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    Same thing happened with me and my boyfriend. He tried, I tried (inc. with my mouth), just wasn't happening. We wasted maybe 5/6 condoms on the occassions we tried. I think we were both just a bit nervous, and unexperienced. Unfortunately I don't have any advice for you, as we decided that at first we'd not use condoms (we were both virgins and I was on the pill) just until we got used to it, although by that stage it became too easy...and we never did have sex with a condom. I wanted to use them for his benefit rather than mine, as I assumed he'd need to use them in the future so he should get used to it, kind of felt bad but not much I can do about it now lol

    Why the neg? I don't understand this forum
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    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    Don't let it bruise you
    OP has no choice but to listen to this advice; floppys don't tend to catch an injury like a hard boner does.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Me and my girlfriend were going to have sex yesterday, but we didn't because I lost my erection when I put the condom on. I'm so embarrassed and what little confidence I had has really been shaken...

    I really want to have sex with her, and so does she with me (to the extent that she's become slightly paranoid I lost it because of her) but I just can't seem to get past the condom stage without losing my wood!

    I played it slow and tried to build up to it, but I guess I was always worried about not pleasing her, as she's had 4 other sexual partners and 4 other, more experienced, frames of reference to which I will be compared to.

    I love her so much and really want her to enjoy it. I've made her *** before, if it makes any difference.

    Can anyone offer me any advice on the matter? Any similar experiences?

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    The reason for this is anxiety. As soon as you put the condom on it broke your flow and you started being conscious of your actions/how it was feeling (doing something different will do that). All that blood flowing to your brain and muscles, right?

    Just have to be a bit militant about it. Have a **** or three into a condom and you should be good to go. Generally if you're having trouble at any sexual stage I would advise going cold turkey on everything else for a week in favour of practising the new skill. Eventually horniness will get you over the hump.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Me and my girlfriend were going to have sex yesterday, but we didn't because I lost my erection when I put the condom on. I'm so embarrassed and what little confidence I had has really been shaken...

    I really want to have sex with her, and so does she with me (to the extent that she's become slightly paranoid I lost it because of her) but I just can't seem to get past the condom stage without losing my wood!

    I played it slow and tried to build up to it, but I guess I was always worried about not pleasing her, as she's had 4 other sexual partners and 4 other, more experienced, frames of reference to which I will be compared to.

    I love her so much and really want her to enjoy it. I've made her *** before, if it makes any difference.

    Can anyone offer me any advice on the matter? Any similar experiences?

    Cheers
    This happened to me and my boyf the first time we tried to have sex. And for about 2 months afterwards.

    It was pretty awful and I felt really unattractive, but really, the reason why he was having problems was because he was nervous, and then he got more nervous in case he lost it and it was just a huge vicious circle.

    Speak to her about how you feel, that you love her and just want to make her feel good. Make sure she knows that it's not because she's not attractive - yeh, she probably knows but she could be feeling insecure about it. If she loves you too she won't mind that you're having problems because you're worried about pleasing her.

    Then just chillax. Don't force sex, don't set a special time/place/whatever. just let it happen when it happens, that way you won't have time to build up too much nervousness. Buy some extra thin condoms. And yeh...just try not to worry about it happening again, or about whether you'll be any good.
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    lost my wood too, embarassing ****.
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    Take some viagra, should solve the problem.
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    pop a blue pill neo you will feel reinvigorated
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    Is she a munter?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Not insecure about my penis, not really my body, she didn't stare or anything lol. I was fine RIGHT up until I put my hand in the draw and got the condom out - it immediately starting going and she had to get me going again, for me to lose it again when putting it on.

    I think I'm most worried about being rubbish or ironically... losing my erection.
    Got a picture of you slapping your **** telling it to wake the **** up and you're ****ting yourself because of it. Lol.
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    you need to do better than that
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    i think
    ur thinking too much.
    dont talk too much.
    just enjoy.

    8 is nothing...
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    (Original post by make-cookies-not-war)
    Why the neg? I don't understand this forum
    +repd you because of the ********s on this forum.

    But yeah, try Viagra mate?
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    (Original post by damos92)
    OP has no choice but to listen to this advice; floppys don't tend to catch an injury like a hard boner does.
    :rofl::rofl::rofl: haha too funny
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    No excuse for a floppy **** lad, none whatsoever. Hang your head in shame.
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    (Original post by edd360)
    Tell her to put the condom on with her mouth, or arse.
    Virgin comment. WHEEEEEEEEEY.
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    A regular occurence when your girlfriend is a bit on the minging side.

    Try sex without a condom lad.
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    pffft bull**** did she take it personally. A "OMG I CAN GET LOADS OF COMPLIMENTS" thought process if i ever saw one!
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    (Original post by Tomac)
    +repd you because of the ********s on this forum.
    N'awww thanks
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    (Original post by make-cookies-not-war)
    N'awww thanks
    You're welcomed!
    Just wanted to be nice
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    This reminds me of the hilarious bit in Inbetweeners where Simon starts slapping his ****, almost savagely.
 
 
 
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