(Original post by booraad)
I don't argue that childhood masturbation is wrong. I think it's a typical part of development. An adult masturbating or masturbating with a child is not normal or healthy and is inherently exploitative.
Showing children pornography is usually done with a view to later engage in sexual activity with the child. Often child pornography is shown to help encourage the child to think of such activity as 'normal'. It is not normal or healthy. In Islamic culture pornography is not even legal and engaging in sexual activity with anyone other than your spouse is illegal. I suppose there is some form of shame attached to a child being exposed abuse early on and that is why it is hidden. Only when the abuse becomes tangible (i.e. physical in nature), do parents begin to think about contacting the authorities. Even then there is a huge stigma in admitting that your child (especially daughter) is no longer a virgin.
I'm a little confused,if it's okay for a child to masturbate, and you show a child porn without engaging in sexual practises with them, or if they say "please could you do x to me whilst I do y" how that is abuse...
...I mean obviously there are grey areas, bad things can happen, but that's no reason to label every case where an adult gives a child the means to engage in exploring their sexuality as 'abuse'.
If we're talking about forcing someone into doing something I can see where you're coming from, but if something is (both internally and externally) coercion free why do we have to label sexual exploration in such a negative light?
There's this whole issue of "innocence" and "sex is dirty" that we ingrain into each other in our, and other, societies. Sex is not seen as 'innocent', and if you want to think like that then fair enough, but why are you imposing that onto situations where you're not involved, why do we have to look at sex, or at the very least young people exploring their sexuality, in a negative manner?