Lack of sex in r/s so I'm looking at other men Watch

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(Original post by py0alb)
Don't talk to him about about or anything like that. Just give up on him. Having a threesome with two of his mates is a much better solution.
Wanna join in and make it a foursome?

I kid.
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(Original post by BandManDan)
Check his internet history, sounds like he's getting his bit from porn.
Unfortunately he probably is but he wouldn't be as stupid to leave it in his history on his computer.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Wanna join in and make it a foursome?

I kid.

Are you fit?



Are you sure you have done everything you can think of to entice him back into bed? What kind of porn does he watch when you're not around?
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Thats alright, you can only try. If he doesn't listen to you despite you being upset about it then that tells you alot about him. A relationship's most important factor is communication and if you can't talk to him about things that really matter to you then you have your answer
Unfortunately I don't want the answer that seems so obvious, 'sigh'.
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Which is stating the obvious (if I was **** in bed) but the actual question is what should I do about the relationship.
Talk. That or dump.
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Hahaa am I the only one who thought by r/s she meant RuneScape :awesome:
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Unfortunately I don't want the answer that seems so obvious, 'sigh'.
=( sucks i know, i hope things improve for you
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maybe he is cheating on you?
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I have been with my bf for 2 and a 1/2 years and we live together. (I'm 22 he's 27)

Latelly he shows me no physical affection we have sex every couple of weeks to a month if I'm lucky. Everything else in the relationship is perfect I trust him etc and know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me intentionaly but this is getting to me. My confidence is dropping and I've tried talking about it but he just changes the subject and whenever I try anything he pushes me away because he is tired etc. The lack of sex has been going on for a year so I know it's not just about that atm but the lack of affection as a whole. Never takes me out or wants to spend time with me.

The past couple months I'm starting to find other men really attractive and it's making me consider breaking up with my bf. I'm not extremelly unhappy with him but I'm not happy either. The fact I'm looking at other men makes me realise something is wrong.

I don't want to give up on the relationship if this is just a 'rough patch' but I want to know if anyone else has been in long term relationships and felt like this? What do you think I should do?

Well, its hardly going to get better from here onwards isn't it?

You're 22, this is where you are decidign what traits your most desired partner should have and go about finding them, you have found some that your current Bf is not offering which is physical affection and attention.

Find a guy who will give it to you in the LONG run, not just the first 6 months of a relationship.
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Hahaa am I the only one who thought by r/s she meant RuneScape :awesome:
here's your coat.
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I'm having this problem at the moment too.

I don't know what the problem is - I'm fairly sure it's not he thinks the sex is awful, as until a few months ago we were fine (also been together a couple of years). I know he still wants sexual activity, as when I'm at uni we joke about how he wants me to be home, and he's masturbated etc. but then when I'm there it just doesn't happen.

I DON'T UNDERSTAND!
Maybe he is shy or because you talk about 'doing the deed' he feels pressure to live up to the talk.
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I have been with my bf for 2 and a 1/2 years and we live together. (I'm 22 he's 27)

Latelly he shows me no physical affection we have sex every couple of weeks to a month if I'm lucky. Everything else in the relationship is perfect I trust him etc and know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me intentionaly but this is getting to me. My confidence is dropping and I've tried talking about it but he just changes the subject and whenever I try anything he pushes me away because he is tired etc. The lack of sex has been going on for a year so I know it's not just about that atm but the lack of affection as a whole. Never takes me out or wants to spend time with me.

The past couple months I'm starting to find other men really attractive and it's making me consider breaking up with my bf. I'm not extremelly unhappy with him but I'm not happy either. The fact I'm looking at other men makes me realise something is wrong.

I don't want to give up on the relationship if this is just a 'rough patch' but I want to know if anyone else has been in long term relationships and felt like this? What do you think I should do?
Yep, as others said. Force him to hear your opinion whether he likes it or not.

Also, maybe it's something about you thats putting him off?
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(Original post by pina.Love)
maybe he is cheating on you?
Lets hope not.
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=( sucks i know, i hope things improve for you
Thanks
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I'm in the EXACT same position in my relationship, I've been going out with my girlfriend a little over three years and about 8 months ago we went from having sex 2-3 times a week to once or twice every 2 MONTHS. But whenever I bring it up she just plays the "It always has to be about sex with you!" card, and this combined with an unwillingness to show any kind of emotional affection in private or public and a complete breakdown in communication when talking to each other about personal problems is making me massively unhappy.

I've tried talking about it on more than several occasions, but talking never gets anywhere. It's either I cheat on her and don't tell her (which I don't think I'm capable of doing) or break up now really. Which really sucks, because as a friend she's awesome.
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So, within the first 10 posts you've had a decision tree laid out for you.
You said you'd never cheat on him, yet the thread title says exactly that.

So, time to **** or get off the pot, you won't find an answer from anyone here about what you should do with YOUR life.

:gunfire: I don't know why, but I love that smiley.
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*mexican wave* erm...well the fact you came to TSR and not discussing the issue with him...shows lack of communication. Only best answer for his reasons is telling him and see what his response are. Your on somewhat a verge of ending your relationship because of one issue which can be solved. Everyone has flaws...don't expect every to be 'perfect' which is why couples are meant to work together to make the relationship work.

Even if you end the relationship, and hit the same situation as this but a different issue, it all comes down to making the relationship work. There is ups and down in every relationship.......

Talk with your partner seriously first before getting to 'that' point or he'll jump the gun and go crazy.
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(Original post by Alvrae)
maybe try somthing new? i stopped sleeping with my missus all the time because it felt like a routine. i tried speaking to her about trying new things and she wouldn't have it so i did the above to her.

she eventually spoke to me about it and now we try new things. i wonder if she'd try a three-sum XD probs not.

that happened with my missus about 2 yrs in.

either way since me and my missus spoke i see her like 3-4 times a week and sleep with her atleast once everytime i do see her.

maybe stop half way home from the pub one night,
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buy some new underware ect
I am extremely open minded. I wear alot of sexy underware and enjoy dressing up etc I believe in trying everything once and all that. So I really don't think that is the answer. I make an effort all the time. Dress nice, clean and always make an effort to look good.

(I'd even consider the threesome if he wanted)
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That may be true but it doesn't really answer the question though.
Why would he get involved with someone who weren't compatible with him in bed? Either he's cheating or watching too much porn. If this was the other way around, the comments would be "she needs to adjust, or else he's gonna go somewhere else to get it", not "she thinks you're crap in bed".

Talk to him and say you can't live like this.
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Well, how does he respond to the whole discussion. You haven't really mentioned what's been said to try change the situation.
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