social pressure.(Original post by Rossical)
wouldn't you rather have sex for the first time with a girl that you're in love with?
i really don't understand people that want to loose there virginity with some randomer from a club
18 and still no sex! Watch
- 04-12-2010 04:25
- 04-12-2010 04:42
I don't know if my area is a lot different to elsewhere in the uk but definately the majority of people are virgins when they reach 18. It is pretty much if you have had a girlfriend between 16 and 18 then you have got some and if you havent then your a virgin. Only a tiny percentage of people have had casual sex at 18 in my town. I am a virgin but I never think about it at all, I could get a girlfriend if I wanted to so it doesn't bother me. It is really difficult to get a girl from a club in your bed, not many people have a lot of success so there is no point in getting annoyed that you cant manage it.
- 04-12-2010 13:05
- 04-12-2010 13:27
If you're desperate, I hear the girls on match.com are quite easy.
(Original post by Anonymous)
- 04-12-2010 13:32
I am a male and all you guys know how often we think about sex, problem is that I am not getting any. I am 18 and still a virgin, not by choice however. I go out clubbing the odd time and manage to pull a few women, but I haven't found myself in a situation where sex comes into the equation. Is this normal for someone my age?
Most of my friends have had sex, and I am almost embarrassed to admit that I am a virgin. I wouldn't say I was a bad looking bloke either. My question is, am I taking the wrong approach or will I just have to wait until I find a girlfriend?
I am very keen to 'get sexual', without sounding too weird haha, so any comments are appreciated! Thanks.
- 04-12-2010 13:35
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- 04-12-2010 13:39
I don't see the big deal about it, I think people put far too much emphasis on it. But apparently in different areas in the U.K it matters more if you haven't by like 16 or something. Apparently in ayrshire so I'm told
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- 04-12-2010 13:42
Well people wouldn't laugh at me or anything, it's just that I feel more than ready to get going. I will have to wait and see what happens, thanks for the advice people.
- 04-12-2010 13:47
I think after three years of reading threads like this, it's about time the Mods came along and stickied one of them so we don't have "I'm [16/17/18/19/20/21] (delete as appropriate) and have never [kissed/had sexual contact] with a member of the opposite sex! HALP!" because in the end the answer is always the same, or at least it should be:
It doesn't matter whether you've gone all the way at 16 or lost it at 60, what should matter is that you actually care about that person. A lot people will lose it to someone they don't know, and, to quote an Italian song I'm listening to lately -- Come la virginità d'un tratto: prima la perdi, poi la rivuoi (Suddenly, it's like virginity: first you lose it, then you want it back). You'll get your chances, and you just have to decide whether it's right for you or not. The first opportunity I got, I rushed in like a bull at a gate, and after some foreplay I figured I was 'doing it wrong' and shouldn't have jumped at the chance just because society would maybe look at me as a human being, rather than as a virgin. When it actually came to the chance to do it with someone I loved, I got dumped before I worked up the nerve.
We all lose it at different times, and, without sounding all high-and-mighty, it might be better to wait for someone you have some feelings for, rather than some girl you just picked up at a club. "So, dad, who did you lose your virginity to?" "Oh, I don't remember her name...or her face...it was so long ago...in fact, I wish it had been to your mum..."
[And before conclusions are jumped to: I'm in no way religious. It's just my personal preference, these days]