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    (Original post by Emmak7)
    (the worst thing is that many of these are women over 30...he's 25).
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    What a legend. Thumbs up brah
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    (Original post by noggins)
    could be worse! could be naked men with beards :eek:
    Could have been OP's dad
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    Worst
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    How about rather then ignoring it, you deal with the problem and ask him? Holy ****! That may sort something out! We can't be having that now can we! :rolleyes:
    I want to talk to him and work this out, because I really do love him and don't want to leave him. But will I be able to trust him again???
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    If it bothers you then tell him.

    He may think its ok for him to have pictures like this even when he's in a relactionship, he should understand if you voice your problem with it.

    And naughty you for looking through his things....well.....least you didnt find emails of him cheating with another girl? so every clowd...
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      Would you be so upset if it was naked pictures of other men?
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      Well tbh,it's up to you.Do you really love him and is it mutual.Can you work round this or do you need to move on.Off topic did you actually hack him or did you use his password.If you hacked he could press charges if all this gets childish.
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      (Original post by banter)
      If it bothers you then tell him.

      He may think its ok for him to have pictures like this even when he's in a relactionship, he should understand if you voice your problem with it.
      The thing is that I'm 100% sure he knows it would bother me and he knows he shouldn't be doing it!!
      and why the hell would he keep pictures from 2005 and 2006???

      I'm not so mad about pics he has before we started going out, I'm mad about the pics he's got (and they are A LOT) during our time together.
      Also, he lied to one of his emails to a girl and told her he was single!! and it was a recent email!
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      Take it from a girl who's boyfriend is a compulsive liar and online flirt.
      If you confront him, he will deny it.
      When you tell what evidence you have on it, he will make excuses.
      When you get upset he will promise you he will never do it again.
      Then he will change all his passwords... and then keep on doing it.

      If you want a chat and have a bit of a moan about him PM me seeing as I have been in the same situation and I know how much it sucks.
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      (Original post by AwsomePossum)
      Well tbh,it's up to you.Do you really love him and is it mutual.Can you work round this or do you need to move on.Off topic did you actually hack him or did you use his password.If you hacked he could press charges if all this gets childish.
      I used his password, I didn't actually hack it...
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      (Original post by Emmak7)
      Well, once while we sort of arguing he said that he didn't trust me. Also, he's VERY jealous which makes me think that he's doing stuff like that.
      And then he kept on flirting on fb, so I had to look....
      Kinda sounds like neither of you is happy with your relationship but you're both just carrying on with it regardless.
      You aren't going to be able to relax about this issue until you talk to him about it, and when that happens, a whole load of other little niggles will come rushing to the surface too.
      Way I see it, you have three choices:
      1. Both agree that what you have is worth saving, and try it again with a clean slate.
      2. Take a "break", see how you feel about each other after a cooling off period.
      3. Clean break. AKA two-new-singletons-on-the-block.

      Buttt I am not inside either of your heads, and I could be reading this horrendously wrong... the internet has a tendancy to distort things
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      To get a picture of the situation and to give advice, I feel you should forward me the pictures for me to analyse.
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      If you really can't live with it (which I couldn't to be honest, its more than disrespectful if he knows the girls), then you don't have to justify it. You don't have to tell him you read the emails. You can just leave him if that's what you want to do. If you don't want to leave him then.. I dunno.
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      (Original post by Jimbo1234)
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      The fact that she was invading his privacy puts her in the wrong. It makes her seem insecure no matter what she found. This may shine light on their cracks thus breaking them up. And anyway there isn't any concrete evidence that he is sexually involved with these ladies while they were together.
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      (Original post by Emmak7)
      I want to talk to him and work this out, because I really do love him and don't want to leave him. But will I be able to trust him again???
      Seriously - you don't trust him already, you hacked his email.
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      (Original post by CoffeeStinks)
      The fact that she was invading his privacy puts her in the wrong. It makes her seem insecure no matter what she found. This may shine light on their cracks thus breaking them up. And anyway there isn't any concrete evidence that he is sexually involved with these ladies while they were together.
      Yes, I might be insecure. But how does that put ME in the wrong??
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      (Original post by Emmak7)
      Yes, I might be insecure. But how does that put ME in the wrong??
      Being insecure doesn't, invading his privacy does.
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      for your part if you feel f**ked over smack him up innit however tell a brudda from me he's a G
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      (Original post by Emmak7)
      Ok, I admit maybe I shouldn't have hacked his hotmail and facebook but his hotmail is FULL of pictures of different girls (whom he knows).

      He's still kept naked pics of his ex and tons of other girls whom I don't know at all. (the worst thing is that many of these are women over 30...he's 25).

      What annoys me more is RECENT pictures of online "friends" of his! I also found a comment on fb where he said that he's said a naked picture of himself to a girl and that was when we were going out

      I feel so hurt, I don't know what to do!!

      How should I tell him? I feel so mad and hurt
      Don't try and restrict his sexual desire. If he has a several relationships going on at once and you're not confortable with it, then leave him. If he likes women older than him, who are you to judge? It's a really common fantasy for men and doesn't break any UK laws, so I respect it even though I don't share it, and so should you.

      I realize this discovery has been a very unpleasant experience for you, but invading someone's privacy in such a blatant way is inexcusable. Perhaps your boyfriend's internet sexcapades are the result of something you did that made him unsatisfied with the relationship? Keep in mind that snooping and possessiveness are REALLY off putting behaviours. So I definitely suggest you have a talk with him and see what's wrong. This passive aggressive investigation of his private life will only lead to a bitter breakup.
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      (Original post by Emmak7)
      Ok, I admit maybe I shouldn't have hacked his hotmail and facebook but his hotmail is FULL of pictures of different girls (whom he knows).

      He's still kept naked pics of his ex and tons of other girls whom I don't know at all. (the worst thing is that many of these are women over 30...he's 25).

      What annoys me more is RECENT pictures of online "friends" of his! I also found a comment on fb where he said that he's said a naked picture of himself to a girl and that was when we were going out

      I feel so hurt, I don't know what to do!!

      How should I tell him? I feel so mad and hurt
      I think you may have found his ****bank, I don't mean to be harsh but like the other comments think of it as porn. The one he sent to the girl I would keep on eye on but so long as he does not act on it you should be fine.
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      (Original post by CoffeeStinks)
      The fact that she was invading his privacy puts her in the wrong. It makes her seem insecure no matter what she found. This may shine light on their cracks thus breaking them up. And anyway there isn't any concrete evidence that he is sexually involved with these ladies while they were together.
      Not necessarily as she did find something. She could have just been insecure and checked because of that, or she could have picked up on the bf hiding something.
      Either way there is a problem and she needs to confront it.
     
     
     
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