Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free

Girlfriend - Golddigger Experiment. Watch

    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by there's too much love)
    Yeah, communication isn't what we need, but instead devious tests, that'll help the relationship along!
    To be fair to OP, I would like to say this but I conducted experiments to figure out exactly how much, in monetary values, my friends and family value my companionship.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by XmasFoodChallenge)
    How about a bf AND a (karma sutra) book? :sexface:

    You're alright :dry:.
    Offline

    17
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Hopple)
    How would you communicate that you thought your partner was a gold digger? If they are, get offended and storm off, that's fine. But what if they aren't, and get offended? Worth finding out first, no?
    Perhaps start with something along the lines of "I have to be honest with you, I feel a bit miffed that we both spend very different amounts on presents. I'm a lot harder up then you are and you spend a lot less than me on presents. I'll try to just get over past issues but in future I think we need to set an agreed range in how much we're allowed and not allowed to spend on each other? I'm sorry this is such an issue for me but I just have this really uneasy feeling. "
    You know, a logical approach to things.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by ily_em)
    Did you discuss how much you were (roughly) going to spend before Christmas? That could have reduced the difference.

    How much have you spent in the past on each other?

    Also, what were the presents? Was hers more thoughtful than the box of chocs and stationary you're planning on giving her, despite the £10 price tag?




    :eek: £150 was what I spent on everyone put together!

    Can't say I even spent that.
    Offline

    17
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by TheSownRose)
    To be fair to OP, I would like to say this but I conducted experiments to figure out exactly how much, in monetary values, my friends and family value my companionship.
    Is that "to be fair to the OP" or "I've done similar things"?
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    OP, you should probably check if she's messing with any broke n*****s. Kanye is rarely wrong about such matters.
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by there's too much love)
    Is that "to be fair to the OP" or "I've done similar things"?
    It's more to not be hypocritical.
    Offline

    14
    ReputationRep:
    Best thread I have read on TSR, ever. Thanks for making me entertained, I wish more people who posts thread were interesting like you.

    No you're not a horrible person.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    Men, this is the first time ive read a thread on tsr and wanted more.
    Anyway i dont think you are going about it the right way, although it sounds interesting.
    Keep us posted in a few weeks time about her reaction. Id come back on tsr in a months time, hopefully you'd have kept us updated :holmes:
    Offline

    17
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by TheSownRose)
    It's more to not be hypocritical.
    Ah so you decided that because you've done it it's not so bad instead of assessing if it's good or bad.

    I keep reading your user name as "the snow rose". In fact I've done that for several months and only just realised now. Whoops.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    What was the £10 present?
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by there's too much love)
    Ah so you decided that because you've done it it's not so bad instead of assessing if it's good or bad.

    I keep reading your user name as "the snow rose". In fact I've done that for several months and only just realised now. Whoops.
    I haven't done exactly this method - doubt it'll work quite as well as my method, because he's helped by having Christmas so close.

    Yeah, people do. That or call me TSR, which is highly confusing. :p:
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    *subscribes*

    Sorry i gave my bf of 7months 3weeks socks bookends and a drawing of him. So errr...yeah.


    Just wanna pick up some tips :dontknow:
    • Offline

      13
      (Original post by DJkG.1)
      Btw, are you by any chance an English student?! :p:
      No, male English students are typically romantic and wouldn't do something like an experiment on their girlfriend.

      If anything, I'm willing to bet the OP is studying Psychology/Philosophy. :p:

      OP: go for it! Tell us the results and what happens. :yep:
      Offline

      10
      ReputationRep:
      No, you're a smart man.
      Offline

      2
      ReputationRep:
      (Original post by Anonymous)
      This Christmas I spent £100 on my girlfriend. We've been together a substantial amount of time, over 2 years, and as a debt ridden, poor student, it's the most I could afford.

      On her part, she spent roughly £10 on me.

      We are from similar financial backgrounds and are slightly supported by family, but her personal finances are sailing in calm black seas, while mine dress in tarty red and go flirting with the bank manager every month.

      I know it's the thought that counts, I know money doesn't mean much, love conquers all, but I can't help feeling just a slightest bit peeved that I scrapped my pennies off the floor to make her Christmas, yet she (seriously) spent as much on her cat's birthday last month than she has on me.

      I feel like I might be being taken for a ride, in which I merrily sit astride Santa's sleigh throwing out gifts, and in return **** Dastardly pulls up alongside for Muttley to crap in my sack.

      Immoral as it may be, I've decided to run a small experiment. Her birthday arrives in a couple of weeks, and unlike last year where she received a new necklace and matching ear rings, this year I'm getting her a single box of chocs and maybe some stationary, just to gauge her reaction, and admittedly, savour a small bitter sweet nugget flavoured with the mildest revenge. Mostly to see what happens though.

      Am I a horrible person?
      Seems to me that you hold some grudge because she spent a "little" amount of money on you. How cheap is your relationship that you value it on terms of how much money you spend on her? :rolleyes: That's a bit childish. If you want to know my opinion, communication is the key and the downfall of ANY relationship and this is something money cannot buy. Remember my words.
      Offline

      0
      ReputationRep:
      Test her by asking if she would fancy gang-bangs.
      Offline

      19
      ReputationRep:
      (Original post by SoulfulBoy)
      Seems to me that you hold some grudge because she spent a "little" amount of money on you. How cheap is your relationship that you value it on terms of how much money you spend on her? :rolleyes: That's a bit childish. If you want to know my opinion, communication is the key and the downfall of ANY relationship and this is something money cannot buy. Remember my words.
      Do you understand that it is the principle of the money in terms of the relationship and not the actual spending of either party that is the problem?
      Offline

      4
      ReputationRep:
      (Original post by there's too much love)
      Perhaps start with something along the lines of "I have to be honest with you, I feel a bit miffed that we both spend very different amounts on presents. I'm a lot harder up then you are and you spend a lot less than me on presents. I'll try to just get over past issues but in future I think we need to set an agreed range in how much we're allowed and not allowed to spend on each other? I'm sorry this is such an issue for me but I just have this really uneasy feeling. "
      You know, a logical approach to things.
      The OP's idea is logical too, it will determine what he wants to determine about his girlfriend. It also avoids potential awkwardness, and could be a bit of fun for him too.

      If it turns out that the girlfriend is a golddigger, your suggestion would then be the one making more sense since it would resolve the issue. The OP is finding out if there is an issue or not and his idea will do that just fine.
      Offline

      19
      ReputationRep:
      (Original post by DJkG.1)
      Btw, are you by any chance an English student?! :p:
      First thing I thought. It's funny how I'm starting to guess what people do in their degree's from their views/how they type on here. Most of the time it's right too.
     
     
     
    Reply
    Submit reply
    TSR Support Team

    We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

    Updated: December 28, 2010
  1. See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  2. Poll
    Will you be richer or poorer than your parents?
  3. See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  4. The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.