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    (Original post by TheSownRose)
    It's not strictly a case of three categories - no one is 100% straight, 100% gay or an exactly 50/50 split between the two. It's an entire spectrum, and where you fall all depends on how you feel; for example, you can be straight because you'd only want to date someone of the opposite gender ... but find people of the same sex attractive. Do you 'feel' straight?

    Then there are people like me who are off the spectrum by being things like asexual - how do you tell what you are when you find no one sexually attractive? I still have physical and emotional attraction, and without a sexual component to drive you these can go either way; it so happens that the majority of people I have been attracted to are male, but I find females physically attractive and can connect with them, so if that occurs in the same woman I an equally capable of being attracted to them.

    Don't try and label it into three nice categories, it doesn't fit.
    What does your "physical attraction" consist of?
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    (Original post by Arekkusu)
    What does your "physical attraction" consist of?
    Things like do they have a nice build, is their face and smile kind, is their voice pleasant to listen to, are their hands soft and free from callouses..?

    It's a lot harder to describe the difference between physical and sexual than emotional and sexual; lots of people have experienced being attracted to people emotionally but having no chemistry, so sexuals (which 99% of the population are, so odds on that's who you're trying to explain it to) can understand that you don't need one for the other to exist ... but the difference between physical and sexual are much thinner and people tend to think if you find someone physically attractive you want to have sex with them, even if just on some base instinct.

    Getting a grip of, "I can find you physically attractive without being sexually attracted you," is much harder and not something as many people feel, although some do - these are far easier to explain it to. Does it make sense to you?
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    Everyone is born straight, they then make the choice to be curious and experiment. So remember that you aways have a choice. Just make the RIGHT ONE, stay straight!
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    I fantasize about girls but sometimes a random guy pops into the scene...


    "Examine your recent behaviour with your friends"
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    I wouldn't say it's sexually determined. If you can imagine yourself falling in love with whatever sex, then you're attracted to them. Lots of people are sexually flexible, but could only fall in love with one sex - and I;d say the sex that you could fall in love with determines whether you are gay or straight.
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    (Original post by Urkel)
    So you chose to be straight? And you could choose to be attracted to other women?
    Learn to read, i said we are all born straight, then we choose later on in life when certain people start getting curious and experimenting. Their will isn't as strong as the average straight persons in regards to all this.

    I hope you aren't one of those people who thinks it all happens by magic? Every choice we make and every thing we do is a resuly of ourselve picking and choosing mentally. All of this exludes being born straight. Can't say i've ever seen a gay toddler or under 10 before which makes this all the more plausible.

    Born straight, then people choose if they want simple. there is nothing to debate about it's as simple as that.

    Scientist and the Catholitc Church wrote piece on acceptance and no proof about sexuality but that was just to get the homos off their backs blatantly!

    Opposite attraction is real.
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    (Original post by TheSownRose)
    Things like do they have a nice build, is their face and smile kind, is their voice pleasant to listen to, are their hands soft and free from callouses..?

    It's a lot harder to describe the difference between physical and sexual than emotional and sexual; lots of people have experienced being attracted to people emotionally but having no chemistry, so sexuals (which 99% of the population are, so odds on that's who you're trying to explain it to) can understand that you don't need one for the other to exist ... but the difference between physical and sexual are much thinner and people tend to think if you find someone physically attractive you want to have sex with them, even if just on some base instinct.

    Getting a grip of, "I can find you physically attractive without being sexually attracted you," is much harder and not something as many people feel, although some do - these are far easier to explain it to. Does it make sense to you?
    Complete sense - I think stunning girls are stunning, but not sexually attractive - they're too intimidating with their perfect skin and make-up, etc.

    I think you'd get better results if you used the word "aesthetics" rather than "physical"
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    (Original post by Arekkusu)
    Complete sense - I think stunning girls are stunning, but not sexually attractive - they're too intimidating with their perfect skin and make-up, etc.

    I think you'd get better results if you used the word "aesthetics" rather than "physical"
    Glad to hear that. Not many people acknowledge the different.

    It's not purely aesthetic, though - things like voice and walk are included.
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    1) Google.com
    2) Type Naked guys, look
    3) Type naked girls, look
    4) Determine which one you like most
    5) Determine if you are just saying naked girls as your choice in order to get attention, if this is the case, go back to step 2.
    6)If guys, then you are straight, if girls, you are a lesbian, if some combination of the two, you are bisexual

    You are welcome
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    I'm probably asexual, so I shouldn't even be commenting on this, but if you get aroused by lesbian porn it sounds to me like you're bisexual. Why are you worried? For a start, it gives you the other 50% of the population to date.
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    I read somewhere that for women sexuality is alot harder to know, simply because the connection between their brain and their genitals isn't as strong as it is with men. F.e, I have no idea whether this is true or not, but I read that during rape alot of women become physically but not mentally aroused, and the physical reaction is merely a reactionary one to ensure lubicration and decrease pain, despite the fact they're not in reality aroused mentally. Either way, I don't know if it's true or not, but it's interesting nonetheless.
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    Apparently Lesbian porn arouses both men and women so ignore that.

    You're prob straight
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    (Original post by TheSownRose)
    Glad to hear that. Not many people acknowledge the different.

    It's not purely aesthetic, though - things like voice and walk are included.
    I don't know if I'm asexual, though, I love the idea of sex but when it comes to the crunch it all seems like a bloody big palaver. I might just be a sexophobe.
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    (Original post by tieyourmotherdown)
    I read somewhere that for women sexuality is alot harder to know, simply because the connection between their brain and their genitals isn't as strong as it is with men. F.e, I have no idea whether this is true or not, but I read that during rape alot of women become physically but not mentally aroused, and the physical reaction is merely a reactionary one to ensure lubicration and decrease pain, despite the fact they're not in reality aroused mentally. Either way, I don't know if it's true or not, but it's interesting nonetheless.
    But I can equally get hard without being mentally aroused, exclusively in embarrassing public situations of course.

    Barring mitigating circumstances such as anxiety or too many quad-vods, it is pretty consistent the other way round mind you.

    So it seems, OP, that you should define your sexuality based not on what makes you wet but on what makes your heart race.
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    (Original post by Arekkusu)
    I don't know if I'm asexual, though, I love the idea of sex but when it comes to the crunch it all seems like a bloody big palaver. I might just be a sexophobe.
    Asexual doesn't necessarily mean you don't like sex, though - just that you don't find anyone sexually attractive.

    Do you?
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    (Original post by TheSownRose)
    Asexual doesn't necessarily mean you don't like sex, though - just that you don't find anyone sexually attractive.

    Do you?
    Yeah, less so these days than when I was a teen, but yeah. Obviously I'm just a sexophobe then.
 
 
 
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