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    Basically because the two people want different things, be it materially, emotionally, spiritually, sexually, intellectually, whatever.

    If the two people's needs are so different that any attempt to compromise is destined for failure, then the relationship will break down. Sometimes the differences are obvious immediately, sometimes it takes a few years for the problem to become clear. The important thing is to address it when in does, because it won't go away by itself. It's always better sorting out a problem while you are still dating rather than finding it re-emerging 100 times stronger when you are married with kids.
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    Relationships do work, they just take a lot of effort and trust..
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    Think about it. There are six billion people in the world. What are the chances that any given two of them are compatible enough romantically, sexually, emotionally, mentally, etc. to want to spend their whole lives together? It's simple - the odds just aren't that good.
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    Especially at the age of most people on this forum, men/women aren't willing to commit to one man/woman for the rest of their life.

    (Original post by Pink Bullets)
    Think about it. There are six billion people in the world. What are the chances that any given two of them are compatible enough romantically, sexually, emotionally, mentally, etc. to want to spend their whole lives together? It's simple - the odds just aren't that good.
    That's quite flawed logic actually. There are 6 billion people in the world, but not all of them are available to any one person for a relationship. For example, a straight man will only be intrerested in girls, that leaves 3 billion people. But he won't be interested in all these females- some will be too young, some too old. Narrowing it down more. Then some will be relatives, some will be people he'd never consider (unfortunately some will have, for example, a terminal illness and he'd probably never consider her), and some will already be taken. Then you narrow it down to personal taste- he might not be attracted to some. Then you have to think, how many of the possible females he'd be attracted to in the world will he ever meet? He's probably going to live in one country in his life, he may go on holiday but the likely "catchment" (for want of a better word) area of the girl he'll spend the rest of his life with eventually will be his own city and to narrow it down even more, probably a very small radius of a few miles.

    So if you think of it like that, it doesn't come down to likelihood. With any two people in a relationship you've already cut out all statistical unlikelihoods.
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    (Original post by Jessaay!)
    Especially at the age of most people on this forum, men/women aren't willing to commit to one man/woman for the rest of their life.



    That's quite flawed logic actually. There are 6 billion people in the world, but not all of them are available to any one person for a relationship. For example, a straight man will only be intrerested in girls, that leaves 3 billion people. But he won't be interested in all these females- some will be too young, some too old. Narrowing it down more. Then some will be relatives, some will be people he'd never consider (unfortunately some will have, for example, a terminal illness and he'd probably never consider her), and some will already be taken. Then you narrow it down to personal taste- he might not be attracted to some. Then you have to think, how many of the possible females he'd be attracted to in the world will he ever meet? He's probably going to live in one country in his life, he may go on holiday but the likely "catchment" (for want of a better word) area of the girl he'll spend the rest of his life with eventually will be his own city and to narrow it down even more, probably a very small radius of a few miles.

    So if you think of it like that, it doesn't come down to likelihood. With any two people in a relationship you've already cut out all statistical unlikelihoods.
    Um, the number of people in the world wasn't really the main point of that.
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    (Original post by Pink Bullets)
    Um, the number of people in the world wasn't really the main point of that.
    Well, I'm sorry, but it certainly made it sound like it. If you could, it'd be nice if you could enlighten us as to what you actually meant, otherwise your point didn't exactly come across. And also, the chance doesn't really come into it, as I said, once you've found someone you're matched to enough to start a relationship, it's not about anyone else, but whether you can captivate them enough to want them to keep you in their lives. For any guy, there may be a better girl out there, and visa versa, but sometimes they don't want to find them.
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    Sometimes love just isn't enough to keep people together or to make a relationship work long term and people drift apart... there are a million and one reasons why relationships that seem perfect from an outsiders perspective could break down; though I'd be inclined to suggest boredom would be the main issue, tbh.
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    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    the relationship being too one-sided.
    ah this sounds rather familiar, most commonly with the male having a bit too much power wouldn't you say? Resulting in an extremely headf***ing situation. Which is why things are changing tomorrow . Let the games begin. Unfortunately.
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    (Original post by I'm Rachel)
    ah this sounds rather familiar, most commonly with the male having a bit too much power wouldn't you say? Resulting in an extremely headf***ing situation. Which is why things are changing tomorrow . Let the games begin. Unfortunately.
    In some cases it is guys but in other cases it is girls.
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    because sometimes people just give up. You can claim to be in love, but you still have to work very hard, and some people just aren't up for the task.
 
 
 
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