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    When then "accidentally unintentionally" stop shagging him then!
    • #2

    OP, I was in the same situation with you; he was scared to get close whereas I knew pretty much as soon as I knew him that I wanted to be with him. We decided to be sensible, became very very close friends, it got sexual when there was attraction and then it was a sort of friends with benefits situation for a long time. I was hurt a lot during that time - every time a gesture of affection was rejected, it really really stung, and I doubted myself and wondered what I was doing. Everyone just assumed we were going out and over that time he got much closer to me and it became clear that we both wanted to be with each other - and now I couldn't be happier. I'm aware that it doesn't work this way for everyone, but I just wanted to make you aware that it doesn't have to end badly.
    • #3

    Been there

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been seeing this guy for quite a few months. I feel really strongly for him and care a lot about him - i fell hard and fast.

    He didn't/doesn't feel the same.

    It was ok for a while in the early days because we were both on the same page but now that i've really fallen for him it's horrible. We've gone way past the point where any other normal couple would be an actual couple by now. But we're not, because he doesn't want to be.

    He's tried to tell me that it's because he's too scared to let people get that close to him, but I don't believe that at all any more.

    I've tried to walk away (twice) because it hurts so much, but both times have failed. I just can't walk away. I can't be without him.

    We've still got a sexual relationship. We still hang out. We still text and talk everyday.

    How am I supposed to walk away from him???

    It hurts just as much being with him as it does being without him....
    do the opposite of walking away, convince him to have a relationship with you, i'm surprised no one suggested this
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