having a handful of close friends who you feel relaxed around and then more people who you text now and then and meet up irregularly is probably the best.
join some societies and find out people's interests is prob the first step - then arrange to meet up doing that activity. at the end maybe say something like "if you find out about any other events, give me a text/fb message" or something, to show you want to meet them again and to put the ball in their court.
are you at uni? if so, you will meet people who share your interests. if you're at school, prob harder - a lot of people are complete 'beeps' at school in their pursual to appear cool.
I don't have any proper friends Watch
- 08-12-2010 02:37
- 08-12-2010 02:40
[QUOTE=RoshniDiya;28822832]Oh, me too. I'm feeling the impact of the lonliness right now! I don't know what to say to you, because i don't know what to do about it myself. Like you, i'm the tag along in a group of friends who i know don't really care about me like they care about each other. Even when i do text, i usually don't get replies or people wait a couple of days to reply because i'm that "push over" type that's too kind and won't say anything. I guess.
seriously, don't worry about it. i can completely relate to that - i was always the push-over who no one really bothered with. but at uni things are different - people aren't such complete 'bleeps' - part of all tht is other people's desperate attempt to try and remain 'cool' so they use you to mke them feel powerful. wait til you get to uni
(Original post by Sungirlshines)
- 08-12-2010 03:12
So what? there are no real friends nowadays. Everyone's fake beside your family. Open your eyes people and see what sorrounds you.. people will always take advantage of you, doesnt matter if thats ure friend or not. Everyone's selfish and is only thinking abour their own arses.
If you want to go far, go alone cause there will always be someone who will envy ure success or achievement.
Personally, i have ''friends''- people i hang out with but they know 20% about me and my life..just superficially. I always share everything with my family. Friends are ure closest enemies
ps: people will probably neg rep this (which is the last thing i care about in this life I guess pople dont have anything else to do but positive/neg rep on TSR ) but heey, I am happy because i can live my life as i want without being biched around, gossiped or any dirty things like that - cause yeah, 'real' friends do that to. They'll feel happy only if they see you somewhere below them..
I've always been there for my frnds n helped them no matter wat my situation n i don't think im the onli one in this world. U just need to open up urself to other pplz n find REAL frnds
- 08-12-2010 03:28
Aww u can b my frnd if u went to my uni... But yer i used to b like tat wen i changed scool in yr9. I mean i had other frnds but in scool i was a total loner but u just have to find the right person and open up a little because tats exactly wat i did and i'v made frnds for life now, even though we're not in the same uni anymore.
I kno how u feel. Im really she and wen it comes to pplz i dont like to interfear n tat just makes me an outcast cuz I don't try cuz i feel like if i just go n try n hang with a frp of ppl tey might think im tryna interfear n all tat **** but u shouldn't let anythng like tat get to u... Just b more open n less shy try n talk to everyone as much as u can wen u get any grp work in uni or partner wrk just make an effort n soon u'll b blooming with frnds lol
- 08-12-2010 03:28
I feel a little like this. I mean, I hang out with people and such and I'm a sociable girl, but I feel like I have no true bestest friends. I used to when I was younger but we drifted apart and went down seperate paths. I came home a bit late today to find that my housemates had put up the tree without me and had drank all the mulled wine around the fire, and that upset a lil bit inside that they didn't think of me.
I think though that friendships come and go to a certain extent. I do recommend joining a society because even though I haven't made any close friends out of it getting involved with panto has meant that I've met new people, been on nights out, and had a bit of banter!
- 08-12-2010 03:55
Just be yourself....If that doesn't work then learn to be funny... Start with:
Flight of the Conchords
Garth Merenghi's Dark Place
League of gentilmen
By the time you've finished watching those, you should be sorted... if not... you've had a laugh along the way!