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    (Original post by Lewroll)
    Ok then, lemme just whip out my psychology textbook, and i will give this diagnosing stuff a go.

    Ok so im assuming you are very sad? Are you constantly sad or occasionally? Have you had any happy moments recently?
    Do you have a loss of pleasure from activities you used to enjoy:sexface:?
    Any biological changes? overeating, undereating, tiredness etc?
    Are you apathetic? Do you have lots of negative thoughts about yourself and the world? feeling suicidal?
    Has anyone in your family ever suffered from depression?

    OP I would say that you probably arent depressed (remember, im not qualified lol). You sound like you are having a hard time, but we all have sad periods. Fight through it, get yourself out. Excercise is a good way of making yourself feel better, and i hear joining a gym will help you meet other people (i hear, maybe i will try it one day ). if you go to a doctor and he diagnoses you with depression you will probably get medicine, however he could also give you cognitive behavioural therapy, or something like electroconvulsive therapy.

    You can probably tell im no expert. You might just need someone to talk to, pm me if you want, im all ears
    - I would say I'm only occassionally sad, I have my ups and downs, but when I get down I can get very down.
    - Happy moments - I've laughed, but not in hysterics. As a whole I would say I'm unhappy about life.
    - Actually yes, and that gets me down even more down.
    - Undereating definately, I only had dinner yesterday because I was in bed for the rest of the day and I've only had a small brunch today :/
    - I sometimes have negative thoughts about myself, but I sometimes force myself to snap out of it, which can take a while. I don't feel suicidal though
    - My dad suffers from depression and while I was in my a level psychology lesson actually, and we were watching a program about it I almost cried, because I felt the same as one of the sufferers a few years ago but didn't realise it was that bad. However I don't think it's that bad now.

    Yeah I'm not sure if I would want to go to the doctor just yet, I want to try and sort my life out. It's just difficult when the only people I can really talk to about it are all over a hundred miles away

    Thanks

    (Original post by christine18)
    Visiting your GP would give you reassurance that it's just a temporary thing. It would give you peace of mind. You don't need another thing to worry about (on top of university).

    It's only been 3 months. Do you know why people don't want to talk to you? Try to get involved with some campus activities of groups; that way you can meet people who share common interests with you.
    People will talk to me, I'll be friendly, ask them questions, joke with them etc. however they just don't want to know me outside of uni :/ I made friends easily at home so I don't know why I'm having such a tough time here. I've signed up for language tuition for next semester, and might look into some other activities, just worried that people in societies will already be all cliquey and exclude me like the other people I know :/
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    It's your first year at university. chances are, you're homesick and having a hard time while you're there won't help. If you're behind, have a word with your tutor. They may be able to help you plan your independent learning to catch up. perhaps suggest an evening in with your housemates? That way, you can get to know each other. it sounds geeky but the first time I was at uni, we bonded over an evening playing a very drunk game of monopoly. if you continue to feel low, your uni should have a counselling service. it may be worth considering that, and if that doesn't help, visit your gp.
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    (Original post by Emmak7)
    hello there!

    Well, I'm a bit in the same situation, only mines is a bit worse.

    I've just started uni as well this year and have no friends. Just some people that I know from my courses...
    When uni started, I became really ill and was in bed for 3 weeks which meant I missed on all the socialising in the first 3 weeks, where everyone is getting to know each other.
    I also live at home and my journey to uni takes about an hour every day so it's not like I can go on nights out and stay until late because there would be no trains after 11pm...

    So in uni, I feel pretty lonely as well.

    I would not say you are depressed, no.
    All you need to do is change your circumstances.

    No one could find friends for you, so you'd need to get out and find them by yourself. Try to get involved as much as you can.
    Societies, clubs, any gigs?
    join the uni gym or a class?

    Apart from that, there's not much advice I can give you...
    Just don't really worry about it. You're not the only that doesn't have any friends in uni :P
    Things will fall in place and you'll meet people you can go out with.
    This is what I'm hoping for myself as well right now!

    Good luck and don't stress about it!
    Hey Thanks for the long reply!

    Illnesses suck! I keep thinking if I hadn't been ill would my situation be completely different? At least you have friends at home though right? I'm living in halls where I hear people having a great time, see my 'friends' climbing out of windows to hang out with each other without me etc. Anyway, sorry for the comparing, I'm just feeling sorry for myself. I was in your situation last year when I did art foundation, as everyone else lived in the city and my bus stopped running at half 6 so know how annoying it is!

    I think I will look into societies for after the holidays, it's just that our work load is so much and I'm falling behind I don't know if I'd even have time which is pretty sad :/

    Thanks I hope it all turns out good for both of us!
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    (Original post by dizzy09)
    It's your first year at university. chances are, you're homesick and having a hard time while you're there won't help. If you're behind, have a word with your tutor. They may be able to help you plan your independent learning to catch up. perhaps suggest an evening in with your housemates? That way, you can get to know each other. it sounds geeky but the first time I was at uni, we bonded over an evening playing a very drunk game of monopoly. if you continue to feel low, your uni should have a counselling service. it may be worth considering that, and if that doesn't help, visit your gp.
    I'm not even homesick though that's the problem. Most of the friend's who are still living in my hometown aren't very reliable and the others are all off about 200 miles away. I don't get on with my family very well either. The only thing that keeps me going back is my boyfriend.

    My tutors already know I'm behind. I was 3 weeks late handing something in and a week before that I had to go home for personal reasons, my tutor made me talk to him about it infront of everyone and then had a go at me for not handing it in. If I tell them that I'm behind with work again they'll probably give up on me :/

    I would try and bond with them more in this final week but with all this work I can't see that happening. I think they only really see me as a flatmate anyway, even though I've been on a few nights out with them. They all have their own groups of friends. I'm going out with them on Wednesday for a friend's birthday however I do feel like a bit of a tag along sometimes :/

    I just want a solution right now really, so I can get on with all of this work. Thanks for replying though
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    (Original post by pippa90)
    - I would say I'm only occassionally sad, I have my ups and downs, but when I get down I can get very down.
    - Happy moments - I've laughed, but not in hysterics. As a whole I would say I'm unhappy about life.
    - Actually yes, and that gets me down even more down.
    - Undereating definately, I only had dinner yesterday because I was in bed for the rest of the day and I've only had a small brunch today :/
    - I sometimes have negative thoughts about myself, but I sometimes force myself to snap out of it, which can take a while. I don't feel suicidal though
    - My dad suffers from depression and while I was in my a level psychology lesson actually, and we were watching a program about it I almost cried, because I felt the same as one of the sufferers a few years ago but didn't realise it was that bad. However I don't think it's that bad now.

    Yeah I'm not sure if I would want to go to the doctor just yet, I want to try and sort my life out. It's just difficult when the only people I can really talk to about it are all over a hundred miles away

    Thanks



    People will talk to me, I'll be friendly, ask them questions, joke with them etc. however they just don't want to know me outside of uni :/ I made friends easily at home so I don't know why I'm having such a tough time here. I've signed up for language tuition for next semester, and might look into some other activities, just worried that people in societies will already be all cliquey and exclude me like the other people I know :/
    Now I see this is why teachers tell us not to diagnose people. If this were an exam question, i would say you have major depressive disorder. However this isnt an exam paper(its a lot bloody harder than an exam paper), this is real life. So I'm not going to say you have depression but there are some things i can suggest.
    -you have to eat more, you dont want to become ill, that will make you even more sad
    -when you get negative thoughts, think about all the thigns you are good at and what you've accomplished- these will help you realise that you arent unworthy, or a failure (if this is what you were thinking)
    - Talking to people. That is the wonders of the internet, you can get advice from people all around the world. However its no replacement from having a real person to talk to. Im not the best person to ask about making friends, but maybe if you take up my excersing idea, it might work. Does your university have a gym? If it does, go to it. It will keep you active and help take your mind off life for a while. It will also make you fit and hot so you will get more attention . If you go reguarly you will meet people there, and you could become friends.

    I hope this helps. I wouldnt go to the doctor yet I'd probably wait to see if it got worse, because it sounds like you can fix these problems without meds. But if you do go to the doctor (heres another bit of A2 psychology advice) 3% of the population go to their GP about depression however only half of them are diagnosed with it. So you shoud go to a psychiatrist, they are specially trained in this area and will give you a better diagnosis than me or a GP could.
    Good luck
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    (Original post by Lewroll)
    Now I see this is why teachers tell us not to diagnose people. If this were an exam question, i would say you have major depressive disorder. However this isnt an exam paper(its a lot bloody harder than an exam paper), this is real life. So I'm not going to say you have depression but there are some things i can suggest.
    -you have to eat more, you dont want to become ill, that will make you even more sad
    -when you get negative thoughts, think about all the thigns you are good at and what you've accomplished- these will help you realise that you arent unworthy, or a failure (if this is what you were thinking)
    - Talking to people. That is the wonders of the internet, you can get advice from people all around the world. However its no replacement from having a real person to talk to. Im not the best person to ask about making friends, but maybe if you take up my excersing idea, it might work. Does your university have a gym? If it does, go to it. It will keep you active and help take your mind off life for a while. It will also make you fit and hot so you will get more attention . If you go reguarly you will meet people there, and you could become friends.

    I hope this helps. I wouldnt go to the doctor yet I'd probably wait to see if it got worse, because it sounds like you can fix these problems without meds. But if you do go to the doctor (heres another bit of A2 psychology advice) 3% of the population go to their GP about depression however only half of them are diagnosed with it. So you shoud go to a psychiatrist, they are specially trained in this area and will give you a better diagnosis than me or a GP could.
    Good luck
    Lol yeah, psychology is such a debatable subject, even professional psychologists could argue against each other about whether someone has a mental illness or not.

    I do usually eat enough, it's just today and yesterday really. I will go and get my dinner ready now though
    My negative thoughts are usually just me thinking that I must be incredibley crap socially and a boring person for people not to want to go out with me, or invite me very much. I can't think of any thoughts that will get me out of it most of the time, I usually just fade out of it like I am now.
    I might take up going to the gym, try inviting some people I know (if they will go of course).
    I swear that about 20% of people get mental health problems in their lifetime, quite a lot of the time it being depression? Anyway yeah I probably will go if it continues after I return after the hols.

    Thanks
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    (Original post by pippa90)
    Lol yeah, psychology is such a debatable subject, even professional psychologists could argue against each other about whether someone has a mental illness or not.

    I do usually eat enough, it's just today and yesterday really. I will go and get my dinner ready now though
    My negative thoughts are usually just me thinking that I must be incredibley crap socially and a boring person for people not to want to go out with me, or invite me very much. I can't think of any thoughts that will get me out of it most of the time, I usually just fade out of it like I am now.
    I might take up going to the gym, try inviting some people I know (if they will go of course).
    I swear that about 20% of people get mental health problems in their lifetime, quite a lot of the time it being depression? Anyway yeah I probably will go if it continues after I return after the hols.

    Thanks
    Yeah we all have hard or depressing times in life, its natural. Nobodys life is perfect, look at me, its 12:30 on a saturday night, i should be out clubbing or drinking or vandalising stuff, doing things teenagers do, instead im sat in my room on a student forum talking to complete strangers. Thats a depressing scene.
    As for your social life, i'd say that it is quite normal for a lot of people. I can see why it would be upsetting though, but you just have to put yourself in situations where you can meet new people.
    I see a lot of threads like this on TSR about people not making friends at uni. I keep getting a horrible feeling it will happen to me -_-
    Chin up OP. It might just be because of the horrible weather (seasonal affective disorder- psychology alevel ftw!!) things will definitely get better after christmas.
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    (Original post by Lewroll)
    Yeah we all have hard or depressing times in life, its natural. Nobodys life is perfect, look at me, its 12:30 on a saturday night, i should be out clubbing or drinking or vandalising stuff, doing things teenagers do, instead im sat in my room on a student forum talking to complete strangers. Thats a depressing scene.
    As for your social life, i'd say that it is quite normal for a lot of people. I can see why it would be upsetting though, but you just have to put yourself in situations where you can meet new people.
    I see a lot of threads like this on TSR about people not making friends at uni. I keep getting a horrible feeling it will happen to me -_-
    Chin up OP. It might just be because of the horrible weather (seasonal affective disorder- psychology alevel ftw!!) things will definitely get better after christmas.
    Yep I felt like such a loser earlier going to the laundry by myself at 9pm on a Sat night!
    My advice for when you start uni would to just go all out on freshers week, and make sure you don't get ill in the first term (much easier said than done ). Now that I haven't done either of these things I'm stuck with loads of cliques that I kinda know and then me, yay!
    Yeah I think I get season affective disorder, maybe that's just what it is. I remember last year just crying for no reason, so my boyfriend asked me why and I was like I dunno, maybe the weather! :'( and he was like errrm okay
    I agree, everything should be better after christmas, it's just getting there!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey I haven't been feeling too great lately and wanted to ask you guys whether you think I have depression before I go to the doctors and make a fool out of myself.
    Basically I've been at uni for nearly 3 months now, living in halls and don't have any proper friends. During freshers week we had to go to loads of lectures meaning that I had to pass on a few nights out, meaning that I didn't bond with my flatmates and the friends that they had found properly. I was then ill for a few weeks meaning that I had to pass on a few more nights out from them and people on my course. Now they're all close friends, know each other terribley well and I barely ever get invited out unless I'm with them when they're talking about it (although they often just organise things infront of me without inviting me). They all go out in the day and go over to watch films, eat pizza etc. and all I can do is sit in my room, do work, and cry. I've tried inviting people out several times but they either have too much work to do, have no money, or don't reply. I've spoken to my flatmate about this and she sympathesised with me but it still happens.

    I feel so alone as I'm over 100 miles away from my hometown and have cried about it nearly everyday for the past couple of weeks that I haven't even been able to work. I've also not gone into uni for a few days because I'm behind with work and just feel like curling up in bed and letting the world go on without me. Do I need help?

    Sorry for the long post but I need you to get the full picture.

    Trolls don't bother posting please.
    Like others have said it sounds more like loneliness than depression. Just try and put those few weeks behind you and just start fresh, loosen up a bit and try and ask some people out and dont be shy or uptight. It might be a good idea to invite a friend from outside uni or a family member so that you can settle a bit easier. Good luck, but seriously, dont be all depressive, there is nothing that means you cant enjoy yourself, have fun and socialise - i know this, I used to be pretty uptight myself. Just relax, loosen up a bit and make sure you get a friend or family member to come over.
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    (Original post by pippa90)
    Yep I felt like such a loser earlier going to the laundry by myself at 9pm on a Sat night!
    My advice for when you start uni would to just go all out on freshers week, and make sure you don't get ill in the first term (much easier said than done ). Now that I haven't done either of these things I'm stuck with loads of cliques that I kinda know and then me, yay!
    Yeah I think I get season affective disorder, maybe that's just what it is. I remember last year just crying for no reason, so my boyfriend asked me why and I was like I dunno, maybe the weather! :'( and he was like errrm okay
    I agree, everything should be better after christmas, it's just getting there!
    Wow, alone at the laundry on a saturday night. I think your depressing scene beats mine . I will go all out at freshers, i dont want uni to be a repeat experience of college. Im determined to make things change (doesnt mean it will happen though lol). Ive only been quite depressed once when i was around 16-17 (although i suspect it might just have been hormones lol), but now that i have things to look forward to i suppose i have a brighter view of the future . Now im no expert, but what would happen if you went to a club or something on your own. Would people know you were alone? At least there you will be surrounded by people (although that might be more depressing than if you were alone) give it a try maybe, if you cant get anyone to go with you.
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    (Original post by RectalExamination)
    Like others have said it sounds more like loneliness than depression. Just try and put those few weeks behind you and just start fresh, loosen up a bit and try and ask some people out and dont be shy or uptight. It might be a good idea to invite a friend from outside uni or a family member so that you can settle a bit easier. Good luck, but seriously, dont be all depressive, there is nothing that means you cant enjoy yourself, have fun and socialise - i know this, I used to be pretty uptight myself. Just relax, loosen up a bit and make sure you get a friend or family member to come over.
    Thanks I'm feeling better now, calmed down after earlier Think I can see more clearly now, just that when I get into depressive mode (as I was when I created the thread) I just believe that everything about my life sucks and there's nothing I can do about it.
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    (Original post by Lewroll)
    Wow, alone at the laundry on a saturday night. I think your depressing scene beats mine . I will go all out at freshers, i dont want uni to be a repeat experience of college. Im determined to make things change (doesnt mean it will happen though lol). Ive only been quite depressed once when i was around 16-17 (although i suspect it might just have been hormones lol), but now that i have things to look forward to i suppose i have a brighter view of the future . Now im no expert, but what would happen if you went to a club or something on your own. Would people know you were alone? At least there you will be surrounded by people (although that might be more depressing than if you were alone) give it a try maybe, if you cant get anyone to go with you.
    Lol yep At least there were a couple of other people being as much as a loser as I was though
    I kinda wish I'd had someone to give me advice before I went to uni, I just don't think I was ready or prepared for it tbh!
    Yeah I was kinda depressed when I was 17, but I think that was just because all my friends had got into relationships and I'd never had a boyfriend, and my now boyfriend started going out with someone else. Silly little things when you look back at them but it's such a big deal at the time!
    Omg I could never do that! I've lost people in a club once and felt like such a loser I'm going out for a kinda friend's birthday on Wed, and a house party with people on my course (which I'm a little nervous about because they've all been out together before without inviting me and know each other really well - but I'm trying to stay positive!).
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    It's only the first few months of Uni so you shouldn't get to worried. I'm sure there's a lot of social clubs you are able to join and meet people. Maybe you should organise something for you and your flat mates to do? If it get's any worse you should see a GP.
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    (Original post by pippa90)
    Thanks I'm feeling better now, calmed down after earlier Think I can see more clearly now, just that when I get into depressive mode (as I was when I created the thread) I just believe that everything about my life sucks and there's nothing I can do about it.
    Thats good to hear, but honestly I have seen this happen - you really should see some friends or family members and make sure that if you are struggling for whatever reason you are doing so alone - dont let things get worse and worse as believe me I have seen people let it get much worse. Im sure you will be perfectly fine though
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    (Original post by RectalExamination)
    Thats good to hear, but honestly I have seen this happen - you really should see some friends or family members and make sure that if you are struggling for whatever reason you are doing so alone - dont let things get worse and worse as believe me I have seen people let it get much worse. Im sure you will be perfectly fine though
    Thanks Out of interest what happened when it got much worse?
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    (Original post by pippa90)
    Thanks Out of interest what happened when it got much worse?
    Sent you a PM
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    Your mums beating up your sister
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    Well, I've had/ still have depression, so feel free to quote me and have a chat/ talk about symptoms/ coping mechanisms etc.
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    (Original post by Lewroll)
    Im doing psychology a level and i have an exam in a few weeks. One of the topics is depression, so helping you will be a good way for me to revise
    What are your symptoms? To be diagnosed as depressed you need to show at least 5 different symptoms (biological, emotional, cognitive or behavioural) everyday for at least 2weeks. So describe how youve been feeling.
    (Original post by Lewroll)
    Ok then, lemme just whip out my psychology textbook, and i will give this diagnosing stuff a go.
    GTFO.

    Completely irresponsible. This is why school kids shouldn't be taught anything resembling clinical psychology.
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    GTFO.

    Completely irresponsible. This is why school kids shouldn't be taught anything resembling clinical psychology.
    You're getting rep when my stock replenishes itself sir.
 
 
 
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