Very, imo. I do it sometimes and, when I do, I just feel worse about myself.
How important is it to not compare yourself with others? Watch
- 04-12-2010 02:16
- 04-12-2010 02:17
It is very important.
I can't help it though.
- 04-12-2010 02:20
You must always compare yourself to others, otherwise what drive and determination will you have, who can you spire to be, to defeat?
The real key is to know your strengths, to know what you might be able to achieve, and aim for it. I mean, sure, I'd like to be the next Einstein, but I'm aware that it just isn't going to happen. Doesn't stop me having aspirations though, it just gives me some grounding.
- 04-12-2010 02:23
For every person you perceive better than you, find a chav to balance it out with
Works every time
- 04-12-2010 02:34
The problem is the goals constantly change. Once you reach the goal in your head its no longer adequate this is why for example you get miserable lottery winners.
What happens when that Rolex is stolen ?
What happens when you loose your job ?
What happens if you loose the respect of your friends ?
are you suddenly less of a person? are you defined by these things ?
You can have goals/ambitions but becoming too attached to them will cause discontent with what you have. This then causes unhappiness.Last edited by INTit; 04-12-2010 at 02:36.
- 04-12-2010 03:12
I think it's PC *******s (the saying).
Everybody has different circumstances in life. But part of living also is to strive and grow. So comparing is not bad per se.
I think if a person does it a lot, or feels inadequate a lot, then it's probably a self-esteem issue. We cannot be totally equal if we are all different, and nobody is truly superior to anybody else.