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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not at university, but I do know exactly what you mean. I have always had social issues. I find it easy to make friends as I am approachable and kind, but I find it hard to keep friends (as in, after a while I realise qualities in most people that I can't accept - such as finding animal cruelty funny, or bullying)

    Sadly such things are just a part of life, and I find the easiest way to be happy is to find contentment within yourself. Be your own friend. Just explore, learn to love and appreciate yourself, and others will probably learn to appreciate you too
    There's only so much loving that you're right hand can give out before it gets boring .
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    enjoy the freedom of being your own man, trust me having many friends is overrated. just stick with those 2 close to you
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    Been there done that. Not fun.

    The best advice I can give is that there is someone out there you will get on with, although you will have to meet a lot of other people first. Working out how to have a social life from first principles is by no means easy but given some trial and error you get used to it. It takes a lot of hard work and a lot of mistakes but it's worth it in the end.

    The problem is that unless you are very lucky you will have to take the lead in most of these situations. You need the hide of a rhino for when you inevitably mess up but you will get there in the end. Join societies and, importantly, go to the events they offer.

    But I know that well meant advice never helps on a lonely evening spent in front of the interwebs. Put up with it, make plans and then put them into action when you get the chance .

    Don't feel like going out and getting sloshed is the only thing you can do socially, it has its place but you have to find the people you enjoy spending time with first and then *invite them out*.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have like two close friends and I'm sick of seeing them ALL the time.
    two close friends is more than most people have, maybe you should learn to appreciate them
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    chat to a person. open up your feelings, interests and the interesting bits of your life story to 1-2 more friends. before you know it, these guys/girls sit next to you and chat with you and thats how friends are made .
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    :console: Stop moaning and do something about it.
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    Same here, recently moved city to find a new job, dont have much money to go out, and work/revise all the time, hopefully soon I will go out more.

    Think of all the other lonely people out there, and think of your loneliness as a syptom of chemical imbalances as well. Like dont identify with it instead of Im lonely. There is a feeling of isolation and wanting company at this moment.

    Check out rsdnation.com, and go out to nightclubs/ choose events as much as possible.

    Make moves, take risks, be willing to fail with meeting people.

    Good luck.
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    (Original post by ranbow99)
    And don't worry about the girlfriend, it will happen first be happy and confident in yourself and a girl will come when you least expect it.
    Not true, you have to go out there and MAKE it happen, the opportunity won't just present itself out there. The OP needs to make an effort to meet girls and have the bravery to ask them out.
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    (Original post by Pheylan)
    taking the intuitive what?
    Predictive text.
    Initiative.
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    (Original post by turbo64)
    Not true, you have to go out there and MAKE it happen, the opportunity won't just present itself out there. The OP needs to make an effort to meet girls and have the bravery to ask them out.
    not necessarily, although I suppose in the majority of cases the guy does have to take the initiative there is a chance that a girl will be attracted to him and make the effort without him having to do a whole lot.
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    So ronery and sadry arone. There's no-one, just me onry, sitting on my rittle throne.
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    (Original post by CapnHooch)
    By just getting out there and meeting people.
    There's no way you can just get friends without taking the intuitive.
    Initiative :lol: Yes, true
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    (Original post by Flying Cookie)
    Initiative :lol: Yes, true
    I'm human :P
    Oh, and predictive text sucks.
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    (Original post by Pheylan)
    taking the intuitive what?
    Malapropism, presumably.
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    (Original post by ranbow99)
    Just get out there and make it happen! No use telling a bunch of strangers on the internet about it, when you should be out there making friends.
    And don't worry about the girlfriend, it will happen first be happy and confident in yourself and a girl will come when you least expect it.
    I agree with this 100%

    Although im 18 and never had a GF, but i'm not too botheed about it anymore
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    If your friends have other friends, latch the **** on, my man. Godspeed.
 
 
 
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