Race dating opinions.

I don't think talking would help cause it'd only be encouraging people to elaborate on how horrible black girls(or whatever race they would never date - most likely black girls in this case) are, which never ends well. But it's nice that you tried.

I think talking could help a lot, of course we need more action but, you make due with what you have.

Yea i get that, both sides of an argument will be upset, but, at least I'm hoping people could try to talk calmly without accusing each other of random things not related to the thread. Its a long shot but a girl can try

Controversial thread poster has a hissy fit about being critically analysed within her controversial thread.

Fair enough. I don't really understand what the talking and action is supposed to do but if you feel like its needed then fair enough.

to be honest this threads brought out some of the crazy insecure psycho women

Agreed with most of your post except the weave bit. You just said never change your hair for anyone then went on to say 'stop wearing weaves, they are nasty, most men hate them. Bit contradictory. Why should we stop wearing weaves just cause 'most men hate them' shouldn't we do what makes us feel more comfortable? Shouldn't people make their own decisions about what they want to do with their own hair?

Stop wearing weaves because they are nasty I said! And then I added about men not liking them. Firstly weaves are nasty and unhealthy. After a few weeks they move with your head. They look like someone has just stuck twigs on top of your head. It looks really, really bad. If that's one thing I'm ashamed about with black women is weaves.
Weaves are not comfortable. They are horrible. If you want a healthy head of your own hair that matches a Remy weave then you have to stop wearing them. They are so unhealthy. A relaxer is bad but I feel weaves are worse because of the negative psychological aspects that come with constantly wearing one. Tracks are different as its not the whole head. Also weaves aren't your own hair they are either someone else's hair or synthetic hair. If you bought it, it doesn't mean is grew out of your scalp.

I call them stick weaves because they stick out in the air and don't flow. Lol!

You went on to say 'Most men of all races hate them' (which isn't even true majority of guys say they prefer natural hair but when it comes down to it they'll go approach the girl with long weave than the girl with natural hair.)

Okay you don't like weaves. I get that. Why should I stop wearing them because you think they are nasty ? I don't they think they are, I've never felt nasty in my weave and I think this whole 'psychological debate' about weave is stupid. People just trying to make a big deal out of nothing, its hair, it doesn't make you who you are, its like an accessory, something you add to make yourself look nicer, why are people trying to ostracise people for what they do with their own head, focus on your own head and stop worrying about other people's heads.

It is my hair, it might not be my natural hair but its what's on my head and I have every right to put whatever I want on my head, I have every right to make that decision. Not wearing weave doesn't make you special neither does wearing weave. Its exactly the same as make-up or tan or whatever, it isn't such a big deal. Show me a reputable psychological study (not something from a few holier than thou natural hair advocates off youtube) that actually confirms that weave has a negative psychological effect?

The thing is I didn't say natural hair over weaves. Your said natural hair. Which is extremely interesting. Why would you suggest guys choosing weaves over natural hair when that wasn't the debate?

Firstly I said if you want a real healthy head of hair. You can grow your own Remy weave if you took care of your hair. You can straighten your natural hair and have it flow like Remys or you can relax it which is worse due to all the breakage that is inevitable. (Here's a tip to help you because I'm a nice person. Look up the natural beauty tms hair system.)


Secondly MOST GUYS do not like weaves. You can't wash your hair for two months + or however long you keep them in. They look like sticks have just been stuck on your head.

Thirdly you went on attacking me about natural hair and I have no issue with straight hair. I love straightening hair when its MY hair. I love straighten my hair till its flowing and soft. We all know that having a head of your own beaut hair is better than any weave so why deny it. Psychologically any women would feel more confident with her own real hair then having to wear weave to achieve that look. If you want me to give you some tips then I can. Despite my dislike of weaves I was in the same situation struggling with my hair so I know how it feels. Now my hair is thick and grows so fast that I have no need to second glance fake hair again.

Okay most guys in reality would approach the girl with weave over the girl with natural hair/braids/relaxed hair. They must say they hate it but their actions speak differently. Just like how guys say they hate make-up but start drooling over the overly made-up girls on TV. You'll never please everyone and even if you do you might find what they say they want isn't actually what they go for, so its best to do what you want not what guys want. That's why I'm not bothered if most men hate weave.

The texture of black hair isn't the same as the texture of white hair so it doesn't need to be washed as regularly, my hair doesn't go as dirty as quickly and while you have weave on, you can still use dry shampoo. Weave can actually be very good for your hair, my leave out hair is far more damaged than the hair that's always protected by braids and weave, if I always had my hair in a full weave, my hair would probably be a lot longer since its protected. Are you against braids cause weave is exactly the same as braids in terms of keeping your hair locked in.

Thats good for you but that doesn't mean everyone else has to love it too. I'm not trying to convince you to change what makes you feel comfortable so why you trying to convince me to change what I evidently feel comfortable in. Adding psychologically infront of a word doesn't make it anymore psychological. Unless you can back up that claim with a psychological study then it adds nothing to the debate. No thank you I don't need any tips. Once again, do what you please, if not having weave makes you feel more comfortable then good on you but leave us girls who like weaves alone to do what makes us feel comfortable.

Stop wearing weaves because they are nasty I said! And then I added about men not liking them. Firstly weaves are nasty and unhealthy. After a few weeks they move with your head. They look like someone has just stuck twigs on top of your head. It looks really, really bad. If that's one thing I'm ashamed about with black women is weaves.
Weaves are not comfortable. They are horrible. If you want a healthy head of your own hair that matches a Remy weave then you have to stop wearing them. They are so unhealthy. A relaxer is bad but I feel weaves are worse because of the negative psychological aspects that come with constantly wearing one. Tracks are different as its not the whole head. Also weaves aren't your own hair they are either someone else's hair or synthetic hair. If you bought it, it doesn't mean is grew out of your scalp.

I call them stick weaves because they stick out in the air and don't flow. Lol!

Sometimes I see black women touching and playing with their weave as if it's their own I find it very weird when it's not even their own hair like another poster wrote for them its an accessory so how do you have any real connection with it? You won't find someone with real hair describe it as an accessory, I think it's more of a disguise to conceal their true selves, their true selves which they are not very happy about.

oh dear. you didnt make a mistake and misquote me. your just crazy.

you are narcissistic. out of all the stuff i wrote in my last response to you, you pick the one thats a comment about how you look.

all you had to do was say you are attractive and that men show interest you. that would of been a much more classy way of illustrating the point.

instead you wrote two paragraphs about how men just cannot get over how life shatteringly out of this world you look. adding layer upon layer of an already saturated point. hence your revelling.

its also sad that your so focused on what non black men think of you. clearly your looking for acceptance. especially with your kerry washington comparison. out of all the women with her skin tone you pick her who is famous for her role in a series entirely based on her interracial affair.

where are you? where in the uk has so many men that behave like this towards women?

i dont think its beauty that makes men behave in such a disrespectful manor. its usually lust. they wouldnt be doing it if they didnt think they had a chance of getting you. so clearly a lot of men think your easy for what ever reason.

to be honest. i dont believe you.

i used to work in photography as an assistant to a well known photographer and also did a little myself as well when i was living in london. models were essentially my colleagues and they never spoke of experiencing these things. so either you have some weird magical power of attraction or your making it up. or you live in some hole of a place thats full of leerish undignified men.

where are you getting it from that i think black women are ugly?

at no point have i claimed they are. in fact i've said quite the opposite.

i know your insane. so its hard to follow logic. but i'll try to break it down.

you cannot find me saying i think black women are ugly. FACT
you cannot find me saying that i think your a whore simply because you are black. FACT

in case you havent noticed. women dont often get treated like that. there might be an incident but nowhere near to the same bizzarre level your talking about and i think most of the girls in here would agree.

do you know the difference between you being treated like a curb crawler.
and me saying that your a whore cause your black?

that is so ridiculously outrageous NO WONDER you have ended up in the church. if anyone needs jesus. its you. maybe he can fix ur crazyness.

i mean... black women are all whores? really?

by the way. telling me your christian means NOTHING to me.
"are you lieing?" "of course not im a christian" <do you realise how stupid that sounds. cause thats how you sound.

oh god... we've got someone who quotes scripture...

just a tip. if you want people to believe that you are modest. i wouldnt go on and on and on about it like your trying to cover up something. it seems suspicious. your so insacure that you cant just say. "no i dont dress like that" you have to tell me your outfit? and then also quote the bible and say your a christian and its because of that yea? not like your own good sense. its the bible yea? cool.

so. with all your insane accusations. you decide that the one thing you will even CONSIDER referencing the fact that i spoke about black women being viewed as sexual objects. the reason you consider referencing this is probably because its the only thing you've accused me of that is true.

but even then u've messed that up.

i did not say that I myself view black women as sexual objects.
i spoke about black women being portrayed as and viewed as sexual objects by the media. the men treated you as a sexual object. and im not one of them.

more capslock and crazy.

ok so let me get this straight
i think i am superior because im white?
i think black women are whores and sexual objects?
i also think they are ugly?
but i also want a black partner?

riiiiight.

fact is. your a lier. you've just made a load of stuff up.

stick to your bible and hating mixed race people cause they take away your light skin superiority complex (which others have noted as you can see)

argue with me like an adult.
and not some emotional wreck.

make points.
real points.
points made from real things i have said?

i would also recommend you get some counselling