Original post by Neil_KI can understand you being frustrated and wanting to lose your virginity, that's perfectly normal. You'll get there don't worry....
Sometimes I win, sometimes I lose, sometimes I get rejected, sometimes I get the girl. That's how this whole 'game' works (I hate the term 'game', but you know what I mean).
I couldn't put or percentage on mine or anyone else's 'success rate', but what I'll say is I can go out any day of the week either in the daytime or to a bar or club, in any decent sized town or city, and I can approach any girls I like the look of and I can weed out which one's are interested in me from those who aren't. That's the point of Mode 1....it's the fastest and most efficient way to weed out which girls are attracted to you sexually, and which ones aren't.
I usually do ok whenever I go out and am happy with my success rate over the years, and I'll match my 'game' against anyone. Ultimately, what matters is YOUR success rate, though, so start getting out there and meeting girls!
My advice to you is simply to get out there and start approaching Mode 1...the results will take care of themselves.
Most of the girls I've pulled in recent years have come from daytime approaches. I've spent more time doing daytime approaches than bar/club approaches in recent years, so obviously I've gotten better averages from daytime approaches.
You can do well in either environment, though, it just depends which you prefer best.
Well it's important to look a girl right in the eyes when you first approach her, yes. I don't wait for a girl to give me eye contact or a 'sign' BEFORE I approach generally...though if I'm walking around and I catch a girl 'checking me out' (in the subtle and sneaky way women do), then you can bet your life I'll be straight over there to talk to her. But ordinarily I just walk over to whoever I like the look of, whether they are walking or not, and look her in the eye and just let them know I think they're attractive and I go from there.
It's easier to make eye contact with a girl before you approach if she's walking towards you in the street, but if she's walking in front of you and all you can see is her backside, you want to get alongside her first.
No, not everyone stops, but that said, I very rarely get girls brushing me off and not stopping to talk to me these days, because I'm experienced enough to be able to get their attention in the right way.
No, in the past I have been Mode 2, Mode 3 and Mode 4. I didn't used to be particularly good with women in my teens and early 20s.
I am, however, almost ALWAYS Mode 1 when I approach a girl I'm attracted to these days!
Nobody is born good with women....you have to work at it, and in fact most of the guys in history who were really good with women LEARNED this stuff and were not born that way.
It doesn't matter where you are now....it's only where you want to go that matters. And Mode 1 is your golden ticket out of being bad with women, so start applying it soon as you can.
I wouldn't think so. When it comes to clubs, I've noticed a few things. There is a difference in general attitude and type of women who you'll meet depending on which night of the week you go out. For example, if you want to meet student girl in the 18 to 22 range approx, go out to a student night on a monday, weds or thurs night. If you want to meet women who are 25-35, or even older, then go out on a friday or saturday night....obviously this makes sense, because the women who go out on the weekends only go out on a friday and saturday night because they're working during the week.
It can be pretty easy to pull women who are in the 25 to 35 year old age range, particularly if they are single or maybe recently divorced and on the prowl. See, once most women get past 25 and haven't met someone decent yet, they start get
getting a bit desperate and are easy as pie to pull. Same applies to recently divorced women...they will want to know they're still attractive and desirable to men, so all you have to do is compliment them and talk to them and you're in with these women.
As for student girls, there's a lot of them who have 'never had a boyfriend' or are still horny virgin and up for some good sex, so you should do ok at the student nights too.
But as for alternative nights vs mainstream clubs, I've never found any real difference in terms of being able to pull. If anything, I've had less success in alternative type places simply because I would go there for the music rather than to pull. But you can pull in either....the Mode 1 principles apply equally to both.
The only thing I'd say about clubs is AVOID the trendy, expensive, upmarket clubs with VIP areas and that. These attract a lot of REALLY SHALLOW, superficial type women who will just use you for attention and free drinks but won't put out. Stick to the normal, more down to earth clubs.
Myself, although I rarely go to nightclubs as much these days, I'd definitely prefer a student night in the week rather than the weekends. There's less trouble, less fights and more of a fun vibe on those nights too.
Nobody cares and nobody will even notice if you're on your own. Unless you stand in the corner holding your drink with a miserable look on your face, nobody will know you're there alone.
And besides, what's so bad about being in a club by yourself? You're there TO MEET PEOPLE (specifically GIRLS) and hopefully get laid, so you don't need to invite all 'the lads' with you.
I feel perfectly comfortable going to bars and clubs alone. It has NEVER been a problem or an issue for me. Nobody has EVER asked me if I'm out alone or who I'm with etc. Never ever. And if they did, I'd be honest and tell them I'm alone and that I came out tonight to meet a girl to take home with me because I'm horny and want to get laid.
It really isn't an issue. As long as you are approaching people as soon as you get in and enjoying yourself, nobody will notice or care that you're there alone.
Plus, after you've been there once alone and approached some girls and maybe made a few guys friends too, the next time you go there you'll bump into some people you met first time round and you'll look you are the life and soul of the party because people will be talking to and approaching you!
It takes guts and balls to get started....but once you do, you'll never look back. It does actually get quite addictive to go out to meet girls, and the thrill of Mode 1 approaches is quite a buzz.
It's like jumping out of a plane on a parachuting jump....first time, you're **** scared, but the 2nd, 3rd and 4th times etc you CAN'T WAIT to jump out. Same applies with approaching girls.
If you need to have a few drinks on your night out before you approach, then by all means do...just don't get too drunk though, just slightly 'oiled'. After a while you'll be able to approach whether you've had a drink or not. Of course, stay sober in the daytime at your local shopping mall though!