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    Lets just say that she did reply I only really needed to ask a couple of questions about tomorrow as she organised it. Now I'm in bed and got a boring day before the evening though, but I guess it'll be worth it and I'll be free afterwards .

    Need to work on my anxiety regarding watching tv though, the only thing I'm comfortable watching is Indian dramas and films :ninja: or cricket, other stuff on BBC or something I get really anxious watching in case something comes up that my parents don't approve of :rolleyes:

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    Went to a bar last night and the whole time I was there the people behind me kept talking about how ugly and fat I am and how did someone like me manage to find people to go to a bar with. It was really upsetting. The worst part is I don't know if it's real or not. I'm too afraid to ask my wife in case it's not real but right now I'm feeling really upset that someone might have been so horrible to me. Been going to the gym every day and eating healthily but still haven't lost anything, ****ing quetiapine.
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    Got a crippling headache
    At my sisters now in bed. Better sleep or i WILL cry.
    Want my boyfriend. But have another day of painting tomorrow

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    Today was eventful. Not really too bad i don't think, but definitely eventful...

    I went to the osteopath about some aches and stuff I've been having for ages and basically as far as I can tell may back is screwed (somewhat at least). He said (and I quote) he was going to "pop my ribs back in" to my spine. I don't know to what extent that's slang and to what extent my ribs are actually out of my spine but either way it sounds rather bad. Anyway he popped then back in but then later somebody hugged me and I felt (and heard) a crack/ pop like they'd come back out again. I doesn't really hurt though so it's not too bad. Plus it's nothing different to how it usually is anyway :P

    Went to my friends and had some fun. Talked a bit about my issues and stuff and did some sorting (yay!). Asides from them popping my ribs it was good

    Got home from my friend's house a few minuets ago to be told that my room had been changed (wardrobe taken out) while I was gone and that the room with my desk in has also been changed a lot, including my brother turning everything on my desk upside down. I'm not too bothered about the changes- it's odd but I'm dealing with it very well- although I would have liked to be consulted first. The annoying thing is him changing my desk. Nobody is allowed to move anything on my desk- it's one of my rules! It's where I focus a lot of my OCD so it really annoys me that he'd deliberately do that. He does things like that a lot because he thinks its a joke or something but its not and I don't think he realises just how much it can piss me off. I was having a rather good day today and I'm not too stressed (plus the WHOLE room is different anyway), but if I had been a bit more stressed or hadn't been expecting a change it would have really really gotten to me. Yeah half the time I won't yell at him for it but that's because I'm holding it all in cos I'm too embarrassed for him to know (he's not hugely understanding, or at least doesn't give me the impression he is).
    I just feel rather violated almost. He did it despite knowing I don't like it and my mum telling him he shouldn't. He thinks he can get away with it "because its him" but if anything it actually hurts more when it's him.

    Anyway I won't let that have a downer on my day cos I'm actually rather happy about how I coped with all of it: I let a stranger mess with my back, I felt comfortable at my friends house even though there was nobody else but is there (that's something I always find really awkward and creepy) and I didn't snap about all the changes to the house. I'm really actually quite proud of myself. I think I'm coping very well with everything at the moment despite everything that's going on.


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    my twelve year old sister is cutting, she;s not been eating her lunch at school and not much at home and she's put it up all online on twitter of all places, i told my paretns adn they're being really calm and going to her school/drs appt tomorrow and she is really fighting i am so scared
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    my twelve year old sister is cutting, she;s not been eating her lunch at school and not much at home and she's put it up all online on twitter of all places, i told my paretns adn they're being really calm and going to her school/drs appt tomorrow and she is really fighting i am so scared
    Hey, very sorry to hear that! Don't be scared, it sounds like your parents are dealing with this well if they already spoke to school and doctor about this.

    Also, delete off Twitter if you can? Maybe e-mail admins if that works. Or can you access her account and delete the tweets? I really don't think it will do her any good for everyone in her classes to read/see about this.
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    Hey, very sorry to hear that! Don't be scared, it sounds like your parents are dealing with this well if they already spoke to school and doctor about this.

    Also, delete off Twitter if you can? Maybe e-mail admins if that works. Or can you access her account and delete the tweets? I really don't think it will do her any good for everyone in her classes to read/see about this.
    They're going to speak to them tomorrow (later today) I think yeah. I don't know how to do it, it's a separate account, she has one for herself and this one full of horribleness but she's put her photo up and everything. I don't know, this is all my fault, i feel so bad so horrd
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    Today was eventful. Not really too bad i don't think, but definitely eventful...

    I went to the osteopath about some aches and stuff I've been having for ages and basically as far as I can tell may back is screwed (somewhat at least). He said (and I quote) he was going to "pop my ribs back in" to my spine. I don't know to what extent that's slang and to what extent my ribs are actually out of my spine but either way it sounds rather bad. Anyway he popped then back in but then later somebody hugged me and I felt (and heard) a crack/ pop like they'd come back out again. I doesn't really hurt though so it's not too bad. Plus it's nothing different to how it usually is anyway :P

    Went to my friends and had some fun. Talked a bit about my issues and stuff and did some sorting (yay!). Asides from them popping my ribs it was good

    Got home from my friend's house a few minuets ago to be told that my room had been changed (wardrobe taken out) while I was gone and that the room with my desk in has also been changed a lot, including my brother turning everything on my desk upside down. I'm not too bothered about the changes- it's odd but I'm dealing with it very well- although I would have liked to be consulted first. The annoying thing is him changing my desk. Nobody is allowed to move anything on my desk- it's one of my rules! It's where I focus a lot of my OCD so it really annoys me that he'd deliberately do that. He does things like that a lot because he thinks its a joke or something but its not and I don't think he realises just how much it can piss me off. I was having a rather good day today and I'm not too stressed (plus the WHOLE room is different anyway), but if I had been a bit more stressed or hadn't been expecting a change it would have really really gotten to me. Yeah half the time I won't yell at him for it but that's because I'm holding it all in cos I'm too embarrassed for him to know (he's not hugely understanding, or at least doesn't give me the impression he is).
    I just feel rather violated almost. He did it despite knowing I don't like it and my mum telling him he shouldn't. He thinks he can get away with it "because its him" but if anything it actually hurts more when it's him.

    Anyway I won't let that have a downer on my day cos I'm actually rather happy about how I coped with all of it: I let a stranger mess with my back, I felt comfortable at my friends house even though there was nobody else but is there (that's something I always find really awkward and creepy) and I didn't snap about all the changes to the house. I'm really actually quite proud of myself. I think I'm coping very well with everything at the moment despite everything that's going on.


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    Good for you!

    I love my brother. Now. There used to be times where he made me so mad I went at him punches flying wildly like a boxer in the last round with no concentration left just trying anything and everything. He was stronger and just laughed it off, which just infuriated me more. It surely is harder for you if he plays at your OCDs, but many, many brothers act that way at some stage I think ,so remember it's not really "personal".
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    (Original post by FuzzySheep)
    They're going to speak to them tomorrow (later today) I think yeah. I don't know how to do it, it's a separate account, she has one for herself and this one full of horribleness but she's put her photo up and everything. I don't know, this is all my fault, i feel so bad so horrd
    Why is it your fault? It's not.

    And okay, do you know the name of this Twitter account? Or someone who does? Try to go through her browser history if you don't even if you can't login you should be able to see the name of the account. Then just try e-mail admins and explain what is going on and ask them to delete it. Maybe pretend to be your parents (ask them first of course) saying she is a minor and you wish for this to be taken down. I think it would be better for her if it were down and doing this task gives you something to do as well to keep you from freaking out.
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    (Original post by HmMusic)
    I have to do all that too. Benefits are so confusing! I'm waiting to speak to my mental health advisor because I don't even know if I'm going to be entitled to it or not. Good luck with it all! Let me know if you get stressed or want help with it or just want to rant because I'm doing similar things and find they require a lot of moaning about
    yeah they really are, it's taken me till now just to find out what I should even apply for, I am gonna ask CMHT for a letter as well as my GP so I have all the evidence they should need, my mum and CAB are gonna support me through the process as well so hopefully will be okay, it's just all a bit daunting I guess and it's not really helping with my anxiety and depression at all to have to go through all this, I definitely understand why people in this situation struggle so much so I hope it works out for me and for you as well (and anyone else here who is applying for stuff!) :hugs:

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    I've started ESA, and they've sent a a loot of letters to me. I need to get another letter from my doc soon so i can keep getting the money. Im also having trouble with housing benefit since i came off jobseekers and gone on to ESA, and im moving house in a week >_>

    I've got like 2 letters every day for the last week and its stressing me out, but there seems to be a lot of support that comes with ESA, so im kinda glad for going onto it for the help i should get with my health.
    yeah I can imagine, I remember how much of a mare it was when I was on JSA, this sounds several times more confused than that even!

    CAB said the support and stuff with it should help me yeah, which is good I guess, just have to get to the point where I get it in place I think, the stressful part for me I expect will be the application and assessments! good luck with housing btw, I'm speaking to the housing people here tomorrow cause I won't have a home after August as it stands

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    Just for all those applying for ESA. The assessment will be done by ATOS. It is very important to understand the nature of the interview before you attend. Important points are:

    1. They are not there to assess whether you are ill as such. The diagnosis of your illness is not part of the grading system. You could be dying of Cancer for instance but the only thing that matters in their system are the answers to a set of questions designed to analyse what you are able to actually do. So, the person with Cancer may fail the test because they can walk a certain distance, watch television or read a newspaper (used as proof of ability to concentrate) and make a meal (used as proof they can undertake a task) etc Each set of questions is graded to give 'points' and to get into the support group you need a certain number of points.

    2. This being the case you should consider how to answer very carefully with a complete bias towards describing what you can and can't do. For example people with mental health conditions may be unable to prepare a hot meal because they would burn themselves.

    3. ALL parts of the interview are part of the assessment, including any chat as you enter or leave the room. Questions such as' did you get here okay' or 'did you find the place alright' are actually used as part of the assessment. Obviously many people with mental health issues are taken to the centre by a nurse or relative as they are unable to find their way safely and cannot deal with strange situations..

    4. Your ability to answer the questions calmly is also used as part of the assesment. Do not try to cover up any distress you are experiencing. They will be looking at your presentation/clothes as proof of an ability to present yourself to strangers appropriately etc
    They are as daft as most of the population and expect that those with mental health problems will look a certain way. As my friend once said they are expecting egg on your tie!

    6. You can find examples of the questions on line with people's experience of the assessment. Read this before going. They are not on your side however pleasant the assessment interview appears so you need to prepare yourself for the system as it stands.

    7. A elderly woman failed the test because she was asked if she has difficulty using stairs and said 'no'. This was because she avoided all stairs and lived in a bungalow. She should have answered 'yes'. So remember to answer in relation to your worst scenario's; not in relation to the things you have sorted by avoiding them.

    8. If you get into the support group consider choosing the job centre as your aid rather than any private company offered. This does depend on if your job centre is relatively nice though. Just compare the two before you commit.

    Good luck,

    thank you hugely for posting this up! will bookmark it and show it my mum as it should help!
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    (Original post by Kindred)
    Today was eventful. Not really too bad i don't think, but definitely eventful...

    I went to the osteopath about some aches and stuff I've been having for ages and basically as far as I can tell may back is screwed (somewhat at least). He said (and I quote) he was going to "pop my ribs back in" to my spine. I don't know to what extent that's slang and to what extent my ribs are actually out of my spine but either way it sounds rather bad. Anyway he popped then back in but then later somebody hugged me and I felt (and heard) a crack/ pop like they'd come back out again. I doesn't really hurt though so it's not too bad. Plus it's nothing different to how it usually is anyway :P

    Went to my friends and had some fun. Talked a bit about my issues and stuff and did some sorting (yay!). Asides from them popping my ribs it was good

    Got home from my friend's house a few minuets ago to be told that my room had been changed (wardrobe taken out) while I was gone and that the room with my desk in has also been changed a lot, including my brother turning everything on my desk upside down. I'm not too bothered about the changes- it's odd but I'm dealing with it very well- although I would have liked to be consulted first. The annoying thing is him changing my desk. Nobody is allowed to move anything on my desk- it's one of my rules! It's where I focus a lot of my OCD so it really annoys me that he'd deliberately do that. He does things like that a lot because he thinks its a joke or something but its not and I don't think he realises just how much it can piss me off. I was having a rather good day today and I'm not too stressed (plus the WHOLE room is different anyway), but if I had been a bit more stressed or hadn't been expecting a change it would have really really gotten to me. Yeah half the time I won't yell at him for it but that's because I'm holding it all in cos I'm too embarrassed for him to know (he's not hugely understanding, or at least doesn't give me the impression he is).
    I just feel rather violated almost. He did it despite knowing I don't like it and my mum telling him he shouldn't. He thinks he can get away with it "because its him" but if anything it actually hurts more when it's him.

    Anyway I won't let that have a downer on my day cos I'm actually rather happy about how I coped with all of it: I let a stranger mess with my back, I felt comfortable at my friends house even though there was nobody else but is there (that's something I always find really awkward and creepy) and I didn't snap about all the changes to the house. I'm really actually quite proud of myself. I think I'm coping very well with everything at the moment despite everything that's going on.


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    Not good to hear about your back :hugs: (don't worry, I'll be gentle ). But well done for the socialising and staying calm, I would have got really angry about that happening to me :ninja:. I also don't like people touching stuff on my desk or in my drawers, and I absolutely never want anyone to move the duvet when I'm lying in bed :laugh:

    (Original post by FuzzySheep)
    my twelve year old sister is cutting, she;s not been eating her lunch at school and not much at home and she's put it up all online on twitter of all places, i told my paretns adn they're being really calm and going to her school/drs appt tomorrow and she is really fighting i am so scared
    What a shame :sad: good that your parents are being supportive, that is what she needs, supportive parents . Whereas with me, it is obvious my brother has an eating disorder and my parents don't do anything about it :rolleyes:

    Hope you are doing well generally! :hugs:

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    Why is it your fault? It's not.

    And okay, do you know the name of this Twitter account? Or someone who does? Try to go through her browser history if you don't even if you can't login you should be able to see the name of the account. Then just try e-mail admins and explain what is going on and ask them to delete it. Maybe pretend to be your parents (ask them first of course) saying she is a minor and you wish for this to be taken down. I think it would be better for her if it were down and doing this task gives you something to do as well to keep you from freaking out.
    I've emailed them now, thank you. I jsut read through everything, she's being bullied, she thinks she's fat, our family is not working well, she's suicidal. My little twelve year old sister
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    I've emailed them now, thank you. I jsut read through everything, she's being bullied, she thinks she's fat, our family is not working well, she's suicidal. My little twelve year old sister
    :lovehug: Hard to imagine what that must feel like :sad: but you have brought tears to my eyes :cry2:

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    I've emailed them now, thank you. I jsut read through everything, she's being bullied, she thinks she's fat, our family is not working well, she's suicidal. My little twelve year old sister
    :jumphug: That sounds like a really horrible situation to be in. :console: My little sister is about the same age, I hate the thought of her ever going through something like this... I really hope the situation gets resolved soon, and that your little sister gets the help and support she needs. I can PM you my username if you want to chat?
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    I've emailed them now, thank you. I jsut read through everything, she's being bullied, she thinks she's fat, our family is not working well, she's suicidal. My little twelve year old sister
    ****, god, I am sorry for you, makes me sad. Be strong okay, show her there are people in the world that love her.

    It's really beautiful to see how you care about her so much, let her feel that, and you will help her through this dark time!
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    I really hate myself. I don't deserve anybody. I want to make a mess of everything so I can use it as an excuse not belong any more. I don't understand myself and I'm so tired of fighting and losing. I'm losing. I'm losing everything. I just want not belong any more. Why doesn't anybody understand?
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    A girl in her school told her to kill herself. I don't understand. What is going on. Why couldn't we protect her.

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    Not good to hear about your back :hugs: (don't worry, I'll be gentle ). But well done for the socialising and staying calm, I would have got really angry about that happening to me :ninja:. I also don't like people touching stuff on my desk or in my drawers, and I absolutely never want anyone to move the duvet when I'm lying in bed :laugh:

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    Lol thanks. I think the back is going to be a long term thing to improve but hey i'm used to that by now :P it does actually feel a bit better now, I at least know what's wrong I guess.
    It's really annoying but I can kinda see why he does it. I guess he doesn't really understand what OCD is so is trying to work it out with me. I may consider asking him to read something about it on mind or subtly leaving it in the bathroom so he sees it. That may help him get off my back a bit. I usually put more of a face on for him when he's down so I guess he just doesn't exactly realise why I ask for things to be as I do. Still it would be nice if he'd just trust me and take my word for it.

    My next therapy session is tomorrow and i'm really happy to know I have something posotive to say. I was feeling so much worse around a week ago- depressed, anxious, paranoid even- and it's reminding me just what I can be capable of
    My friend is thinking they may have OCD too so (although I wish they didn't have it for their sake) I feel quite good knowing I have a bit of experience which I can use to help them out. I don't often manage to help people well cos I don't understand much about a lot of things, but OCD I can undertand rather well and even what I don't already know I can easily learn to accept and process

    (This turned into a bit of an essay in the end, sorry 'bout that)

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    A girl in her school told her to kill herself. I don't understand. What is going on. Why couldn't we protect her.

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    I'm so sorry to hear this... :jumphug: You couldn't do anything to stop her, so please please don't blame yourself at all. Kids that age can be incredibly nasty, and I recommend you report it to the school first thing so they can get to the root of it and deal with the bullies. I'm so sorry you're all going through this, I really hope this is sorted out swiftly, it must be so horrible for you all.
 
 
 
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