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    (Original post by Paint-a-Picture)
    get over it.
    this is exactly - word for word and punctiation-wise (no capital letter, full stop) - what i was going to write

    so do it.
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    (Original post by Roxas13)
    I can't tell whether your being sarcastic or not but from personal experience i can tell you it's possible.
    No,no I agree.
    I'm kinda like this too.
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    (Original post by renjie)
    loser
    :rofl:
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    (Original post by mojojojo17)
    I think being friends is definitely possible; it just takes an extremely long time to get back to how you were. I know that's not much help, but as long as you are both wanting to be friends, there should be no major problems :-]
    Can be possible, sometimes can't.

    I lost one of the best friends I ever had because I stupidly fancied her for about 3 years, told her and well, er...didn't work out. She didn't take it well at all.
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    (Original post by Benjita21)
    "I really like you, but I like you as a friend. You are an awesome guy: incredibly smart and really funny, but for me just a perfect buddy "

    Clearly, she does not feel the same way. I'm just wondering if anyone has been in a similar position and any advice. Is being friends possible?

    Steve
    move on, plenty more clunge in the sea bro
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    (Original post by ArcaneAnna)
    Cos being mates is poss.

    been in that situation before, ie having to tell the guy we're just mates- and well...we are best mates now.
    He still feels the same way towards me, but we've established that it'll never happend, hence friends is good.
    why don't you just put out, your torturing the poor guy surely a cheeky bj wouldnt hurt?!
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    (Original post by Benjita21)
    "I really like you, but I like you as a friend. You are an awesome guy: incredibly smart and really funny, but for me just a perfect buddy "

    Clearly, she does not feel the same way. I'm just wondering if anyone has been in a similar position and any advice. Is being friends possible?

    Steve
    Story of my life OP....i get this or something like this from every single girl i have ever liked

    I don't want to ever hear it again!

    i'm 21 and not getting anywhere and nothing is changing, its disheartening and makes you feel ugly and worthless as anything

    It's also scary to feel i could be in the same boat in 10 years...20 years

    I have seen down and outs around here with no women in their lives, in their 40s and it strikes fear into me...it does happen.
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    (Original post by joey h)
    why don't you just put out, your torturing the poor guy surely a cheeky bj wouldnt hurt?!
    Errrr....no.

    I'm not gonna get physical with someone just because they like me. It's gotta be mutual.
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    Become a comically disguised super hero, win her heart by doing dashing acts of goodwill, and THEN reveal your identity and BOOM
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    The bane of every nerd's life.
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    (Original post by ArcaneAnna)
    Errrr....no.

    I'm not gonna get physical with someone just because they like me. It's gotta be mutual.
    oh chill out doll, its only a willy- you don't like a sausage but you nosh on that!
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    (Original post by joey h)
    oh chill out doll, its only a willy- you don't like a sausage but you nosh on that!
    Harr-harr-harr.
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    (Original post by 8086)
    Get her out of your life. She thinks you are not good enough for her. You don't need people like that, they will lie to your face and tell you what you want to hear but they won't be sincere about it. Find someone who is.
    What? From what he wrote you cannot possibly come to such a conclusion. She doesn't like him in that way, too bad. At least she was honest and told him instead of leading him on. If they agree to stay friends and he still keeps his hopes up then it's his problem if he can't get over it. If he thinks he's not capable of being just a friends he should just stop hanging out with her. But dissing a girl just because she doesn't like him is utterly immature.
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    1st lesson, don't tell chicks/guys (if you're gay) (and girls don't tell guys) that you like them. It makes it way too serious early on and puts too much pressure on your friendship/early relationship.

    (Original post by Wilzyy)
    typical girl
    I would be put off too if someone told me that they liked me in that way. Why make it so definite on something that really takes time to judge.


    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That's it! I really couldn't be bothered waiting for you anymore.

    Don't bother speaking to me again!

    And stop PMing me on Facebook with your problems. I don't care now, and I never actually did care.

    Dude, now you're just being immature. Also, this over Student Room? I'm not surprised she didn't go for it.

    By the way, it's a bit late now for Anon. EDIT: Okay, well it said you were the thread starter...
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    (Original post by Ireth00)
    What? From what he wrote you cannot possibly come to such a conclusion. She doesn't like him in that way, too bad. At least she was honest and told him instead of leading him on. If they agree to stay friends and he still keeps his hopes up then it's his problem if he can't get over it. If he thinks he's not capable of being just a friends he should just stop hanging out with her. But dissing a girl just because she doesn't like him is utterly immature.
    Agree entirely. She was very clear and did not lead me at all. I just wish the answer had been different. Time to move on. I have not dissed her, we will remain friends.
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    (Original post by Breedlove)
    1st lesson, don't tell chicks/guys (if you're gay) (and girls don't tell guys) that you like them. It makes it way too serious early on and puts too much pressure on your friendship/early relationship.



    I would be put off too if someone told me that they liked me in that way. Why make it so definite on something that really takes time to judge.

    Depends how it was said. Obviously people tell people they like them so that something can begin to develop. However if it was said in a really needy/demanding way= very offputting.
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    (Original post by Benjita21)
    "I really like you, but I like you as a friend. You are an awesome guy: incredibly smart and really funny, but for me just a perfect buddy "
    To be honest? If she really said these very words, it sounds like she PRACTISED this reply in the HOPE that she could use it on you.

    If so, she is really shallow, immature and into personal drama. Note: she might still be a nice girl and a good friend; nobody is perfect.

    But don't run after her.
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    (Original post by llys)
    To be honest? If she really said these very words, it sounds like she PRACTISED this reply in the HOPE that she could use it on you.

    If so, she is really shallow, immature and into personal drama. Note: she might still be a nice girl and a good friend; nobody is perfect.

    But don't run after her.

    Cheers. Those were her words. I don't really understand why this makes her shallow or immature though...
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    (Original post by ArcaneAnna)
    Errrr....no.

    I'm not gonna get physical with someone just because they like me. It's gotta be mutual.
    typical feminist
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    (Original post by Wilzyy)
    Depends how it was said. Obviously people tell people they like them so that something can begin to develop. However if it was said in a really needy/demanding way= very offputting.
    Not at all, people can just flirt and build a relationship easily without ever openly saying that they like them. Actions speak loud than words whilst regaining a sense of unsureness and mystery that is required to keep a relationship going. Otherwise there is no interest, the battle has been decided before it has begun.

    Speak volumes with actions, words can often be meaningless or too definite and it is clear that TS is nowhere near a stage where any sort of definition is needed.
 
 
 
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