(Original post by Anonymous)
our sex life is great by the way , it just feels odd, like that episode of desperate housewives where susan goes to the strip club. i know there isn't any love in porn but it still upsets me a bit. do you thik its anything to do with the facty im in a long distance relationship. also some people have suggested watching it with him, im not sure how that would help? couold someone explain
I was in the same situation as you- in fact, sexual images and videos made me so uncomfortable I felt physically sick. It was like a horrible phobia. I was 100% comfortable with my body and my sex life- but pornographic things made me feel insecure and awful.
My partner respected me and didn't ever watch it when I expressed my feelings- it took 2 years to finally become comfortable and gain real trust in him. Then, I decided in order to get over my discomfort I should watch some porn alone so I could make my own opinion. It desensitized me somewhat, and got rid of my fear. And you know what? I don't feel upset anymore when I see sexual images. You need to ask yourself what is upsetting you- and if you are anything like me, you're probably scared of being compared, or your partner oggling naked women/etc.
Watching porn with your partner is a bad idea if youre not ready. Like I said- watch it alone and see how you react. Then watch together. Watching it together allows to to develop a bond of trust and observe how it makes you both react. You'll feel closer and more comfortable (and probably a wee bit horny! :P)
After I watched it with my partner we were alot closer and I realised not to fear what he thought. He wasnt
drooling over the women or becoming a mad sex-beast from watching it- it was merely something naughty and steamy we were doing together, for eachother.
If anything, we got more aroused from watching eachother
watch the porn, not the porn itself!!
Porn is a big issue in many relationships and marriage. So please, don't feel alone.
Build your self esteem and explore how things make you feel. I've been with my partner for four years now, and it's only been recently I can comfortably watch porn with him. And it feels amazing having that trust and security