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    (Original post by Natasha Milo)
    what a ******t, i mean seriously!! wth?! u know what if uwanna get back at him u shud tell her he wants to shag her! get some evidence like he sends u a text or something or record his voice.. and i can see where u are coming from hes just a ****** i mean tahts just rude, mean and insensitive... u shud do that! get some hardcore evidence against him and show her that uve saved her from being shagged and used! and cheer up ! he isnt worth ur worries
    No no no! That would make him look seriously bitter and such a douche.
    He'll just be on the same level as his friend then.
    And plus the OP said that they don't talk anymore.
    It would hurt the guy's pride and ego so much more if the OP just doesn't give a **** about it all.

    (Original post by DanChorley)
    To be honest I like being the Agony Uncle, especially within my social circle (:
    Personal information ehh. Well lets face it, anything that we put on the Internet isn't personal... So I just take the stance where I don't put anything that's too personal on the Internet as a whole. The rest of it I don't really mind. My name and that sort of thing get published when I do website work or get involved with things at school or whatever. There's only so much you can keep private, and at the end of the day if someone wants to find you... they will!

    We really should go on a hunt though... they've gotta be out there somewhere! I swear they're hiding behind the trees or something as I walk by...


    Thread hijack for the win It's better than the doom and gloom that everyone else seems to be posting...

    & for the rep, it's true

    DC
    Haha sweet - Agony Uncle doesn't have the same ring to it though :p:
    How about "Pain Papa"? Lol that sounds like a cheesy porn nickname though :rolleyes:
    Yeh I like to be private person tbh, but just indulge lots of info with a few very select people - I do prefer just the one or two intimate friendships and relationships.
    Haha they are not behind the trees, I checked. And nope not in any bushes either.

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    I am in a sort of similar situation, but on the girl's end. I became friends with this guy, let's call him guy A and I assumed we were just friends. I then got to know his best friend. guy B, and started going out with him. Later on I found out that guy A really liked me and felt a bit bad about being with guy B. But me and guy B are still together and have been for over 4 years now and I am good friends with guy A and guy A and guy B are still good friends, and I am friends with their friends. I assume this means that guy A didn't like me that much and guy A and guy B were good enough friends not to let a girl come between them.

    What do I hope you to get from my experience?

    Next time, tell the girl. If I had known that guy A liked me, we might have got together which would have completely changed my life.
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    sorry man, we#ve all been there at some point, play goodbye my lover continously
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    anonymous because she uses this site.

    Basically I really liked this girl in my college. She wasn't in any of my classes, and I did not know her at all. I tried once or twice to go up to her and talk to her but she blanked me. (Yeah, she's pretty stuck up)

    However I really liked this girl. I'm not saying as in 'oh damn she's fit', she genuinly softened my heart because of her attractive looks and 'hard to get' personality, i.e. not having a load of guys with her. In fact, she didn't even talk to any guys.

    I told all my mates how much I liked her, and they all tried to hook me up on her but failed all the time. I'm pretty sure she knows I like her.

    Then out the blue, my long time school time buddy, and former best friend makes a move on her and is successful. He started to chat to her and managed to get her number. The two are now checking and I no longer speak to him.

    I know she was never mine, but I am geniunly heart broken, how could a mate get on someone I liked so much right in my face. The funny thing is, he doesn't even like her as much as I do. He just wants to 'shag' her and use her for bragging rights, whereas I have a genuine feeling for her.



    This is a depressing point in my life. Anybody give me any advice on what the hell I'm suppose to do.

    :console:

    I'm so sorry! I really feel for you, OP.

    I know I won't be of much help, but if I were in that situation, I'd wait knowing that if they're just ******* it won't last very long.
    But honestly, she doesn't sound like a very great girl to begin with.

    Sorry about the lack of helpfulness. Good luck!
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    (Original post by DanChorley)
    Now that's painful, and must have been quite weird for you. But it's interesting hearing it from another perspective. I guess really the lesson is that there is no point hinting when you can just say it out loud how it is.




    Pain Papa, ahha. That really does sound like a cheesy porn nickname :P

    It really depends on what you mean by personal information. Only my two closest friends know all about my past and about what's going on in my life - that sort of thing I do not see the point in advertising unless you are looking for attention, and that attention is generally negative. But that's just people for you...
    I've locked down my trust as of late, but it was quite funny to see everyone's reaction when I started to separate myself from this 'friend'. Everyone started commenting on it and as soon as they heard the story of what had happened their opinion changed of him massively to the extent where he is now very much on his own.

    If they're not behind trees or in bushes, where are they!? It's really frustrating knowing that there are so many people out there but not knowing where they are =|

    xx
    Aha but it is a good name though, no?
    Yeh I meant like what is going on in your life in detail.

    Hmm I would be inclined to get all Doctor Who geeky on you and say they all have perception filters, but you may not be familiar with Doctor Who so I will just say that they are being ninjas. And they want to challenge us. :yep:
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    I have nothing to add really, but isnt it abit obvious who you are..? even though you posted annonymously... obviously the girl will recall a similar situtation lol.
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    Okay not tryna rub it in but that's not love. Allow the emotion please

    Also.. sorry for being blunt buuuuuuut.. life's a *****.
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    (Original post by DanChorley)
    It's a good name, although I think I'll pass on adopting it :P
    And sadly I'd have understood the Doctor Who geekyness...

    It wouldn't surprise me if just a group of them are standing still in front of me with a key around their neck, and I can't even see them
    Bad times.

    x
    Aw no! The "Pain Papa" has really grown on me. I have to give this name to someone I know lol.

    It's not sad to understand Doctor Who references!

    It really is bad times if they all have keys. Hmm can you remember what breaks the filters?

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    (Original post by polaroid13)
    What a ******** move on your so called friend's part.
    But I would say
    replace the bold with laddish. Done
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    anonymous because she uses this site.

    Basically I really liked this girl in my college. She wasn't in any of my classes, and I did not know her at all. I tried once or twice to go up to her and talk to her but she blanked me. (Yeah, she's pretty stuck up)

    However I really liked this girl. I'm not saying as in 'oh damn she's fit', she genuinly softened my heart because of her attractive looks and 'hard to get' personality, i.e. not having a load of guys with her. In fact, she didn't even talk to any guys.

    I told all my mates how much I liked her, and they all tried to hook me up on her but failed all the time. I'm pretty sure she knows I like her.

    Then out the blue, my long time school time buddy, and former best friend makes a move on her and is successful. He started to chat to her and managed to get her number. The two are now checking and I no longer speak to him.

    I know she was never mine, but I am geniunly heart broken, how could a mate get on someone I liked so much right in my face. The funny thing is, he doesn't even like her as much as I do. He just wants to 'shag' her and use her for bragging rights, whereas I have a genuine feeling for her.



    This is a depressing point in my life. Anybody give me any advice on what the hell I'm suppose to do.

    First and foremost, you never loved her. You were infatuated with her but love is something you get with knowing the person's faults and accepting them. You seem to put this girl on a pedestal. She obviously liked this guy and at the end of the day you are going to have to come to terms with that. It won't be easy but you will. Think of her as just a piece of eye candy, nothing more and then look to other girls for a relationship.
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    (Original post by DanChorley)
    I can be the Pain Papa for you if you want, hah.

    I think if they move too much the filter breaks, I don't remember what the other thing was I guess I'll need to check it out before I go out of the house next, haha.

    x
    Hehe you will! Whenever I see you on this forum, I will call the Pain Papa. Are you prepared for that?

    OMG OMG guess what I found out (just Googled) . The perception filters don't work if someone is specifically searching for them! Or if we suddenly acquire minor telepathic abilities, we will also find them!

    Okay this may have gone a little too far. :o:
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    (Original post by Profesh)
    Based on: precisely nil interaction? Don't make me be sick into my own scorn.
    Thanks for conveying my thoughts better than I could. [EDIT: Also for the word "milquetoast"; definitely one to remember.]

    I've had friends go out with guys I really liked (y'know, ACTUALLY liked, because I'd talked to them and gotten to know them), but I sucked it up and got on with life. In the end, if the guy didn't like me, why would I want to spoil someone else's happiness by selfishly denying a friend the "right" to go out with him? If you did actually love her, I'd be more sympathetic, but it's clearly just lust. How do you know he just wants to shag her? Has he told her this? Or have you inferred it so that you could be more self-righteously angry about the situation?

    "I'm not saying as in 'oh damn she's fit', she genuinly softened my heart because of her attractive looks" ... errr :erm:
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    Pfft. Try wasting 2 months of your life trying to get with a girl who seemed interested (which made me do crap in a couple of uni exams aswell) and then she mugs you off to go out with your best mate.
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    (Original post by DanChorley)
    Now that's painful, and must have been quite weird for you. But it's interesting hearing it from another perspective. I guess really the lesson is that there is no point hinting when you can just say it out loud how it is.
    It was weird when I found out guy A liked me, which was about a year into mine and guy B's relationship. He was just embarrassed though and we sort of laughed it off, but then looking back things did start to make sense. I guess I am just really bad at reading signals. In a way it was good he didn't say anything or I definitely wouldn't have ever gone out with guy B, cos I knew how good friends they were/are. Odd thinking about that really.

    Soooooooooo many of my male friends don't seem to actually tell girls they fancy them and it gets them nowhere. We are not mind readers! Tell us! :o:
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    (Original post by Milch)
    Pfft. Try wasting 2 months of your life trying to get with a girl who seemed interested (which made me do crap in a couple of uni exams aswell) and then she mugs you off to go out with your best mate.
    You know what is scary is the thought that we may have seen each other in a QAM lecture! (You are a Fresher right?)
    Btw that really sucks. :console:
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    Your friend made a move on a girl you barely knew and hadn't made a move on, and you actually stopped talking to him? So you're not only a massive pussy, you're also hopelessly petty?

    90% of the problems that men post in H&R about women can be solved by manning up. This isn't one of the other 10%.
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    (Original post by DanChorley)
    Yeah go for it, I'll be PP instead of DC
    And woah, you googled it, now that's dedication :P
    Next time I'll be looking for these filters
    x

    I understand where you're coming from, but equally it doesn't just happen that way around. I am a very direct person when I need to be, and I will put it out there. You've got nothing to lose at the end of the day... But girls that I have come across are awful when it comes to being direct in return. They prefer to hint at things rather than saying it straight, and saying it straight is sooooooo much easier...
    Hello Pain Papa!
    Yeh I had to Google it because it would've made me lose sleep otherwise.
    Look hard, and the filter will break!

    I've tried being direct, subtle and a bit in between - and each time the guy has been either alienated by the directness or just too damn ignorant to pick up on the subtlety. *sigh*
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    (Original post by DanChorley)
    I can imagine you just rolling over in your sleep trying to work out how to break the perception filter, ahha. Oh dear, look how geeky we are

    And it's really strange you say that, because I'd be happy with someone telling me straight what was going on. In fact I had one case where I had so many hints saying otherwise that being told directly that I was only seen as a friend was quite weird. But I took it anyway... I'd have just appreciated hearing it a lot earlier, cause the signs were saying otherwise.

    I guess nothing'll ever be straight forward though, ehh...
    x
    I'd fidget actually. :p:
    Geeks are hot - especially the ones into Doctor Who. (Totally not biased at all haha.)

    I wish I came across a guy who liked the direct approach. I don't want to be constantly playing mind games, analysing things and playing "people politics" all the time. I want to be able to relax dammit.

    And nope, life's a ***** that we all want to rape.
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    That's not love, you hardly know her, that's an infatuation.
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    (Original post by DanChorley)
    Although I prefer the direct approach and it makes things a heck of a lot easier, I kind of find the mind games and the people politics quite entertaining. I guess it's more entertaining when I'm not directly involved with it, but even when I am it makes things interesting...
    Don't get me wrong that the amount of hassle you get from the subtle hints and indirect, indecisive approaches people have is crazy sometimes, but without it I think maybe things would be too simple.


    I like to think of myself as a secret geek :P Everyone who knows me knows that I can be, but on face value I don't appear to be one, haha.
    x
    The occasional mind game is okay - especially when its at flirting stages - but this only works well if both parties know that they are interested in each other.
    Oh people go insane with the direct approach too by twisting things and stuff. Just can't win! :rolleyes:

    Haha secret geeks! Join the club. It's the only way to be.
 
 
 
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