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The child who has been fed junk food all his life has become accustomed to it. If then, someone puts a healthy, nutritious and wonderful meal in front of him, what would he do? "This food I've always had is fine- it tastes good and each to their own, right?- I don't want to try this food- it looks all strange".

But all the while he is unaware that his stomach is being wrecked by his eating and his brain is severely weakened and his muscles are poor and his skin flaky and pale.

In other words, an exclusive, mutually unselfish loving union between a man and a woman looks too much like hard work especially when one can be satisfied with a self-seeking relationship which feels fine.

Anonymous

our sex life is great by the way , it just feels odd, like that episode of desperate housewives where susan goes to the strip club. i know there isn't any love in porn but it still upsets me a bit. do you thik its anything to do with the facty im in a long distance relationship. also some people have suggested watching it with him, im not sure how that would help? couold someone explain

Be very very glad that he watches porn then!
Watching it with him, would show that you're not uptight, insecure and unreasonable. Plus it could lead to even more sexy times for you.

Anonymous

our sex life is great by the way , it just feels odd, like that episode of desperate housewives where susan goes to the strip club. i know there isn't any love in porn but it still upsets me a bit. do you thik its anything to do with the facty im in a long distance relationship. also some people have suggested watching it with him, im not sure how that would help? couold someone explain

I was in the same situation as you- in fact, sexual images and videos made me so uncomfortable I felt physically sick. It was like a horrible phobia. I was 100% comfortable with my body and my sex life- but pornographic things made me feel insecure and awful.

My partner respected me and didn't ever watch it when I expressed my feelings- it took 2 years to finally become comfortable and gain real trust in him. Then, I decided in order to get over my discomfort I should watch some porn alone so I could make my own opinion. It desensitized me somewhat, and got rid of my fear. And you know what? I don't feel upset anymore when I see sexual images. You need to ask yourself what is upsetting you- and if you are anything like me, you're probably scared of being compared, or your partner oggling naked women/etc.

Watching porn with your partner is a bad idea if youre not ready. Like I said- watch it alone and see how you react. Then watch together. Watching it together allows to to develop a bond of trust and observe how it makes you both react. You'll feel closer and more comfortable (and probably a wee bit horny! :P)
After I watched it with my partner we were alot closer and I realised not to fear what he thought. He wasnt drooling over the women or becoming a mad sex-beast from watching it- it was merely something naughty and steamy we were doing together, for eachother. :yep:

:yep:

If anything, we got more aroused from watching eachother watch the porn, not the porn itself!!

Porn is a big issue in many relationships and marriage. So please, don't feel alone.

Build your self esteem and explore how things make you feel. I've been with my partner for four years now, and it's only been recently I can comfortably watch porn with him. And it feels amazing having that trust and security :smile:

:smile:

RichyFrench

I can't tell if you're being serious or not.. TSR has young users on it and you've gotta be 18 to watch porn.. They can't regulate it.

And it's just stupid. - If you wanna watch porn, just google porn. It's not hard.
And if you're lazy.. http://tinyurl.com/8heu3o

Well I guess that would be a problem then. Prehaps they need a section for over 18's on this website.

How is it stupid? It would be very useful to have a thread like that. For example, Priya Rai recently just done her first interracial scene. If we had a thread where we can post porn links, I could have post a link to that very scene. They have something like this on another forum:

http://www.vip2.co.uk/forum/topic/34536-the-zorn-archive/page__st__2120

OP

yeh i suppose so but then i feel uncomfortable watching naked women i just much much prefer them with their clothes on lol but i guess i could see what he thinks. i mean because we're in a long distance relationship i understand it could be difficult for him to go without sex for a bit but i just give him as much as he wants when we see each other and i have no problem with that. we usually have it up to 3 times a day when we are together so its not like im depriving him of sex, i think part of it is that i love him so much that i couldn't bear to see him go and maybe it makes me feel insecure when he watches porn because its another woman and thats kond of a fear, what do others think?

_BANKSY_

Porn can potentially ruin a relationship, of course it depends on the person, for some men it can lead to them developing a different view of women, over time men may see women as more of a sexual object and forget their true emotions.
Also the chances are you're boyfriend is going to need more 'porn like' sex, basically he will want you to f*ck him like a pornstar - and he will desire a pornstars body etc etc.

Don't scare me man - how likely is this? I always thought porn was natural and acceptable for a guy, I was never going to ask my boyfriend to stop watching it.

hobbit_

The child who has been fed junk food all his life has become accustomed to it. If then, someone puts a healthy, nutritious and wonderful meal in front of him, what would he do? "This food I've always had is fine- it tastes good and each to their own, right?- I don't want to try this food- it looks all strange".

But all the while he is unaware that his stomach is being wrecked by his eating and his brain is severely weakened and his muscles are poor and his skin flaky and pale.

In other words, an exclusive, mutually unselfish loving union between a man and a woman looks too much like hard work especially when one can be satisfied with a self-seeking relationship which feels fine.

Are you talking about me? I've been watching porn since I was 8 or 9 and tbh, I'm fine.

Anonymous

yeh i suppose so but then i feel uncomfortable watching naked women i just much much prefer them with their clothes on lol but i guess i could see what he thinks. i mean because we're in a long distance relationship i understand it could be difficult for him to go without sex for a bit but i just give him as much as he wants when we see each other and i have no problem with that. we usually have it up to 3 times a day when we are together so its not like im depriving him of sex, i think part of it is that i love him so much that i couldn't bear to see him go and maybe it makes me feel insecure when he watches porn because its another woman and thats kond of a fear, what do others think?

Yeah it's another woman but she's just an object to satisfy an innate mechanism, same way food is an object to satisfy the bodily need of hunger. It won't change the way he views you - how he feels about you comes nowhere near in comparison to those women :smile:

:smile:

As someone said, in a LDR you should be glad he does that, and not with someone in real life. He's not gona meet those chicks he watches online.

I dont mind if my boy watches porn. There are some things that there's no way in hell I'd let him do to me so I'd rather he just watched some random porn star do it than bugged me about it.

I have no problem with any boyfriend of mine watching porn. Its not like they're cheating on you with a television screen.
The only problems I have with porn are the miscinceptions it gives its viewers concerning sex (its easy for a girl to orgasm from sex alone, yeah right) and the male/female bodies (men have 9-inch penises and women have massive breasts and solid makeup which doesnt even smudge, again, yeah right).

Southwesttwo

. If there was, god wouldn't have created it. Why don't you watch it with him? .

watch porn with god? You mean, like, watch it in church?

:lolwut:

:lolwut:

Installation

rofl, your bf is either hating you silently or lying. Probably lying. Anyway pr0n is more degrading to the man! They're just a few inches of meat, at least the woman gets some coverage.

Excuse me? Why would you be so damned rude?
You dont know anything about my relationship or partner, so keep your pathetic opinions to yourself. I'm offering serious advice to this person and you quite frankly have acted like a complete troll.

I have been with my boyfriend for years and we love and trust eachother very much, and share a wonderful sex life. And I know full well how my partner feels and what he gets up to.

So guess what you sad cretin, some men don't watch porn. Oh wow, what a shock. Obviously ALL men men must be exactly like you, right?

Wrong. Take your pathetic stereotypical assumptions somewhere else and stop degrading other peoples relationships- and partners. Eurgh.

There is a LOT wrong with porn. It's exploitative and degrading, and a terrible industry. I don't really expect my boyfriend to stop watching it, though.

polaroid13

If anything, I would join in with watching of porn (unless it's obvious he wants some alone time) and then make some of our own! (Well minus the camera).

Spoilsport!

To the OP: Porn isn't bad. He's not cheating on you because there's nobody to cheat with; it's a sexual release rather than an emotional bond.

It's both wrong and right :coma:

:coma:

Advanced Subsidiary

reverse anon-fail.

py0alb

watch porn with god? You mean, like, watch it in church?

:lolwut:

:lolwut:

Don't be silly - God is omnipresent. You just need to give a shout to catch his attention to watch it with him.

Doodahdoo

Spoilsport!

Well its more down to the fact that a camera stuck on a tripod won't make for a very good porno. Fancy being my cameragirl? :p:

:p:

py0alb

watch porn with god? You mean, like, watch it in church?

:lolwut:

:lolwut:

No, I mean she should watch porn with her boyfriend.

Southwesttwo

Well I guess that would be a problem then. Prehaps they need a section for over 18's on this website.

How is it stupid? It would be very useful to have a thread like that. For example, Priya Rai recently just done her first interracial scene. If we had a thread where we can post porn links, I could have post a link to that very scene. They have something like this on another forum:

http://www.vip2.co.uk/forum/topic/34536-the-zorn-archive/page__st__2120

You're the only one sad enough to know all the pornstars' names.. You'd be posting links to yourself.

Anonymous

If you are in a loving and long term relationship is it right for the guy to still be watching porn? It just seems a bit odd they love you and yet they watch other women and god knows what else , If they went and did this to another woman in the street it would be classed as cheating but watching it is okay? is it time us women said no?????? help im confused!!! :eek3:

:eek3:

because watching != doing.

anyway the internet is for porn, without there would be no interwebz D::::

py0alb

watch porn with god? You mean, like, watch it in church?

:lolwut:

:lolwut:

God is all ways watching when your watching porn, what else do you think he does all day?

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