everything in - I mean, I don't even have friends so socializing doesn't exactly take much out of my week. But I feel completely unable to cope. People around me are coping, I am not and I do not know how to turn things around.


    I read your posts to TLG, I hope you don't mind me asking, do you have a formal diagnosis? You may have mentioned it before (sorry, terrible memory).
    People around you may look like they're coping but still have difficulties. Or they may not be facing the same difficulties as you have. I think it's really easy to downplay the effects our mental illnesses have because we are always comparing to "normal". Some research I did for college reminded me to compare like for like. For your history and diagnosis, you're probably way ahead of the curve simply by attending uni. Gaining any level of degree is a huge achievement.

    I know the factors measured on my own life mean being alive is classed as a success. Success being measured also by not being alcoholic or drug addict, not still being homeless, earned GCSEs (never mind further or higher education), being business owner. I have all those things and I still have days where I have SU ideation. I still get angry at myself for not finding it as easy as others. For not being able to be on top of things all the time. For not getting those a's and b's and struggling to see how being ahead of the curve really helps when I'm less than average overall. I guess I don't have advice just wanted to help you feel less alone with the struggle

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    Official formal diagnosis is pending. But therapist has confirmed presence of parts and has seen me switch. Now we're trying to meander the parts without triggering need to go to psych facility to gain control again. That's tough sometimes because I have a reaction which completely shuts me down and traps me inside myself. I'm not sure if it's a non-verbal/pre-verbal part or different dissociative state.
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    (Original post by ScaryScience)
    i'm being admitted to hospital and i'm just so ****ing terrified
    Aw SS :hugs: just remember we're all here for you.
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    Feel rough today, think a day in bed is needed.

    Hugs to all that need them :hugs:
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    (Original post by Midnightmemories)
    Feel rough today, think a day in bed is needed.

    Hugs to all that need them :hugs:
    Hugs back, hope you feel better tomorrow :hugs:
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    Just wanted to let you guys know that 'Mental Health Awareness Week' won project of the year at the Support Team meet this year
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    Got really low last night and spent about three hours crying to my housemate, and talking about everything **** in life. I feel so embarrassed now.
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    (Original post by Deyesy)
    Just wanted to let you guys know that 'Mental Health Awareness Week' won project of the year at the Support Team meet this year
    :woo: Amazing work!
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    Huge :grouphugs: to all, especially ScaryScience


    (Original post by Deyesy)
    Just wanted to let you guys know that 'Mental Health Awareness Week' won project of the year at the Support Team meet this year
    :king1: :congrats: :awesome:
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    (Original post by Deyesy)
    Just wanted to let you guys know that 'Mental Health Awareness Week' won project of the year at the Support Team meet this year
    Sweet! Congrats to everyone involved

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    Have a bad flare up out the blue for no specific reason with a physical condition - people understand that flare ups can just happen for no reason and they give you time to get through it

    Have a flare up or setback with your mental condition without anything bad or stressful happening to cause it, at least in their eyes - you get told to get a grip and you shouldn't be in that situation since 'nothing has happened'

    Mental health conditions are just as unpredictable as any physical condition. You can have a few good days and then for no reason, you're at your worst. I don't understand how people think saying **** like "Why are you in this state again?" or "are you not out of it yet?!" is going to help anyone during a flare up, mental or physical ffs


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    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    Have a bad flare up out the blue for no specific reason with a physical condition - people understand that flare ups can just happen for no reason and they give you time to get through it

    Have a flare up or setback with your mental condition without anything bad or stressful happening to cause it, at least in their eyes - you get told to get a grip and you shouldn't be in that situation since 'nothing has happened'

    Mental health conditions are just as unpredictable as any physical condition. You can have a few good days and then for no reason, you're at your worst. I don't understand how people think saying **** like "Why are you in this state again?" or "are you not out of it yet?!" is going to help anyone during a flare up, mental or physical ffs


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    (Original post by ~Tara~)
    Therapy is kicking my butt at the moment and I'm a bit cross with my therapist. He struggles when I dissociate (which is fine, it's hard to focus when I'm in that state) but then he wants to poke on the very thing that makes me the most dissociated. I slur and struggle to speak. I know the point is to eventually poke enough that the dissociation lessens but I hate making him angry/frustrated. I also hate how much this is bringing out child parts. I don't name my parts. Sometimes think would be easier so we all know when someone new is in charge.

    Anyway. I'm overwhelmed and worried that I won't be able to do uni because, you know, a 6 year old can't do uni. Well unless a genius.
    My therapist gets really frustrated too and I can see it....which makes me panic and makes it worse....
 
 
 
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