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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i hope i count if not this is awkward :rofl:
    love u too :cube:
    Of course you count :cube: love you lots and lots :hugs:
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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
    You be careful too. Huge hugs

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    Thanks, lovely! I feel a little better, so hopefully I won't go downhill again :hugs:
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    (Original post by chelseadagg3r)
    Thanks, lovely! I feel a little better, so hopefully I won't go downhill again :hugs:
    Fingers crossed :hugs:
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    Constant from the voices that I deserved it all and I brought it on myself and it's all my fault. Something wrong with me to make people want to do what they did to me and I deserved it all and that's why I scare people all off and they all hate me and avoid me and it's my fault and try to keep people not hating me and always afail. So sick of the nightmares but at he same time jaust want to sleep
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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
    It's not silly at all. Try not to be so hard on yourself. It's hard to keep level-headed when different personalities are involved.

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    I understand how you feel about your dad, even though I don't know what happened with him. I have wildly veering/ambivalent feelings towards my abuser. Even though I know it wasn't my fault deep down, Infant TLG is still convinced it was all her fault, somehow, and that I abused my abuser Try and think of it this way, though: if you read the cold hard facts about your life and your dad in, say, a newspaper article that was about someone else. What would you think? What would you say? Who would you say was to blame? I find that strategy helpful sometimes


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    Mine is the 23rd :awesome:
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    I was sexually abused (intermittently) from ages 3-25 ish from multiple abusers. Lots of random trauma from that. There was emotional neglect and violence in my home growing up which I dealt with by blocking it out like it never happened. Anyway to cut long sob story short, when finally started looking at family life, one of my parts said dad csa too. Apparently it continued into adulthood.

    Still massively disconnected from it but therapist says it explains the strength on my day to day dissociation. When I talk about dad stuff, I actually show a range of emotions. Which I feel disconnected from and flat out deny when I leave the room.

    It's a strange time of believing and feeling like both versions are true. And why I just jumped on this old friend. Child part was feeling unlovable and all old feelings id blocked from childhood started coming up.

    Should have just sat with them and "processed"
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    (Original post by sherbet_lemons7)
    Constant from the voices that I deserved it all and I brought it on myself and it's all my fault. Something wrong with me to make people want to do what they did to me and I deserved it all and that's why I scare people all off and they all hate me and avoid me and it's my fault and try to keep people not hating me and always afail. So sick of the nightmares but at he same time jaust want to sleep
    Really sorry you're having such bad night x you didn't deserve it and it's not your fault
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    (Original post by Midnightmemories)
    Just to add on what I said before. I've booked the appointment. Finally have plucked up enough courage to attempt to get this stupid anxiety and other things sorted once and for all. Just hope my work won't get all pissy at me for booking it right before my shift. (Appointments at 9:40 and I'm supposed to start work at 10:30. I have to leave my town at 10 at the latest to get there on time. However my doctors always run at least 1/2 hour late.)
    Just let work know that you have the drs and should be finished in time. Im sure they will be fine. Especially if you pre warn them

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    Listening to them and finding it difficult to find a reason to not follow through. :cry2:
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    (Original post by sherbet_lemons7)
    Constant from the voices that I deserved it all and I brought it on myself and it's all my fault. Something wrong with me to make people want to do what they did to me and I deserved it all and that's why I scare people all off and they all hate me and avoid me and it's my fault and try to keep people not hating me and always afail. So sick of the nightmares but at he same time jaust want to sleep
    Oh hun :jumphug: I'm sorry I'm being so **** atm - as you can probs tell from my Facebook, on a bit of a rollercoaster of ups and downs atm with my health. I do care though, so message me anytime! You don't deserve ANY of this, let alone all of it. And anyone who gets scared off by you is not worth bothering with, imho, coz people who are worth having around you will stick around.

    None of this is your fault. You're ill. You never asked for any of what happened to you. We love you! :jumphug:

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    Hoping spoiler thing works..probably should use more often than I have been doing, sorry

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    I was sexually abused (intermittently) from ages 3-25 ish from multiple abusers. Lots of random trauma from that. There was emotional neglect and violence in my home growing up which I dealt with by blocking it out like it never happened. Anyway to cut long sob story short, when finally started looking at family life, one of my parts said dad csa too. Apparently it continued into adulthood.

    Still massively disconnected from it but therapist says it explains the strength on my day to day dissociation. When I talk about dad stuff, I actually show a range of emotions. Which I feel disconnected from and flat out deny when I leave the room.
    It's a strange time of believing and feeling like both versions are true. And why I just jumped on this old friend. Child part was feeling unlovable and all old feelings id blocked from childhood started coming up.

    Should have just sat with them and "processed"
    :jumphug: I did assume it was something like that, tbh I'm really sorry that all of this happened to you, hun! You don't deserve any of this either :no:

    Totally get what you mean about it being a strange time of believing and feeling like both versions are true. I get that a lot with my own life. It's very confusing for people who aren't part of my support teams. (Actually, that's a lie - sometimes people WITHIN my support teams at my hospital find it disorienting and confusing.)

    It's understandable that the child part would go into overddrive at times, but equally that you might end up denying everything the moment you're out of the therapy room It sounds very traumatic and complicated. But it does sound like you've got a good therapist who you can work with? So hopefully at some point, you can begin to heal from the trauma and accept and know that it was never your fault. Even if the parts cannot be integrated. (I think my psychiatrist thinks my TLGs can be reintegrated back into one TLG, lol, and I'm just like NOPE :nope: )

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    Listening to them and finding it difficult to find a reason to not follow through. :cry2:
    Oh Saber Hope you are safe :hugs:
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    TLG UPDATE

    Just wanted to give you all a heads up that I'm volunteering outside of London all day tomorrow - leaving very early in the morning and getting back home very late at night. Phone will be off most of the day. So please bear with me on Monday when I start catching up, etc. and if I don't reply a message from people on here, it's not out of spite/malice/etc. Equally it doesn't mean anything bad has happened to me

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    I suffer badly from stress and anxiety in school but i can't tell my parents. I understand that it is the only way i'll get help but i'm scared of confirmation that what i'm feeling is a real problem so i don't know what to do.
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    (Original post by cactus queen)
    I suffer badly from stress and anxiety in school but i can't tell my parents. I understand that it is the only way i'll get help but i'm scared of confirmation that what i'm feeling is a real problem so i don't know what to do.
    Hello

    Having confirmation that what you're going through is a real/genuine problem can be very scary, for a number of reasons. It's OK to have mixed emotions about it - that's completely understandable. But please do not let this hold you back from seeking the help you clearly not only sorely need, but also deserve! :hugs:

    We are all here for you :rave: :yep: :hugs:
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    I am determined not to
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    (Original post by Cinnie)
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    This is a good aim Cheering you on from London :rave: :woo: :rave:

    But equally if it does happen (I hope it doesn't but if it does), you are not a bad person or a failure or anything like that :hugs:
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    (Original post by Cinnie)
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    I echo TLG's sentiments :yep: :hugs:


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    Right. Let's try and write 1000 words of this damn essay today. Then I can reward myself with cake.
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    (Original post by Airmed)
    Right. Let's try and write 1000 words of this damn essay today. Then I can reward myself with cake.
    Am I allowed to say the H and B words on here? :ninja: :beard: :holmes:

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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
    Am I allowed to say the H and B words on here? :ninja: :beard: :holmes:

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    Yes, :laugh:, you only have to look at my VMs to see that is has already started.
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    Yes, :laugh:, you only have to look at my VMs to see that is has already started.
    :innocent: no idea how that happened..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    :innocent: no idea how that happened..
    No idea at all :rofl:
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    (Original post by Airmed)
    Yes, :laugh:, you only have to look at my VMs to see that is has already started.
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY AIRMED!!! :king1: :awesome: :woo: :party: :danceboy: :macarena: :ymca: :love: :nutcase: :dance: :excited: :yay:

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    :innocent: no idea how that happened..
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