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    Really, this is what happens to all relationships. You cannot expect a relationship to constantly be what is was at the beginning. My relationship with my husband is completly different now to when we first met; but it's more about comfort, about being each others family, and I prefer it this way.
    When you're in a strong lasting relationship, it's not about making effort all the time and constantly doing "fun stuff, it's about realising that you're part of each other's life and that for plently of the time, life is just mundane day to day things. Of course you have fun etc sometimes (travelling, gigs, meals out etc...) but they cannot be a constant thing. Eventually life takes over.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anyone else sometimes feel like this? Like, I sometimes feel as if my boyfriend would make more effort if he fancied me from afar and had to work to get me. Sometimes, it just feels like because he's 'got' me he doesn't need to put in as much effort. For example, he's just gone to play Fifa after telling me he feels too ill to stay up chatting to me, hahaa. Not a problem, but I know he wouldn't have done that if he didn't 'have' me.
    Stop paying attention to him as much, go out with your friends instead of seeing him, let him call you, and when he does, tell him you're too busy to talk.

    Seems manipulative, but boy does it work.
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    (Original post by dita_parlo)
    Really, this is what happens to all relationships. You cannot expect a relationship to constantly be what is was at the beginning. My relationship with my husband is completly different now to when we first met; but it's more about comfort, about being each others family, and I prefer it this way.
    When you're in a strong lasting relationship, it's not about making effort all the time and constantly doing "fun stuff, it's about realising that you're part of each other's life and that for plently of the time, life is just mundane day to day things. Of course you have fun etc sometimes (travelling, gigs, meals out etc...) but they cannot be a constant thing. Eventually life takes over.
    I think you are right, but where do you draw the line?

    It is not that I (for example) want constant excitement and infatuation from my boyfriend. I would just like some day to day affection. To not be ignored. It makes me feel bad. Sometimes I feel worse after seeing him than if I had just stayed at home.

    Yes the more I think about it the more I think we should have a talk or more than just a talk, I need an intervention! I need to think of some positive thing that will change the situation.

    I worry that it is some basic form of incompatibility . Sometimes he is lovely. We're great if we are doing some group activity with other people, then we gel really well and have lots of fun, we are like a team. But when we are alone together it's just so stale.

    The group thing makes me think maybe there is a chance for us if we can learn to be more like that all of the time.
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    (Original post by Roobsa)
    You're not a gamer, are you?
    Yeah I am! Not Fifa though. I like the Halo games and dead space, also RTS games for the computer, you know like Supreme Commander, Starcraft 2 etc?

    Do you mean because you get distracted? It's fun though.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anyone else sometimes feel like this? Like, I sometimes feel as if my boyfriend would make more effort if he fancied me from afar and had to work to get me. Sometimes, it just feels like because he's 'got' me he doesn't need to put in as much effort. For example, he's just gone to play Fifa after telling me he feels too ill to stay up chatting to me, hahaa. Not a problem, but I know he wouldn't have done that if he didn't 'have' me.
    same thing happened to me.....break up with him :closedeyes:
 
 
 
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